ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?

Sigh* aper nak buat.. my husband masa mula i kenal dia.. i feel tat dia nie ibarat mcm anak pompan.. time dating, kul 9.00pm jer mak dia call suruh balik. Then Sat, kalau nak keluar dating, kena ikut mak dia gie pasar pagi, then put away the groceries, then vacuum rumah, lipat baju and then tunggu bapak dia balik dari kerja kul 2pm, baru i bleh jumpa dia tau !!

My hubby kena bully sebab adik2 dia is allowed to stay late or tido rumah kawan, they are allowed to smoke and pierce thier ears...and my hubby being the eldest, have no right to scold adik2 dia.. kesian my hubby. He is happier with my family.. terus terang i ckp tau.. Cos my adik-beradik respect and joke with him..tu sebab masa kahwin, dia bilang i, let's buy a house quick. Kita kahwin terus masuk rumah baru.. He said dia tak tahan duduk sana... sigh*
 


i like buat open house....
sekali serak, sekali kemas!
But yg tak best, dah buat open house, tak datang! datang hari yg kita ada appts lain, hari kita malas, hari dlm freezer takder aper2!!! Boring jek!


nora,
time my BIL baru pindah massionate, its not parents yg sibuk suruh buat open house tau....
But its the makcik pakcik yg sibuk, tanya2, tak buat open house?
my BIL jawap, "buat open house nak impress saper? I cant be bothered!" muauhahahahahaha
 
liz,
my previous owner, malay.
i masuk tak sertu... coz makcik tu dah siap mop lantai skali!
But husband just azan. konon untuk introduce ourselves as the new family gitula!

and tak silap i, IF u renovate whole house, takyah sertu... coz dah tukar barang2 baru, lantai, pasir, etc...
 
and wen u dah dapat kunci masuk rumah baru,
u bawak masuk beras, asam, garam, gula dulu...
or senang, gi NTUC blanja barang dapo dulu, baru gi rumah baru.
tuang garam, etc, dlm bekas pun, suruh hubby buat. sambil selawat.
 
nora aw..

malay...for me malay or watever religion i tetap nak semah...kita tak kenal or tau bekas org camner kan so better take precaution....previous b4 dat was chinese...dont think will take outside services lah...this can be done by ourselves..
i cuma nak tau how u all do? maybe lain lain cara...

wati...

kekadang marriage can really bring us happiness like how it brought ur husband's happiness...myself n hubby were not really in such a happy world time single...until we got married then we realised jus how happy we can be...alhamdulillah

nora rossi...

just to share more infos wif u... here the link http://www.aqiqahkorban.com/aqiqah.html
 
<font color="119911">a'ahlah liz
kan urs rumah melayu buat apa nak sertu?
for my house masa i masuk, we brought in asam, garam, gula, beras tak salah &amp; minyak then kita pelan2 bersihkan rumah esp at toilet &amp; dapur usign air tanah liat bt byk was doen by my BIL hes more ahli in this thus we leave it to him.. tp cina before pun jarang masak &amp; periuk belanga smua baru lagi tp we threw away ah geli plak.. my BIL also yg bang kan setiap penjuru plus e main hall.. coz hub kept sayg hes not gd enuff to do it thus BIL yg buatkan</font>
 
shahlynn..

ok...dat ive done for this hse also..but i yg tuang....lerrr...salah org lah eh! ish...
then the water thing that time u all mention? yg amik from umah mana then bring over?
 
for my new plac bukan sertu lah its semah? last time my hubbynya step dad suruh hubby azan at the front door then masuk dari kiri start tabur lada hitam n garam kasar all the way into the house along the wall then rite up to the main door again...
 
Sometimes i pegi open house, i find the purpose of it is really lost

Org ramai host tak terlayan, kadang nak makan pun takde tempat.

Kalau kite ziarah biasa kan boleh berbual, beramah mesra ber tepuk tampar.. hehhehe. More personal.

PS: this brings me to anotehr pet peeve:
Pi orang kawin and takde tempat nak makan.
kena tunggu cam kat food court pulak.
 
liz,
hubby's fren beli rumah melayu.
time kemas2, he found atas false ceiling, lipatan kain kuning... dlm ada ayat... dunno wat ayat.
he bakar.
rupanya previous owner asal orang pulau.
 
Liz, yes.. im happy for my hubby too. Pasal rumah, i had a small kenduri for about 20 ppl, then my hubby go around the house to renjis dgn air &amp; garam bacaan time kenduri. Then dia kena azankan all corners of the house.

Nora, this year buat eh.. ok.. jgn lupa jemput kita tau...
 
nora,
true true...
padahal pergi rumah orang yg kita rapat. tapi sampai sana, kita macam stranger plak...

dats y i always limit the no. of guests i invited.
bukan apa, takut tak terlayan, and oso make room for yg langkah kanan...
 
mamaliz,

i tak tau pasal semah2 rumah.

yg i tau some of dis tinks, ader petua turun temurun, ader memang sunnah dlm islam. That's why there r many practices. So u find out la yg maner betul2 impt dan menyenangkan.
 
aiseyman...i tumpang umah org for a mth+...so bole simpan air dari umah ni eh...then dah masuk baru letak kat dapor? wat am i supposed to do wif the water?
 
Shahlynn

kau masak sendiri, boleh many many rounds openhosue

aku kena cater noh..

then jln hari raye tak habis habis, maklum my FIL adik bradik masuk berbelas
my MIL ade 6 ke 8, all must go, dun go the PIL offended

teruk aku u know jln raye bec my side small family
my mom got one bro and my dad yg ade tu lah Lynn yer family and some of my dad's aunties ade lah 2-3 org jer
 
shahlynn....ayat ayat kalau atas ceiling tu biasanya is just pendinding....protect the occupants from any harm....my late granpa pon ada...kat atas pintu ada small kris n ayat n apa lagi...even daun pandan pon i nampak...its actually good cos it protects lah dari apa apa...

last time my parents slalu kena kacau in our kallang hse...ada jer belalang yg masuk umah...sampai my mak letak penyapu kat pintu...in the end my dad letak ayat also n watever my granpa ajar to put...
 
so far me n hub tak pernah buat doa selamat..and sad to say banyak relatives from his side tak jelma pon....
hubby plan buat doa selamat for this new place...baca doa then cater food so we can also interact w people...first time we do our own openhse/doa selamat
 
liz,
macam2 eh.... ada gantung batang kelo tak?

nora,
i slalu masak sendiri. so bleh agak2...

i tak kuasa nak ampu sedara. cant be bothered. nak datang, datang! taknak datang, suah!
my guests are usually the same faces year in year out. tak pening! i'm not out to impress.
 
sabrina...

tu pon i pernah dgr...tapi not sure how the fish looks like lehh....

can say dat i believe in this ayat pendinding pasal my grandparents hse alhamdulillah so far no break ins or anything....umah kampong, dat time got many case of thefts/robberies ard the kampong tapi my grandparents place takder yg kacau...padahal its quite big...
 
<font color="119911">sabrina
yup true.. its ikan puyu rupanya cam louhan skit2 tp bdannya no number hehe

we used to have senang tul jaga tak kasi makan pun ok, tp dia suka makan nasi yg dah masak or kangkong.. ;) 1 day we found it dead cian seh tak sedar pun tu pun masa MIL nak tukar airnya it looks as per normal je.. no more of the fishes now.. we used to get alot from hub's nenek kampong at kota tg

at my mum's house my mum suka taruk penyapu lidi blkg pintu or bawah buaian budak to ward off evil, tp bila pekena dgn MIL lain plak.. she said cam sway.. entahlah janji i did my 44 pantang at mums dah cukup so hope tak da yg tak baik ikut me or bb</font>
 
speaking of pendinding, my mom pernah criter... kat kampong dulu. neighbour dia ada pasang pendinding. den malam2, ada thief masuk. tapi dia takleh kluar. he said alih2, tak nampak tingkap, pintu. till tuan rumah bangun pagi &amp; saw him blurr @ hall!

time i baru pindah, dis so-called tukang ubat ada tol me abt dis, asked whether i interested or not. hubby sceptical, so we tak buat aper2.

but a few weeks ago, at MJ12. dis guy amik pendinding. so rumah tak kena kacau! rupa2nya, every nite, ada jin jaga rumah dia!
 
Ahh... batang kayu kelo i pernah dgr. My uncle kasi i tu put at my house...

ok ladies. i nak gie makan.
 
topik sertu rmh? dulu rmh nie aku buy from my pakcik.. tak yah la nak sertu2 tapi kan... laki aku nye mak pi buat ape, after a mth aku nmpk byk kertas merah dlm gerobok aku!!! i was so soooo angry!! then bilepikir2 balik, time baru dapat kunci tu, aku teringat dia suruh kite dok kedai kopi dia p=naik rmh dulu, mesti time tu dia 'sertu' style dia! biadap sey! takde respect dgn religion aku langsung!!
 
Shahlynn
that MJ12 story is funny.

the best pendiding, we as family mengaji and pray (I am not preaching)
For us we make sure semue bilik/area kat rumah tu kite sembahyang
not necesarily in our room only
kat dapur pun kite sembahyang
 
zu,
menyirap darah i kalau kena gitu!
i mean, kau ada cara kau, aku ada cara aku....
kita patut duduk discus &amp; decide mana baik, mana buruk... and not buat sesuka hati
 
zu,
yup yup.
rupa2nya, dah ayat, ayat panggil jin!
so every nite ada different jin jaga...


nora,
exactly wat my hubby said!
penuhkan amalan baca ayat qursi &amp; solat!
(not preaching, just sharing)
 
yah lah.. then aku bilang mak aku. so bila adam cukur rmbt we uat doa selamat skali and 'cleanse' it again. bilang laki aku.. dia kate mak dia cakap itu untuk happiness la gitu. aku trus terang cakap dgn laki aku.. cara aku dgn dia lain. nak sertu tunggu anak dia lagi satu. satu rmh kau le sertu!!

laki aku nye mak nie macam siak! dia slalu buat ape dia suka.. padahal she no nuts!! jaga anak pun tak tau slalu nak komen aku!
 

Mamaliz thanks for the info..

Mamaliz for my current house i did semak n the new one i will to. My PIL yg do all this.Bukan apa kita memang modern but all this kind of things do happen n "ADA" so i just follow but niat mesti penting. My FIL will usally sertu then pagar n ah other lagi..But i will try to do anything that can prevent harm to my family..But must yakin yang semuanye dtg dari Allah. But some people say its syirik tau
But to me i yakin everything is from HIM
 
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