Christina Li
New Member
I have so many questions about child access.
I'm divorced for 4months and joint custody with care control to me. This few months is crazy for me as we are always on constant debating regarding the access.
1) he have access on 2 weekdays (4-9pm) and 1 weekend (2-9pm), have to give me advance notice of at least 24 hrs.
2) 2 travel trip per year up to 7 days each trip, inform one month ahead.
3) access on first day cny
4) access on child's actual birth date
My issue is we can never reach an amicable decision.
I always have to wait for him to tell me which weekday he bringing kid out. I can never plan in advance. Can I tell him which days I like to bring Kid out? or can I reject some of the day he request and ask him rework his schedule? What is my perimeters as care and control? I have no intention of refraining him to see his kid but I'm fed up that I have to keep waiting and follow his schedule and not able to make plans with My kid in advance. (He say I cannot plan, is he plan?!!? If I plan I restrict his access.)
Recently he brought kid overseas. Flight was on sun, so I tot I can spend the day with my kid on sat. He say no, trip is trip, weekend access is weekend access. Insist that sat is his and sun is also his. Then when back, I wanted pick kid up at airport since they reach back 7pm. He say no. Court order say he need to send back to residence and no time limit stated.
So cny this year falls on sat, then same he say sat is cny, sun is his again and Mon access again is his! Can I reject sun? I also wan spend time with kid.
Birthday same again. Say kid birthday is 28. he wants bring him overseas 24-29! Then I request for him to shift a day later so 24 sat I can celebrate earlier he say no he inform me way ahead already.
I seriously think court order is too brief with too many loopholes with such idiots. Is there anyway I can work this out? Lawyer? Redraft court order? I need know what I can do, so I don't turn crazy with constant debating like this.
I'm divorced for 4months and joint custody with care control to me. This few months is crazy for me as we are always on constant debating regarding the access.
1) he have access on 2 weekdays (4-9pm) and 1 weekend (2-9pm), have to give me advance notice of at least 24 hrs.
2) 2 travel trip per year up to 7 days each trip, inform one month ahead.
3) access on first day cny
4) access on child's actual birth date
My issue is we can never reach an amicable decision.
I always have to wait for him to tell me which weekday he bringing kid out. I can never plan in advance. Can I tell him which days I like to bring Kid out? or can I reject some of the day he request and ask him rework his schedule? What is my perimeters as care and control? I have no intention of refraining him to see his kid but I'm fed up that I have to keep waiting and follow his schedule and not able to make plans with My kid in advance. (He say I cannot plan, is he plan?!!? If I plan I restrict his access.)
Recently he brought kid overseas. Flight was on sun, so I tot I can spend the day with my kid on sat. He say no, trip is trip, weekend access is weekend access. Insist that sat is his and sun is also his. Then when back, I wanted pick kid up at airport since they reach back 7pm. He say no. Court order say he need to send back to residence and no time limit stated.
So cny this year falls on sat, then same he say sat is cny, sun is his again and Mon access again is his! Can I reject sun? I also wan spend time with kid.
Birthday same again. Say kid birthday is 28. he wants bring him overseas 24-29! Then I request for him to shift a day later so 24 sat I can celebrate earlier he say no he inform me way ahead already.
I seriously think court order is too brief with too many loopholes with such idiots. Is there anyway I can work this out? Lawyer? Redraft court order? I need know what I can do, so I don't turn crazy with constant debating like this.