Changes in husband during pregnancy

[Nattie369]

Hi all,

A FTM here, week 25 currently.. married about a year ago.. noticed the changes in my husband all these months after he knw I’m pregnant..

It’s quite a sensitive topic but I’m just looking for some comfort advices on how can I adjust my thoughts and all...

Husband is very caring no doubt and never missed a gynae visit so far.. but I just feel that he doesn’t find me attractive anymore, he denied whenever I asked but from his actions I somehow feel that way... like intimacy definitely reduced bcoz he said he is stressed and tired and don’t knw what’s wrong etc..but on the other hand I found out that he is so into sexy girls, big boobs, bikini etc... I felt so depressed looking into his insta and knw what kind of profiles he is following, of coz in his computer I found porns and all... I’m just thinking is it really becoz of the changes in my body that turn him down? If he is really so stressed about work and all and tired as he claimed why does he still so obsessed with sexy girls and all?

Finding a way out...
Miserable.

 

[timmerin]

Well, I think it's not really because he doesn't find you sexy anymore but could be he also doesn't want to injure his unborn. We all know how critical this period is for your baby.

For some pregnancies which are on the critical side, gynae have even advised no Sexual intercourse for a while.

It's a tough period. maybe you can voice out your feelings to your Husband. Mutual understanding is important.

 

[JL8118]

Guess he's one of those who really mind about 'body & looks'. We all know that we woman will change, especially in body/figure during pregnancy. Some husband may find us not attractive during such period. But again like timmerin mentioned, probably he don't want to injure his unborn. But then again, gynae also do said that after 12 weeks of pregnancy, physical intimacy is fine. Probably just have to take care of those 'position'.
Try talk to him, and sound out your unhappy feeling. Communication is the key to success of a relationship, especially married couple.

 

[Fervon]

Take care Nattie369!!

Maybe he's into these all these while, not just during this pregnancy period?? Maybe you can have a good talk with your hb.. Let him know that you're not comfortable with his 'hobby'? Afterall, a mutual understand is very important.

But ultimately, not over stressing yourself in this pregnancy period is the upmost priority!! Take care!!