Advise on Baby & Maid Exps

Mummies,
Long time since I posted on my maids antics...well...I had previously told you my maid has nice long curly hair that was in the same style as mine....then I changed my hair and it's now straight.

Anyway, my maid came back from her off day with short-ish rebonded hair! I said "oh! you rebonded your hair, wow" - then she burst into tears...she looks like a freak. Her hair was so flat and her ears were sticking out through her hair! My hubby saw and could not contain his laughter, my daughter looked at her weirdly. She wailed like she lost her whole family in the tsunami until my neighbor leaned over the fence to see if she is ok!! She so poor thing man...next day I sent her back to MY salon to fix the rebond - strip the chemical. Now she is her normal goondu self again...gawd...
 


JChew
My ex maid is a filipino and
1. she oso cries very easily. Once when she was at my mum house, she was crying non stop with tears and mucus like someone just beat her up. i asked my mum wat happen. she told me my sis reminded my ex maid to keep her pants at the right cupboard after ironing as she found the pants in my other sis' cupboard. then she start to cry until so 'cham'.
2. then she oso very kaypo, a lot of words from her, asking a lot of who/wat/why/when/how questions. the worst is she perspired easily and has body odour. whenever she carries my son, my son will smell like her, wah buay tahan. and she makes it worse by not washing her clothes everyday. she will dump all her clothes in a plastic bag and then wask every 3/4 days. after washing, the clothes still have the sweat smell.
3. then she likes to change in the store room where there is no lock. i reminded her to change in the toilet a few times as there are men in the house.
4. she oso very defensive when she made mistakes. sometimes she even push the blame to others by lying about the situation.
5. She oso refused to cut her long fringe. my mum told me she found some of her hair on the kitchen counter. I told her straight to either wear a hairband/clip it up/cut her fringe. she thot she very pretty with long fringe.
after 3 months, i really buay tahan and decided to send her back to agency. My son smells good from then onwards...
 
JC Chew

You know you can also buy a plastic cover to cover the whole stroller for your gal?you can get it from kiddy palace.

Pushing stroller
Maids generally do not have situation awareness....so, this type of stroller thing to them is also a challenge....to me, I cannot afford them to be trained how to be alert while doing this pushing stroller job.

Liana
You are really nice as to bring her to salon to fix her hair again. For me, I will let my maid live with it since she chose to style it that way.
 
Liana
hahaha, your maid is so funny, just bear with it for a few weeks, the hair will not be so flat liao ma.....why fix her hair back? kekekeke
 
Maybe Liana just want some peace in her house .. else maid will be bad mood and cry frequently ... i can't help bursting out laughing when i read the description "hair was so flat and her ears were sticking out through her hair" .. :p
 
JChew,
Maids love to use the sling bcos that means they do not need to look out, chase after the kids... SOme more, if swing long enuf, the kid oso bored, and will fall asleep.
My prev maid loved to lug my dd in the sling. The moment my dd saw the sling, she will scream her heads off. Luckily along the way, my mum came along to oversee this maid for a while n insisted that the maid CANNOT use the sling. I also confiscated the sling and hid it away. At that time, my dd just turned 1 and she still can't even cruise. The moment we kept the sling, she was able to walk with some assistance within a month. That's when a new whole set of problem starts, my dd kept ended up wif knocks n falls bcos the maid was not vigilant enuf to take care of her.

yenny,
i know what u mean abt the clothings!!!!! Yes.. that's wat my indo n Phili maids did too!!!!! My prev indo maid have the whole room to herself.. n guess wat? She dumped her clothings panties, bras and all.. all over the room... unwashed. I told her that is very untidy, can she do something abt it. Then she put all in a plastic bag and will wait for days b4 she decide to wash them. When she washed, she will hang her clothings all over in the common toilet... bras n all... I was so mad. I told her this toilet is used by everyone including my husband. Can she hang her clothes out (proper laundry area). She refused, scared later her clothes wet from rain. Stupid right??? Rain can bring in, die, die refuse to put out her clothes.
Then i suggest maybe she shld washed her clothes everyday after she bathe. Tell me ok, however, still insist on washing her clothings once a week n hang in the kitchen. So ugly!!!! Imagine i come into my kitchen n see her whole string of bras n panties hanging over my head!!!!!!
My Fili maid also like to keep her clothes in plastic bag n wash after a few days.. but at least she hangs her clothes out away from public view or in her room...
 
Oh Liana, liana - i cant help but to laugh at yr posting. Yr maid darn darn funny siah! Wah she's also rich to make herself pretty hor! I have myself came across maids who refused to cut their hair and will cry as if going to die at the salon!

Hey ladies, need to ask you all something. As you know I have numerous maids before and all actually cant take our SG washing detergent v well, esp the PH maids. Not sure why. Now my current maid's nails are "rotting"...Is there any cream I can get to cure it? Quite pitiful to see that.
 
liana...
It seems to be a in thing for Fili maids to rebond hair now. My mum's maid of more than 10 yr also like to rebond her hair. But one thing i dun like... her hair is still long n she refuse to tie it up.... Rebond hair, cannot tie or else will get kinks.. So unhygienic but luckily she is the kind that do not have BO or sweat alot.. and also dun wk very hard.. so not so bad.

eileen,
how abt giving your maid rubber gloves??? U can also get those steroid creams sold in pharmacies to relief the itch n rash n maybe some moisturiser or barrier cream to prevent it from further deteriorating.
 
eileen,
i think it's not the detergent per say. It's more because of the huge amount of washing, contact with water and detergent. My nails too are peeling like mad since i turned maidless...a far cry from my perfectly manicured hands and nails when i had a maid and was working...

Liana,
as i always say, your maid tops in providing us with great entertainment! hahaha if one day she decides to move on, she should become a comedian...she's a natural!!!
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Hi Moms,
Is it necessary to list down the things the maid need to do beside taking care for the baby?
how often usually we should allow the maid to call home ? as do not want them to take advantage and call home too often .As my girlfriend,since she allowed her maid to call home . everyday her maid husband will be calling her home .
is it true once we have a maid, our pub bills tend to increase especially water .as maid tends to use a lot of water .
Anyone had apply mobilelive cam (singtel)?
is this service good to monitor maid at home ?
 
Way,
1. yes. better to give her a time table so that she'll know what to do at what time. Tell her to follow that but also need to be flexible since you need her to take care of the baby. If you don't clearly state down her duties and give her a timetable, there will be a tendency that she'll skive...

2. Calling home -- different employers have different views on this. I personally do not like my maids to call home. Once you allow one call, it'll never stop. on top of that, they'll get distracted and homesick and cannot work properly. If you feel that you want to give your maid this privilege, may i suggest that you monitor her performance first before deciding. In the event if you do let her call, you have to control and set limits and be absolutely firm abt it.

3. yes. pub bills will tend to increase. You can try training the maid to use water and energy more efficiently and also explain to her why she needs to do so. Some maids understand but their idea of wastage a bit warped...like my ex maids...my kitchen is a bit dark and i had previously told them to switch on the lights if they can't see...yet they continue to wash the rice and prepare food and wash dishes in the dark...end result? not clean. When questioned why, they told me "waste nah, ma'am." Stupid or wat? But when was their own clothes, leave the tap running for the longest time until the pail overflow!!

can't answer your fourth question...

hope my answers help.
 
Hi again ladies, just wanted to update you all about my maid.
well she is still with us and still looking for work. deadline is next tuesday which means she must get someone to sign her up now cause the processing takes 3-5 days. she had few interviews and some were interested but she turned down cause she is just 'eyeing' on this ang moh who seems to be so keen to hire her but keep delaying. dun wan to work for locals or her own kind mah. she told me ang moh supposed to sign her up tuesday but then dunno documents not complete and hubby on a ship to korea and now delay to friday. then i gave her ultimatum that last day to sign her up is today thursday. but then last night this ang moh lady called her up and wanted to speak to me. so i spoke to this ang moh lor. then all awhile this ang moh thought all is nice and dandy between maid and me. i didnt say anything bad about maid but told this ang moh that i can't delay anymore cause it will cause me problems as i will be away from the country next wednesday. but as u know ang moh very persistent. so i became frustrated and told this ang moh i already given this maid enough time for 2 weeks to look for work and i have been very patient with her but she is choosy and there is a limit to everything. then this ang moh suddenly felt something not right and she asked me a question. 'is she any good at taking care of children?'. my immediate response was 'no comments'. i think i have scared this ang moh with the answer. i mean if she is good, i would definitely said something nice right? how would u feel if someone u called up told u no comments on the maid childcare. would u still wanna hire them?
then i told ang moh i will discuss with my hubby if he allows until friday morning to sign just to get her off the phone.
i felt a lot of pressure in the tummy right after talking to this ang moh (hope bb is ok). hubby went to tell maid that she got last chance on friday morning. if not then it is homebound. hubby told me when he was talking to her, this maid was shivering! well serves her right i say for giving me and my bb stress.
my maid is 'well-manered' and doesnt answer you back a lot. she will always say 'yes ma'am' with a black face...but honestly maids like these are the dangerous type because they are so cunning that they do things behind your back. those that talk back are kinda 'stupid' because they are showing their true colours right in front of you.
my maid also possess most of the bad 'trades' that you ladies mentioned above. i think the government should set up a maid database which is accessible to every prospective employers so that they can really check out the background of the maids. the government should make it compulsory for the agent to write in details the reason the maid did not finish their contract etc. also, did u ladies read about the employer who is being summoned to pay $70k for their maid hospital fee? in case not, this maid was at the agents place for transfer and she climb out the window or something and fell. the agent sent her to the hospital and she had major ops which cost $70k. the agent refuse to pay and is seeking the employer to pay because the maid was still under their responsibilities. so beware ladies when you send your maid to the agents for transfers.
 
Nellu

I totally agreed with you on point two so much so that I become the most firm employer ever...i encourage her to write letters instead..Help her to save money and hassle for me as well...I have too much bad experience with maids over their phones and communication aspects....
 
Liana, I also cant help by laughing non stop while reading ur post.. she is rich,spend more than hundred to rebond hair,which is abt quarter her salary.. like hp, maid can spend one month of their salary for hp.

Mom2nat, my current maid always think she is the best maid..
there was once my hubby talk to her,as she show her black face most of the time, like everybody owe her money..
My hubby asked if she want to stay, work with us or want to go home.. as we dont like to force ppl to work when we know maid not happy..hubby told her, last time when she finish her contract with us(May2005-May2007)..she said want to go home married and we didnt think selfish,must ask her to stay by increase salary or giv more benefits,as we know she can work(she has attitude problem),(actual maid lied,tot to find a better employer)End up we lost a lot of money by changing maid.

Maid also not better, as she work with another employer(June2007-Dec2007)..maid paid loan again,work not happy with that employer(maid said she is fussy,calculative..bla bla..so maid ask for transfer,asked agent to call me,if we can hire her again)..since we cant get another maid that can work,so we hire her again,tot she will appreciate us(maid told agent,compare her ex employer and me,she want to work with me)..

Till she came back..her attitude become worst..I noticed her changes,and saw her note written on my boy's book(she took the book,used as her dairy and keep at laundry area,I actually want to see my boy's homework n saw that,how come my boy keep there,so i flipped thru..too my surprise,saw love note to a man..where are you,I miss u..normally u will be cycling by the road,how come i didnt see u this fews day..)..

She also cried for no reason, that's when my hubby decide to read her sms on her hp,hide behind bath towel, hang in toilet.the number is a m'sia line,I wonder how she knows man from M'sia..

All this rubbish..we talk to her nicely..now she is smart to erase all sms,log call..so her hp is empty.. she still dont follow rules,I allow she used hp after working hr but she use when I'm not at home..where she need to bb care.I tried dont let her use at all(can call home by using calling card,but her usage of hp,not to call home)so when I keep her hp,she is like zombie..everytime tried to giv me reason why she need hp..till i giv up,poor thing..think of so many ways to get hp..Haiz, I dont bother liao..as long her work was done,I ignore her black face,get use to it.

She a capable maid,only when she is in good mood.I always think of her good point,she is initiative,when she is happy.. the only problem is her attitude..work no problem,also can be very clean,can cook,fold clothes nice n neat..she is good for hse work. Child care depend on mood.
 
My maid just has her own problem..yet not open to us(employer)..so cant help her..

I think she actually want to come back to me,thinking she has the freedom to go out without my noticed..but now different with IL..

She might not happy with elderly,although she told us no problem and she want to work,cos after my hubby talk to her,she knows if she is too much,we willing to send her home.

She has to work for money,she knows we are good but she cant do whatever she want..so she is angry with herslf,like forcing herself to work(no choice or she has to go home).Basically not content with what she has now.Or even her problems with man..

I dont care,not worth my concern..as long as she do work,cos every maid has different problem,now my bb still young waiting to go cc in Sept,I hav to travel end July for 2weeks to USA..I'm looking for replacement,also see if she has improvement..timing is not right..learn to tolerate,till I have no feeling.
 
Bee, that employer really pay 70k? How come the agent so irresponsible? insurance cover?

I really have to count our blessing.

I have a malay friend, suggest to me to hire maid directly from Indo, by recommend so can be trusted.. friend said paid maid only SGD200 per month as agreed before hire maid over..no agent involve..friend said,maid is happy with that salary cos its a lot to them..if maid work indo only get SGD60/70 per mth. She dont let the maid go out,so dont mix with others..only work at home.

Of course, have pro n con..the risk,have to send home if not suitable.

Any mummies know, how much is the new maid insurance($192.60) refund if we cancel,depend on how many days?
 
Nellu - they all claimed its the detergent leh! And the nails are really like "being corroded" - not peeling. We dont have loads of washing for her to do, so i wont say its the heavy washing. My maid said the detergent here (and in MY) is too strong as compared in PH. I remembered my first few maids also put so much of detergent powder thinking its the same kind of quality they find in PH. Ended up the whole bathroom all slippery with loads of bubbles - ended up, wasted tonnes of water to wash that away lor! I know in the clinic they sell those creams, but I am unwillingly to bring her see doctor at this stage now.
 
Eileen, nail fungus..maid's nail cut short? or she is allegy to certain chemical in the detergent?

My company dealing with Aloe vera..all products made from Aloe n Bee products.
I'm using the products from head to toe..have beauty,cosmetic,bath n shampoo,detergent,health supplement..btw, I supply Aloe liquid soap,Aloe toner,Aloe gelly for my maid to use for her face.

So far all my maids no problem with Aloe detergent..and they like it very much..its really clean n gentle..my current maid, feedback to me that,she had to wear glove when working with her ex employer(hand very sensitive)..with me is fine.

Can wear glove and wipe hand with cloth every time after washing..also can try Aloe propolis creme..a natural antibiotic creme, kill bacteria and prevent scare.I keep one in my girl's bag when she go CC. Her cc teacher also bought one for herself after she saw its so effective on my girl.

Like now,HFMD is so active, I give my girl health supplements in CC too. Its virus that can't be kill, so only can strengthen the child's immune system. Even if they get it..their body can fight better.

Bee, after I read that post, I really think its so unfair for employer to be responsible for every things regarding maid. Pay 70k, that's a lot..can be a year income for some employer.That's why,how come no rules to protect employer??..
 
Hi Jo,

Sorry for the late reply. I paid $388 for agent fee. Her salary is $320 no off day. She is a transfer maid. She has 2 mths loan.
 
Eve, thanks..$320 for myanmar is ok. now, fresh indo also $350
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can work never mind..

Not selling in departmental store..get directly from USA..only selling in our own company at chinatown.Can PM me for details.
 
liana
ur post on the maid n the rebonded hair very funny. she mmust have went to a cheapo salon to do it kekeke.. serve her right.

my turn. wow lao, my maid testing water or act cute now.. the other day she tie her hair halfway.. then last evening she tie her hair with 2 ponytails. oMg..
 
JChew, aiyo, indo maid also like that? Only 3 months with you? *sign* they really pattern a lot.

Chole, heee..like no win win suitation, no patient to train, still have to have patient to tolerate the ex-maid’s nonsense unless her maid is really good…

Eileen, Thanks for sharing, I was thinking no reason for them to run away cos’ they can tell me if want to go back, oh…I think I better still buy the bond. I though it cost S$120 but saw from some post that is only S$53.50 now?

Bee, oh dear, please take care of yourself & your little one inside. That agency you have mentioned is really irresponsible. Frankly, I haven't heard that maid can chose their employer to get trf., the agency will ensure she gets trf within max. 28 days. Your maid is so ya ya and still want to chose employer for trf? I don't think I can stand this type of maid, I will cancel her permit and send her off to the airport and she can dream to have a good employer back home..haa..I am bad.
 
Hi mummies,

My maid decided to stay afterall. She 'works' very hard these few days to show me she is determine to stay to work. My hb told her we are giving her one more chance and if she still cry homesick and wants to go home, she can go immediately, no need to waste our time.
 
smurfy,
hahaha...i tell you your maid is doing; testing patience, trying to get attention and acting cute...

how old is the maid? what's with the 2 ponytails??

amlamum,
i think most of the mummies here will tell you that it is safer to buy the insurance. Most of us can't think of the reason for them to run away but in reality, they do run away on some of the most absurd reasons. I'm sure if you want to hear of the stories, the mummies who had experienced it would be happy to share with you.

I don't know what you mean by saying that the insurance is "only $53.50". I had earlier hired 2 maids. Both times i paid $50. Now for the third maid who will be coming I paid $53.50. Had never come across a $120 insurance for the security bond.

Bee,
take care. Don't get upset/worked up/angry with the maid or the stupid agent. If by tmw, the transfer deal doesn't pull through, just buy and air ticket and send the maid and her sorry ass home. Be as cold blooded as you can with regards to such issues because it is not worth your health .
 
Jo,
I strongly feel tat u shld return ur maid.She has no heart to work & came out so many "patterns"...quite scary to live wf this kinda maid.Imagine we oredi so tired juggling wf our job & family,still hv to see her "black face" n tolerate her stupid n immature behaviour.

I suspect ur maid might hv a bf in Malaysia.My mum's maid has a bf works in Msia & she always asks my mum to let her to call her Indo bf in Msia.When my mum rejected her request for h/p,she shows black face.

I feel ur maid is taking u for granted.She knows u'll finally give in(gave her back her h/p) if she "act".My ex maid oso showed me black face when I asked her to return back her h/p in the morn.I only allowed her to use at night.

Yesterday,I just scolded my maid.I don't understand why she always throw all the unwanted food on the basin & washed 2gether wf other plates.I told her many times to throw away the food/rice first then wash the plates.Imagine the basin fulls of dirty food+plates.I reali can't stand it.
Another thing..she eats like a small kid,can see all the biscuit/bread everywhere at the kitchen.I tink she is worse than my boy,at least,my boy will hold a plate while he is eating.

Bee72,
U r scaring me.My maid oso always says "Yes madam" or "Sorry madam" in black face.Sometimes,don't even look at me when I tok to her.
Bee,u muz tak care of urself,not worth to let the maid affects u & ur bb.i know it is difficult bcoz these ppl r staying wf us & we cannot avoid them.

Chloe,
i tink ur maid is trying to be funny.I dislike maid which tries to "hide" or play politics when u ask her to do things.My ex maid oso purposely always like to go toilet or stayed in her room when we wanna rush out.She hates to go out bcoz she nid to stay & wait for my boy finish his school.The irritating part is, it always takes her 10min to comb her stupid hair b4 she goes out.Sometx,she even took her sweet times to comb her hair in my car!i was so mad bcoz she made my car so dirty wf her stupid hair.I sent her off after 3weeks!

Nellu,
I am not staying at Bt Batok.It was just a coincidence tat I came across Sincere Maid thru netmaid.com.

amlamum,
according to the agent,if the Myammar maid had worked in SIN b4 or graduate,then she might b able to speak some simple english.

But again,my ex-SIN indo maid(who has 6yrs experience),can't even speak well.Luckily,I can converse in Malay but somehow,sometimes,she seems to be can't understand wat I told her.
 
Nellu, then I must go and look at the bill to check how much I paid for the security bond, scarly goto by the agency! Can share which insurance co. you bot the insurance? You bot it yourself or thru the agency?

Avocado, thanks for sharing, my maid decided to stay so I can only try Myammar maid next year. Can share are they good in taking care of kids and how’s their cooking? Any pattern or not..haa.
 
Avocado, ya..my maid said she has bf in indo(the one she want to go back married),then I asked if her bf can work here after they married..that time maid still ok. maid said no,bf need to stay in indo with his family..

After we know abt the sms fm M'sia..she actually told my hubby that is the bf in indo n sometimes go to m'sia..I dont know how true,just worry she get involve w man,no responsible..empty promise so she become crazy over man.

Mummies, can I ask..
I think its normal when we want children to eat,shower,sleep n they refuse to follow instructions on the spot..what will your maid do?
For me,I will try to use another way/method..let them play a little longer,and tell them to eat/shower..read story book,sing some kid's song to put them to sleep..

(Normally)Just now my maid, just walk away to do hse chores..after trying to put bb to sleep,but bb refuse and crying..
yesterday,my girl refuse to shower after dinner, she leave her in toilet,naked..and she do washing in kitchen..since the kids dont follow..she just leave them go to do hse chores and black face..

I cant tahan and said..I would prefer you tell me,u dont want to work..I cant understand,why u leave the bb alone to cry..maid cry and said sorry she cant help,go another place..I asked what u mean..(she want transfer).

she said she need/has to do hse chores..which I already told her many time that my priorty is children..I think she has so many problems..till no patient with children..

I told her,last time, she is not like this, I miss when she is happy,she will perform well.
She cried..and quiet.. need another talk with her tonight.
 
Nellu and Amlamum - I used to buy the protector before, and it costs me over S$ 100 plus each time too..and its not transferable at all. Imagine i have changed that many maids and paid that much of price for each one of them.
 
er..Jo, I'm like that with my boy sometimes. He gets naughty i just put him in the cot and leave for a while or sit there and ignore him...But i think the issue here is if the maid does it, it's not right...Not having double standards here. I think we parents ourselves know our kids' temperaments better hence would know the limit in applying such tactics with the kids. But the maids...don't think they know, in fact, i don't think they care at all.. Jo, your maid's behaviour shows so clearly that she doesn't care.

you are really very nice to her...if it's me, i would have fired her LONG ago...

Amlamum,
i bought it from the agencies. too much of a hassle to check out myself. i'm a bum
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eileen,
nail fungus?! then it's not solely due to the detergent/cleaning agents lor...possibly could be other factors too...
my last two maids got no problem leh...but yes lah...they like to put A LOT of the detergent! sianz!

get your maid to wear gloves lor...
 
Jo, your maid also wants to be trf? btw, how she know she can be trf? I tot we can return the maid for trf within 6 months to get a replacement maid and after that they have to go home if we terminate or finish the contract? If they can suka suka asked for trf. that's wasting the employer's agency & insurance fee.
 
Nellu, I check and found I paid S$100+each time for the bond, non transferable. The insurance company is Telnet tied in with my agency so they gotok me!

Eileen, you paid the same amt too? That’s y I was surprised to see S$53.50 and tot now the fee became cheaper.
 
That's why, I always feel unfair for employer..like my case..the problem,its her own personal problems that affect her performance n she want to transfer..I have to pay..

She was a transfer maid before come to me..her 1st employer only 3mths, work with me 2yrs, go back..work again with another employer for 6mths and asked agent to call me,transfer to me..

So tonight I better ask what she really want. I know its not the work but its her heart..she is capable to do work,very independent when happy..just her attitude n mood swing that affect her work.

I will encourage her to go back indo to rest. Or only work hse chores,she is not suitable for child care or elderly liao.
 
Hi Jo

I know what you are going through.


My first maid is similar to yours....The final straw from her was pretend her mum is sick, bf has accident and asked to go home...She has two more months to go before contracts end but she just cannot wait....

She even get her aunty to appear at my door, just to show that her mum is really sick...but I know all these are lies....as her mum is not sick at all....found out from someone...

Jo, if you can , let her go, we all know that this maid is not suitable for you and its not worth for you to keep her....
 
Jo,
I have PM you.
Maybe you shd send your maid back as she has not improved after all. She have given her many chances.
 
Jo,
It is scary tat ur maid behaves this way.How can she left ur daughter naked in the bathroom?what if she falls down or catch cold?If she can't handle the children,she shld hv informed u.

If i would u,i'll forget abt talking to her.If she has no heart to work,it is no point to keep her.It is impt to hv a maid who is responsible.
 
Thanks mummies for concern..I want to replace her,searching now.. she is just too much,taking advantages..sorry to say, I will be strict with my next maid.

I'm tolerating all her(maid) nonsense so far as I know, not easy to get a maid that can work.. nobody like to change maid..

Eve, I received ur PM..will email u later..
 
Here's those Filo maids in my neighborhood again...this time they brought a little boy with them. Taken from my car as I was about to reverse out of my driveway. They made the poor little boy sit on the ground. It was drizzling and about to rain. Would you allow your maid to take your kid out and have him sit on a street corner in the rain?
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Jo
I used to talk and talk to my ex maid so often, ask her if she is getting used to it, is it wan to go home, wat she wants, blah blah.. gave her many chances. Frankly, waste time. Train her so hard 9 months, oso sent her off. I think you quickly find replacement, and get rid of this maid, dun make her feel like you NEED her so much. Keep asking her wat she wants for wat, she will not appreciate, only abuse your kindness.
 
Hi ladies, gone for conference the whole day and tmr another day to go, so din post anything. Just in brief, my girl is still too short for the smallest size raincoat. 2ndly, the distance from my house to her kindy is quite far, about 15 mins walk and if my mil brings her, for safety reason (cause alot of traffic), she rather carry my girl, but yet, she has back problem, so the maid got to carry her. As for the stroller, I've the plastic cover for it. My mil wants to use but the maid told her she'll use the sling which my mil din object. Then my mil called me to tell me about it, and I told her that you are the boss, you said and she follow, so why should you listen to the maid not to use the stroller when she said so?

My mil is very scared of maid also, as in she is afraid to make them unhappy and they will do things to my kids, so if possible, she tried not to tell the maid off and "listen" to them for those, not so unreasonable things. That also cause me problems cause my maids are not scared of her and take advantage of her good nature. sigh.
 
JCHEW

I think its normal MIL always behaves this way. Maybe you can just tell your maid follow your instruction, no but or if as you are the boss...

I learnt to be firm with maid in a hard way. Now, no need to learn as really no chemistry with existing maid , find her boring, so no need to talk, good also...
 
JChew,

My mum also very scare of maid, say we must be nice to them else they takan our kids. I was good to my very 1st maid then strict with my subsequent maid and I find being strict to them and they have lesser nonsense.

Any mummies know we can only change 4 maids per year?
 
latest updates about my maid. this morning the ang moh sign her up liao. anyway, it is good also since i dont have to pay the air ticket but i am still worried if the processing will be on time before i leave the country next week for a short break.
one of my buddhist friend was telling me that i must have 'owed' this maid in my previous life!
anyway, i think the ang moh deserves my maid since they are so taken up by her angelic performance! my maid was always bad mouthing her previous employer. she used to cry in the 1st 3 months telling me she sometimes misses the 3 kids she looked after and also pity them get caned by the parents etc. but after 3 months of service the crying suddenly stop ler (right after i increase her salary and right after the free transfer for me expired).
since i already hinted the ang moh that i dont have any comments on the maid childcare, they should be smarter than to hire her lah. some of these ang mohs are quite judgemental on locals on how we treat our maids. my maid has her own room, her own mobile phone which i subside $10 a month, she gets allowance for her lunch, gets her off day once a month, gets to go out to the bank during weekdays, can wear tight clothing and shorts, is alone most of the day, can put on makeup, can eat anything she wants, can rest in the afternoon...she is like the 'tai tai' of the house in the day time. so now i can 100% say i have tried my best as an employer and as a kind human being.
good luck to her and her new employer!
 
hey, the article states this:

...This is unlikely to go down well with employers, some of whom harbour fears about their maids going astray on their off days. One common worry: They will forfeit their bond money if their maids get pregnant. Calling this a misconception, Mr Gee clarified: “They will lose their bond only if they fail to get the maid repatriated.”...
 


bee,

What you said "some of these ang mohs are quite judgemental on locals on how we treat our maids."...I would tell you most of them are. They think we treat the maids like servant.

In fact I had a very very bad incident with my 2nd ex maid involving a self righteous brit woman and in PUBLIC. I got scolded by the brit using the F**K word 3 times, very loudly in the middle of NTUC. And why? only because i told my maid quite loudly cos she was quite far away from me, to be careful with the trolley. She was stupidly reversing into an old lady behind her on walking stick!! I was told that I had to "F**KING mind my manners" and "not talk to the poor maid like this!"...and what did the rubbish of the maid do??? Snigger away!! DID NOT EVEN apologies to me at least!
 
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