ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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watie,
you can also update mine. my age is 34 and my dd is 2yrs old (will be 2 in march). thanks!
bettybad,
thanks for the wishes. i baru balik from CNY visiting. penat tau. perut pun kenyang makan kueh and dinner. yest pun makan reunion dinner at my ILs house sampai perut nak meletup, itupun kena bawak balik makanan lagi! nasib baik it's all raw meats, eg chicken, fish ball, squid, crabs, etc. so i kept all in freezer, then next week or what can masak lauk.
zu,
how was your CNY celebration? adam enjoy tak this year?! my dd shiok sendiri makan kueh, gula-gula, coklat and minum yeo's packet drinks. smapai she refused to eat her dinner!
you can also update mine. my age is 34 and my dd is 2yrs old (will be 2 in march). thanks!
bettybad,
thanks for the wishes. i baru balik from CNY visiting. penat tau. perut pun kenyang makan kueh and dinner. yest pun makan reunion dinner at my ILs house sampai perut nak meletup, itupun kena bawak balik makanan lagi! nasib baik it's all raw meats, eg chicken, fish ball, squid, crabs, etc. so i kept all in freezer, then next week or what can masak lauk.
zu,
how was your CNY celebration? adam enjoy tak this year?! my dd shiok sendiri makan kueh, gula-gula, coklat and minum yeo's packet drinks. smapai she refused to eat her dinner!
Hi All
Best eh public holiday!!!!
plan nak buat macam macam, nak ajak my niece take mrt la, nak catalogue my dvd la, nak arrange and properly store my handbags la... then tuk tuk dah tinggal satu hari aje... what have i been doing??!!
Watie, include i punye particulars jugak ah, cam ni
Area: Pasir Ris
Kid: 1 (6 mths)
Age: 36 (so yg 32, 34 tu dun be khuatir, masih ade yg lagi tua pun)Age is just a number sisters..
Best eh public holiday!!!!
plan nak buat macam macam, nak ajak my niece take mrt la, nak catalogue my dvd la, nak arrange and properly store my handbags la... then tuk tuk dah tinggal satu hari aje... what have i been doing??!!
Watie, include i punye particulars jugak ah, cam ni
Area: Pasir Ris
Kid: 1 (6 mths)
Age: 36 (so yg 32, 34 tu dun be khuatir, masih ade yg lagi tua pun)Age is just a number sisters..
norapublic holidays memang best. this is when i get a break cos my husband will handle our daughter while i can bangun lambat2. shiok!
watie, you can update my details too.
location: woodlands
occupation: minah relaks2 kat rumah (for this year only)
kid: 1 (mar 2006)
age: 30
all moms, is it a good idea to display our email address here? sekali kena spam tak habis2. maybe we can remove that column?
as for age of kids - as it is a bit leceh to continually update their age, apa kata kita letak month and year of birth for the age?
apa kata boss watie?
watie again,
kalau u dah penat update the table, i can also help to update. maklumlah, kita ni pun SAHM. tapi, time-mgmt ada rabak sket jadi i wont be here as often as i'd like to be lah.
ju, of course you can join in the conversation. this is a free for all!
watie, you can update my details too.
location: woodlands
occupation: minah relaks2 kat rumah (for this year only)
kid: 1 (mar 2006)
age: 30
all moms, is it a good idea to display our email address here? sekali kena spam tak habis2. maybe we can remove that column?
as for age of kids - as it is a bit leceh to continually update their age, apa kata kita letak month and year of birth for the age?
apa kata boss watie?
watie again,
kalau u dah penat update the table, i can also help to update. maklumlah, kita ni pun SAHM. tapi, time-mgmt ada rabak sket jadi i wont be here as often as i'd like to be lah.
ju, of course you can join in the conversation. this is a free for all!
ClassyShimmers
Active Member
watie
please update my age..dah setahun lalu pun..am 27 now..nanti year end update lagi eh..28 plak..heheheh
Thanks!!
Lani
How is Expertise so far?? Think nak try la..
please update my age..dah setahun lalu pun..am 27 now..nanti year end update lagi eh..28 plak..heheheh
Thanks!!
Lani
How is Expertise so far?? Think nak try la..
Hi you guys!
I'm new here and hope to be a regular...
My details:
Occup: Sec sch teacher
Home: Bukit Gombak
Kid: 1 (3 mths)
Age: 32 in july
I pun tgh frust giler pasal kene lose another 10kg. I gained 20kg during pregnancy. sometimes I put the blame on my hubby (cos no one else to blame). Anyway, takut jugak nak do strenuous ex pasal c-section so hope to start walking with my baby in stroller dulu..
Expertise works ke? I was trying i-slim but doesn't work for me.
I'm new here and hope to be a regular...
My details:
Occup: Sec sch teacher
Home: Bukit Gombak
Kid: 1 (3 mths)
Age: 32 in july
I pun tgh frust giler pasal kene lose another 10kg. I gained 20kg during pregnancy. sometimes I put the blame on my hubby (cos no one else to blame). Anyway, takut jugak nak do strenuous ex pasal c-section so hope to start walking with my baby in stroller dulu..
Expertise works ke? I was trying i-slim but doesn't work for me.
Hi naddy ..
best tgk u all bebual..mcm2 topik pun ada..
Wud be delighted to included in the list..
Location: Bt panjang
Occup:Sahm(mum to be..edd in july.1st child insyallah)
Age: 30
Hi Sharena,
oic u kene c-sect eh?tkpelah im sure u bleh lose all the weight u need.I used to get my slimming pills from gp dulu..the pill is called panbesy...lost quite a lot of weight in time for my wedding..tapi tgk org jugak coz my gfs ada ambik panbesy tapi dorang tak lose as much weight as i did.Tapi skrg da no point coz ngah preggy badan naik macam belon dah..
Kene tunggu lepas bersalin baru bleh lose weight lagi..
best tgk u all bebual..mcm2 topik pun ada..
Wud be delighted to included in the list..
Location: Bt panjang
Occup:Sahm(mum to be..edd in july.1st child insyallah)
Age: 30
Hi Sharena,
oic u kene c-sect eh?tkpelah im sure u bleh lose all the weight u need.I used to get my slimming pills from gp dulu..the pill is called panbesy...lost quite a lot of weight in time for my wedding..tapi tgk org jugak coz my gfs ada ambik panbesy tapi dorang tak lose as much weight as i did.Tapi skrg da no point coz ngah preggy badan naik macam belon dah..
Kene tunggu lepas bersalin baru bleh lose weight lagi..
Lani
Whats this Expertise? Is it in the market ke or those MLM product? Do you consume it or gosok gosok aje. Kalau gosok gosok ni like a bit leceh la, every morning rush rush kan.
Watie
Terlupe nak include in my particulars that I am a FTWM.
To all mummies
It seems like the battle of the bulge ni is neverending... I pun dulu makan lah supertrim la.. all those over the counter punye, buang duit aje. Memang la kena exercise and watch what we eat. But it never hurt to hope for a miracle... so i keep on hoping la
Besok kerje... sigh
Whats this Expertise? Is it in the market ke or those MLM product? Do you consume it or gosok gosok aje. Kalau gosok gosok ni like a bit leceh la, every morning rush rush kan.
Watie
Terlupe nak include in my particulars that I am a FTWM.
To all mummies
It seems like the battle of the bulge ni is neverending... I pun dulu makan lah supertrim la.. all those over the counter punye, buang duit aje. Memang la kena exercise and watch what we eat. But it never hurt to hope for a miracle... so i keep on hoping la
Besok kerje... sigh
nora,
Xpertise is a tummy slimming cream from France. it's those gosok-gosk kind you use on your tummy, but you don't have to gosok for too long, 5 mins dah cukup. it is not an MLM product. it came highly recommended by quite a number of users. it was even featured in Her World magazine a few months ago as the best tummy slimming cream. i used it myself and it works. so that time i bought a few dozens from supplier and advertised in the "Business" section of this forum lah (maklumlah, i SAHM, so buat small business from home lah). quite a few mums bought from me, and some of them are now my repeat customers. if you wanna try 1 tube first let me know lah, i can sell you one to try and see if it works for you.
Xpertise is a tummy slimming cream from France. it's those gosok-gosk kind you use on your tummy, but you don't have to gosok for too long, 5 mins dah cukup. it is not an MLM product. it came highly recommended by quite a number of users. it was even featured in Her World magazine a few months ago as the best tummy slimming cream. i used it myself and it works. so that time i bought a few dozens from supplier and advertised in the "Business" section of this forum lah (maklumlah, i SAHM, so buat small business from home lah). quite a few mums bought from me, and some of them are now my repeat customers. if you wanna try 1 tube first let me know lah, i can sell you one to try and see if it works for you.
anneffendi
Member
watie,
here's mine;-
Location : Yishun
Occupation : support dept pat opis (FTWM)
No. Of Kids : currently 1 (july 2005)
Age : oct 1974 hehehe
Email/MSN/ : [email protected]
homepage:www.abidnaqib.multiply.com
Kalo ada apa2 best2 for mummies,email!
btw,this 1-4h march got baby festival 07 pat suntec! http://www.family.sg/editorial/article.aspx?id=453&sc=23&grp=#
here's mine;-
Location : Yishun
Occupation : support dept pat opis (FTWM)
No. Of Kids : currently 1 (july 2005)
Age : oct 1974 hehehe
Email/MSN/ : [email protected]
homepage:www.abidnaqib.multiply.com
Kalo ada apa2 best2 for mummies,email!
btw,this 1-4h march got baby festival 07 pat suntec! http://www.family.sg/editorial/article.aspx?id=453&sc=23&grp=#
2ndxmum
Member
Hello everybody
back to work already....
Lani
how much does 1 tube of the XPERTISE cost? I'm a sucker for product that promise to flatten the tummy...
Currently using CLARINS. Quite effective also. I'm to lose 5kg more to get back my pre-pregnancy weight but like cannot like that laa... seem like I'm getting wider eventhough weight going down. Hubby said I'm like a Flat Wide TV ...
Gain 25kg during pregnancy coz I ate whatever my appetite/heart desire then - thinking when can I really enjoy my foods w/o worrying gaining weight if not during prenancy... but now all those consumed foods don't seem wanna go away esp at the bum..
My details:
Location : Rivervale Drive
Occupation : Exec. Secretary (but thinking of hanging my working boots liao)
No. Of Kids : 2 (Production PERMANENTLY close)
Age : Mar 72
back to work already....
Lani
how much does 1 tube of the XPERTISE cost? I'm a sucker for product that promise to flatten the tummy...
Gain 25kg during pregnancy coz I ate whatever my appetite/heart desire then - thinking when can I really enjoy my foods w/o worrying gaining weight if not during prenancy... but now all those consumed foods don't seem wanna go away esp at the bum..
My details:
Location : Rivervale Drive
Occupation : Exec. Secretary (but thinking of hanging my working boots liao)
No. Of Kids : 2 (Production PERMANENTLY close)
Age : Mar 72
Hi everybody,
I org lama tapi dah lama tak keep in touch. Just got pregnant recently. I am a mum of 1 girl. Now at home goyang kaki ah.. (tssk... mana leh goyang kaki with a kid in hand)
hey my cousin selling the Bodyshaper Undergarment. I used it too before getting preggy. Not bad. You can use it after putting the cream if you want. She is selling it at $28 only per piece either in Black and Nude. If anyone interested can pm me ah.
I org lama tapi dah lama tak keep in touch. Just got pregnant recently. I am a mum of 1 girl. Now at home goyang kaki ah.. (tssk... mana leh goyang kaki with a kid in hand)
hey my cousin selling the Bodyshaper Undergarment. I used it too before getting preggy. Not bad. You can use it after putting the cream if you want. She is selling it at $28 only per piece either in Black and Nude. If anyone interested can pm me ah.
ClassyShimmers
Active Member
Lani
U've got mail!!
RMS
Am using Clarins too now. Which one exactly are you using? Its effective but X la.. If can find something cheaper but could give results, y not eh..so the $ normally spent on Clarins can be used on other stuff which is currently on shopping list.Khehehehehhe
U've got mail!!
RMS
Am using Clarins too now. Which one exactly are you using? Its effective but X la.. If can find something cheaper but could give results, y not eh..so the $ normally spent on Clarins can be used on other stuff which is currently on shopping list.Khehehehehhe
wah! rancak eh korang bebual. ru 2-3 ari tak masok forum. maklomler sibok visiting.
Lani, my ILs come to my place for reunion dinner. As usual lar, makan steamboat. Reunion pat luar sume ada surcharge so rather makan pat rumah. hahaha...
Adam kene control by his mother, me. Sume tak le makan. hahaha.. takot tak halal le. Then sweets pon tak kasi dia. Takot nanti overdosed. But he enjoyed the lion dances and collecting ang baos la. Cos he say "Mummy kip money buy cars!" Budak nie tgh kmarok dgn cars and vehicles lar.
Start lagi topic abt the bulges! hahaha...
Lani, my ILs come to my place for reunion dinner. As usual lar, makan steamboat. Reunion pat luar sume ada surcharge so rather makan pat rumah. hahaha...
Adam kene control by his mother, me. Sume tak le makan. hahaha.. takot tak halal le. Then sweets pon tak kasi dia. Takot nanti overdosed. But he enjoyed the lion dances and collecting ang baos la. Cos he say "Mummy kip money buy cars!" Budak nie tgh kmarok dgn cars and vehicles lar.
Start lagi topic abt the bulges! hahaha...
amaars_mom
New Member
Lani,
Bagus jugak, after gosok gosok can slim down. Search in google for info on the product. But not much. Can pm any info you have. Thanks
Bagus jugak, after gosok gosok can slim down. Search in google for info on the product. But not much. Can pm any info you have. Thanks
Hi Lani,
How much is the cream?
Btw, just want to let you know that I pun ada jual mainan, if anyone here is keen. Semua baru punya and very reasonably priced. Eg: I'm selling 1 item for $19 when Growing Fun and other kedai mainan jual the same thing at $27.90 and also $29.90.
Can pm me if you are keen, k? Akan kasi harga special untuk Malay Mums disini.
Thanks.
How much is the cream?
Btw, just want to let you know that I pun ada jual mainan, if anyone here is keen. Semua baru punya and very reasonably priced. Eg: I'm selling 1 item for $19 when Growing Fun and other kedai mainan jual the same thing at $27.90 and also $29.90.
Can pm me if you are keen, k? Akan kasi harga special untuk Malay Mums disini.
Thanks.
ClassyShimmers
Active Member
Boo
You mean barang frm Growing fun???!! PM me kak boo..nak tgk!! Thks..
Lani
Does that mean I have to get the thigh cream outside since you do not order anymore??
The thigh cream works better ke since its sold out faster than the tummy cream?
You mean barang frm Growing fun???!! PM me kak boo..nak tgk!! Thks..
Lani
Does that mean I have to get the thigh cream outside since you do not order anymore??
The thigh cream works better ke since its sold out faster than the tummy cream?
shermin,
sorry lah babe, but you prob have to get the thigh cream from the shops. actually the reason my thigh cream dah OOS cause the last time i didn't order enough, so the stocks quickly habis. then when i wanted to re-order again supplier wanted to quote me higher price, and wanted me to get a minimum quantity, so i tak jadi order lah...
boo,
i will PM you with my prices. i am not too sure abt the thigh cream. i heard from some ppl it's very good, but i did not really use it cause my thigh is not my problem area. hee...
sorry lah babe, but you prob have to get the thigh cream from the shops. actually the reason my thigh cream dah OOS cause the last time i didn't order enough, so the stocks quickly habis. then when i wanted to re-order again supplier wanted to quote me higher price, and wanted me to get a minimum quantity, so i tak jadi order lah...
boo,
i will PM you with my prices. i am not too sure abt the thigh cream. i heard from some ppl it's very good, but i did not really use it cause my thigh is not my problem area. hee...
Lani and Zu,
I dah mail you the pics. Let me know if you are keen.
I've got to know from some mums yang some of the barang-barang can be found at: http://www.studioij.com/t-benho-01.htm but at a higher price.
I dah mail you the pics. Let me know if you are keen.
I've got to know from some mums yang some of the barang-barang can be found at: http://www.studioij.com/t-benho-01.htm but at a higher price.
Hi Lani and Zu,
I dah mail you the pics. Kata some of the mums some of the mainan can be found here: http://www.studioij.com/t-benho-01.htm except that thay are more costly. Mail me if you are interested in any cos nak clear them.
Thanks.
I dah mail you the pics. Kata some of the mums some of the mainan can be found here: http://www.studioij.com/t-benho-01.htm except that thay are more costly. Mail me if you are interested in any cos nak clear them.
Thanks.
My policy on in-laws is
kalau jauh jauh bau wangi
kalau dekat dekat bau busuk
jauh tak jauh sangat la, we still go and see them every fortnight, go makan or bring food to their house, bec my MIL malas masak.
But i do not chit chat unnecessarily or get very close with them.. I know that my MIL ever say that i sombong.
but to me kalau cakap banyak banyak pun nanti pple will start to pick on you. Kalau diam diam they hav nothing to say kan. Anyway my MIL and my SILs all not same channel as me la.. they all belong to the kakak kakak group...so what kakak topic do i know? Cooking,jahit langsir, baking, semue i tak tau. kalau cakap pasal tv programme ke, entertainment gossip ke, movies ke dia orang pulak dun get it... so buat bodoh aje la..
But one person i cannot stand is my hubby youngest sis...and since she is staying with my in laws i try very hard to avoid her..
kalau jauh jauh bau wangi
kalau dekat dekat bau busuk
jauh tak jauh sangat la, we still go and see them every fortnight, go makan or bring food to their house, bec my MIL malas masak.
But i do not chit chat unnecessarily or get very close with them.. I know that my MIL ever say that i sombong.
but to me kalau cakap banyak banyak pun nanti pple will start to pick on you. Kalau diam diam they hav nothing to say kan. Anyway my MIL and my SILs all not same channel as me la.. they all belong to the kakak kakak group...so what kakak topic do i know? Cooking,jahit langsir, baking, semue i tak tau. kalau cakap pasal tv programme ke, entertainment gossip ke, movies ke dia orang pulak dun get it... so buat bodoh aje la..
But one person i cannot stand is my hubby youngest sis...and since she is staying with my in laws i try very hard to avoid her..
ClassyShimmers
Active Member
sally cinnamon
I strongly agree with nora. Jauh bau bunga, dekat bau taik.
I have a problem of making every conversation short with MIL pasal dia suka bercakap. As you know org dulu2 punya guru unlike now kan.Both my PIL are retired teachers and that's why there's no way to keep each conversation short. Its always Hubby yg ask the mother to cut it short maybe he knows I'll get sick n tired with the 'story-telling'.
Intially when I just got married, memang susah nak blend with them. I always thought they were controlling us(Hubby is the 1st son and the only one married at that moment). There were a LOT of hiccups ok btwn ILs and me that I thought I can never be close to them..You wont want to know why but now after 6 yrs of marriage, dah lali. Ape lagi 1st 3 yrs of marriage, tinggal with them!!! Imagine that!! They were in a midst of getting a house in JB at that time,so no choice la, tinggal berdamai.
During that time la I believe, we sort of overcome each other punya perangai. Whatever she dislikes abt me, she go directly and I did just that. No more hiding our emotions. It works really!! Even pple we came across while shopping or eating somewhr thought hubby is their menantu and I am her daughter. We just got close over the years especially now that we are no more staying together, I do miss her 'story-telling'
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So I guess it all depends on individual how you want to make it works with PIL. Mine, went thru hardship 1st...
I strongly agree with nora. Jauh bau bunga, dekat bau taik.
I have a problem of making every conversation short with MIL pasal dia suka bercakap. As you know org dulu2 punya guru unlike now kan.Both my PIL are retired teachers and that's why there's no way to keep each conversation short. Its always Hubby yg ask the mother to cut it short maybe he knows I'll get sick n tired with the 'story-telling'.
Intially when I just got married, memang susah nak blend with them. I always thought they were controlling us(Hubby is the 1st son and the only one married at that moment). There were a LOT of hiccups ok btwn ILs and me that I thought I can never be close to them..You wont want to know why but now after 6 yrs of marriage, dah lali. Ape lagi 1st 3 yrs of marriage, tinggal with them!!! Imagine that!! They were in a midst of getting a house in JB at that time,so no choice la, tinggal berdamai.
During that time la I believe, we sort of overcome each other punya perangai. Whatever she dislikes abt me, she go directly and I did just that. No more hiding our emotions. It works really!! Even pple we came across while shopping or eating somewhr thought hubby is their menantu and I am her daughter. We just got close over the years especially now that we are no more staying together, I do miss her 'story-telling'
So I guess it all depends on individual how you want to make it works with PIL. Mine, went thru hardship 1st...
sally,
i also agree with nora.
for me (and also for mixedup, i assume) the situation is slightly more complicated lah, cause my hubby is chinese, so the issue of race and religion comes into play also.
my MIL is generally a nice & caring person. at least she is not racist or has a problem with our religion. she is english-educated and has quite a few close malay friends.
but it's still hard for us to get along at times, cause she is VERY naggy, and is VERY dramatic at times. and now that we've got a dd the one thing that i sometimes can't tahan is how she seems to always have an opinion abt how i take care of my dd, and this coming from a woman who has NEVER taken care of her own kids! she was a working mum all her life, even went to work overseas for many yrs, and left the care of her 2 kids to others.
even my hubby commented many times abt how his mum REALLY has NO clue WHATSOEVER about taking care of babies and kids! can you believe, during my dd's 1mth celebration, my hubby ACTUALLY had to DEMONSTRATE to my MIL how to burp my dd after her milk feed?! that's how clueless she is...
luckily for me, my hubby not that close to his parents, so i don't have much issues w/ ILs (ie hubby having to choose b/w me and his mum, etc). my hubby has even said that me and our dd will always come first for him, not his parents and sis.
and i also never had to deal with the situation of having to live under one roof with them, cause after we got married and while waiting to buy our flat, it was just natural for us to live with my family instead. of course i think my MIL was abit tersinggung lah when this happened, but my hubby ya-ya one. he can actually say if they not happy too bad.
actually, my hubby also commented many times before that even he can't live under the same roof as his family, cause very stressful and his mum very naggy! haha! another thing he doesn't like about living with them is when his mum and sis fight or argue, macam perang dunia lah!
i also agree with nora.
for me (and also for mixedup, i assume) the situation is slightly more complicated lah, cause my hubby is chinese, so the issue of race and religion comes into play also.
my MIL is generally a nice & caring person. at least she is not racist or has a problem with our religion. she is english-educated and has quite a few close malay friends.
but it's still hard for us to get along at times, cause she is VERY naggy, and is VERY dramatic at times. and now that we've got a dd the one thing that i sometimes can't tahan is how she seems to always have an opinion abt how i take care of my dd, and this coming from a woman who has NEVER taken care of her own kids! she was a working mum all her life, even went to work overseas for many yrs, and left the care of her 2 kids to others.
even my hubby commented many times abt how his mum REALLY has NO clue WHATSOEVER about taking care of babies and kids! can you believe, during my dd's 1mth celebration, my hubby ACTUALLY had to DEMONSTRATE to my MIL how to burp my dd after her milk feed?! that's how clueless she is...
luckily for me, my hubby not that close to his parents, so i don't have much issues w/ ILs (ie hubby having to choose b/w me and his mum, etc). my hubby has even said that me and our dd will always come first for him, not his parents and sis.
and i also never had to deal with the situation of having to live under one roof with them, cause after we got married and while waiting to buy our flat, it was just natural for us to live with my family instead. of course i think my MIL was abit tersinggung lah when this happened, but my hubby ya-ya one. he can actually say if they not happy too bad.
actually, my hubby also commented many times before that even he can't live under the same roof as his family, cause very stressful and his mum very naggy! haha! another thing he doesn't like about living with them is when his mum and sis fight or argue, macam perang dunia lah!
Personally, i tink MIL and DIL ada semacam love-hate relationship lar. Walopon aku nie slalu cakap my MIL nie DRAMATIC (which she really is!) tapi I'm glad that she's always ard to help me look after Adam. Like when I'm sick, I will SOS her and she will promptly come. But then if u ask me to stay under one roof with her, that's absolutely out of the question la.
Kalo Shermin cant get along with the MIL in the first place, for me, its terbalik. Cos overall she's very nice. Before I got married, or should I say before i gave birth to Adam, I can go out with her, shopping or just laze ard at their place alone without hb. Tapi sejak ada Adam, i find that she's very naggy. ada je dia nk comment pasal cucu dia. Kejap kate kaki dia begkok la, mata dia ada darah la etc... So gradually, the rship become nt v gd. And i find it bothersome to go to their plc.
For me, its not abt religion. Its more to our different styles of bringing up the kid. Adam nie cucu dorang yg first so kekadang dorangnye sayang and manja tu keterlaluan! I'm glad la they din stay with us also! If not i think he'll be a spoilt brat! Each time we go out with them, Adam cry and sulk and fuss like nobody biz. Ppl who dunno think we, the parents yg tak tau jaga anak.
Ultimately, its up to individual choice whether to stay with ILs onot.
Kalo Shermin cant get along with the MIL in the first place, for me, its terbalik. Cos overall she's very nice. Before I got married, or should I say before i gave birth to Adam, I can go out with her, shopping or just laze ard at their place alone without hb. Tapi sejak ada Adam, i find that she's very naggy. ada je dia nk comment pasal cucu dia. Kejap kate kaki dia begkok la, mata dia ada darah la etc... So gradually, the rship become nt v gd. And i find it bothersome to go to their plc.
For me, its not abt religion. Its more to our different styles of bringing up the kid. Adam nie cucu dorang yg first so kekadang dorangnye sayang and manja tu keterlaluan! I'm glad la they din stay with us also! If not i think he'll be a spoilt brat! Each time we go out with them, Adam cry and sulk and fuss like nobody biz. Ppl who dunno think we, the parents yg tak tau jaga anak.
Ultimately, its up to individual choice whether to stay with ILs onot.
I'm currently staying with my ILS eversince im preggy..Coz hubby werk shift mlm evry day..Kalo I stay alone at home takot mlm2 kene kacau..hehhe..so i stay at my ILS n yes its true kalo berjauhan,the relationship is better..tapi i have excuses for now till bersalin..my hubby always sides me..dia kata pembawaan budak..hehehe..counting down the days till i run out of excuses.. 
one more thing to add. i will never agree to live under one roof with my ILs. cause seeing them once in a while is ok lah. but if live with them and see them everyday, then i will surely go MAD! and i have made this very clear to hubby already. if EVER in future he suggests that his mum move in with us, i will move out! haha!!
dunno consider my self lucky or unlucky...i'd stayed with PIL since the day i got...1st 1st,,not ok..cos i dun like how she hancle things @ home such as arrangement in fridge,,,washing clothes using the washing machin....but after sometime ok...especially when she start taking care of my 1st dd....everything was fine...until i got my 2nd dd..when i was still on confinement..my mil got sick...like leg swollen cos too much salt intake..the moment my sil kno abt it.. on tat particular afternoon she came 2 my hse n said to me she wants 2 bring her mom home...i was damn furious..cos maybe i juz game birth need some help... not help to cook or wash clothes but to just take care of 1stdd one while i'm attending 2 the 2nd one..so i was piss off with sil cos' she has a maid n usually when her mum sick, she will tell her maid 2 come 2 my hse 2 help2x....my mother wanted 2 help me to look after my kids @ my home but my FIL still stay with cos' he's more comfortable staying with me.,,,the worst part is when i start work..my mother came my place 2 care for both..and when fil come back she n my children will stay in the room until i come home.....n 1 pt of time my mil ask my hubby why my mum dun wanna sleep at my pl...i guess she forget alll abt her hub,,,my fil in my house..i was even more furious...anyway nowadays me n hubby finally decided to put my 1st dd in childcare n my 2nd one with my mum...regardless my pil is at my house..wah i think very leghthy must stop...hehheheheh
liyana_elisha
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hmmmm... i rase u all nie tak baik cakap pasal ur in laws mcm 2 tau.. because after all they are your hubby's parents.. and i tgk u all semua bobal mcm each and everyone of u tyring to compare which one of your in laws is more monstrous..
Lani,
u seems like u hate your in laws very much.. n i dont like the way u talk.. like as if u married a chinese guy, you are like "great" and making the rest of the mums yg married malay guys unlucky.. n i also personally feel that you are trying to boast how your hb listens to you more than his mum.. so does that makes him a coward then?? and i also feel that you are quite insensitive to some of the malay mums here.. i read about your previous pose how you are ok with the idea of sending your kid to a catholic playgroup.. and how you celebrated CNY with your in laws.. with regars to the leftover meats you broght home.. and then your above post stated that the issue of religion comes into place when it comes to you and mixedup.. but arent you contradicting yourself then?? i doubt that you even prayed at home.. and please stop talking about how your a SAHM and still have a maid.. you seem to be boasting about your luxuries here.. there are mums here who are not as filthy rich as you (as you describe it yourself).. i guess no one here dares to voice out.. thats why they would rather keep quiet.. and also.. your in laws ada maruah jugak.. if you get what i mean..
Lani,
u seems like u hate your in laws very much.. n i dont like the way u talk.. like as if u married a chinese guy, you are like "great" and making the rest of the mums yg married malay guys unlucky.. n i also personally feel that you are trying to boast how your hb listens to you more than his mum.. so does that makes him a coward then?? and i also feel that you are quite insensitive to some of the malay mums here.. i read about your previous pose how you are ok with the idea of sending your kid to a catholic playgroup.. and how you celebrated CNY with your in laws.. with regars to the leftover meats you broght home.. and then your above post stated that the issue of religion comes into place when it comes to you and mixedup.. but arent you contradicting yourself then?? i doubt that you even prayed at home.. and please stop talking about how your a SAHM and still have a maid.. you seem to be boasting about your luxuries here.. there are mums here who are not as filthy rich as you (as you describe it yourself).. i guess no one here dares to voice out.. thats why they would rather keep quiet.. and also.. your in laws ada maruah jugak.. if you get what i mean..
hey ladies!
cool it!
i takde komen pasal in laws sume ni. it's an age-old problem which will never go away. so, to each his own lah. kita semua dah besar. dah tau apa yang betul dan apa yang tak.
liyana,
jangan macam tu lah. kalau u tak sebulu dengan sesapa kat sini, janganlah buat camtu. i pun orang yang tak berkemampuan sangat. tapi, i tak pernah rasa yang lani cuba nak show off. last sekali, tak baik tau kalau kita accuse orang tak sembahyang ke amende. kalau kita nak ingatkan orang untuk sembahyang, buka tu caranya. maybe, kita boleh gunakan cara lain untuk ingatkan orang. okay. dah maghrib dah ni. babai!
peace all!
cool it!
i takde komen pasal in laws sume ni. it's an age-old problem which will never go away. so, to each his own lah. kita semua dah besar. dah tau apa yang betul dan apa yang tak.
liyana,
jangan macam tu lah. kalau u tak sebulu dengan sesapa kat sini, janganlah buat camtu. i pun orang yang tak berkemampuan sangat. tapi, i tak pernah rasa yang lani cuba nak show off. last sekali, tak baik tau kalau kita accuse orang tak sembahyang ke amende. kalau kita nak ingatkan orang untuk sembahyang, buka tu caranya. maybe, kita boleh gunakan cara lain untuk ingatkan orang. okay. dah maghrib dah ni. babai!
peace all!
naddy is rite, after all this MIL and DIL is an age old problem. of course, we have to do our part as DIL la,after all they are orang tua kan. for me i just watch what i say and do. If i have nothing good to say better keep quite. as long as tak masam masam muke or not on talking terms sudah la.
and to quote naddy again... cool it..ok
and to quote naddy again... cool it..ok
liyana,
i have been active in this forum for a long time now, and have made alot of good friends from this forum, be it with the malay mums or the non-malay mums. i do not want to respond to any of the accusations you have thrown at me, especially since you do not know me personally. quite a number of the mums on the forum know me personally, and they all know what my personality and character is like, so i will let them be the judge of what i am as a person, and not you.
i have been active in this forum for a long time now, and have made alot of good friends from this forum, be it with the malay mums or the non-malay mums. i do not want to respond to any of the accusations you have thrown at me, especially since you do not know me personally. quite a number of the mums on the forum know me personally, and they all know what my personality and character is like, so i will let them be the judge of what i am as a person, and not you.
As 4 me, i agree with lani althou i dun personally kno her...as tis is a free forum...i dun mind sharing our experiences cos tis is wat forum is...not that we saying that our PIL r bad ppl ..as human nobody is perfect. diff ppl have diif ways how 2 let go their stress..maybe by sharing we r mentaly prepare for any situation...luxury ...or having maid...tis is individual choice....n i felt better after writing this....no offence