Hi Ladies, I have a 15 month old son & hired an Indo helper to look after him since he was born. After completing 1 year of service with me, she requested for hp usage. I keep her phone during the day & hand it to her at night after baby sleeps. She also started having off day once a month. Recently I found out that she has another hp which she has been hiding from me. I found out one day when she went to the market & I heard something vibrating in her bag. I was shocked when I saw that she had this bangla bf calling her & sending her sms on WhatsApp. Exchanging messages like I love you & I miss you etc. I even saw some pics they exchanged of them kissing & hugging during her off day. I even saw that while bringing my son to my mum's place she met him at the interchange and he took a pic of her holding my son. She was wearing some fancy accessory & sunglasses and posing. My neighbour also once mentioned to me that she saw my maid outside my flat at the lift area talking to this bangla while my baby is asleep at home. I have installed cameras at home. I was very annoyed and upset when I saw that this was happening, esp after seeing such pics! My agent tells me I should send her back home without giving her prior notice. However the only problem is that she can look after my son very well & treats him good. She has the patience to care for him as he is rather playful and active. She also tells me from time to time that she treats him like her own son. What should I do? Any advice will be highly appreciated!
Advice on domestic helper!
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novitahandoko
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Thats the problem with maid when they start using hp and off. If you send her back not sure if you can find new maid as good as her in term of look after your son. But you also have to consider when they meet up and do like kissing or other nasty things in front of your son. 15 months very fast to copy now, so scary. And danger also that she can left your son while sleeping to meet that bangla guy. I think better you talk to her, that you not comfortable anymore and she just break your trust about the hp. Means she hiding from you to have another phone. And if her priority is to earn money to support her family she can decide. But if not better send her back i think, before anything happen to your son.
babytwinkle
Member
There is plenty of maid out there in Indonesia and Philippine
You definitely don have to rely on ur current one ..all u need time is to interview and of cos is matter of luck.
I cannot accept maid that lies or even secretly have another hp.
U shld spend time talk to her understand what she want and let her know your expectation.
You can sense it from conversation. I wont wanna put my kid at risk esp if she open door allowing stranger in or she bring ur son go out to meet the guy and lost?
You definitely don have to rely on ur current one ..all u need time is to interview and of cos is matter of luck.
I cannot accept maid that lies or even secretly have another hp.
U shld spend time talk to her understand what she want and let her know your expectation.
You can sense it from conversation. I wont wanna put my kid at risk esp if she open door allowing stranger in or she bring ur son go out to meet the guy and lost?
TwinnyStars
Member
Hi mummies,
My myanmar maid will be here soon. Any advise? Any terms and conditions I need to state in advance? If mummies have a sample terms or schedule, can email me?
This is my first time employing a maid. Hopefully she will be good.
My myanmar maid will be here soon. Any advise? Any terms and conditions I need to state in advance? If mummies have a sample terms or schedule, can email me?
This is my first time employing a maid. Hopefully she will be good.
TwinnyStars
Member
Hi mummymay,
Maid employed through agent. Was just told maid has arrived and will be doing her health checks. If pass, I can pick her up soon. I chose an ex-SG Myanmar maid who has worked 1.5 years in SG. Hopefully she will be good and able to relieve me of household chores. But as this is my first time employing a full time maid, I'm not sure how to deal with her. I've prepared some basic toiletries like soap, shower, shampoo, toothpaste, toothbrush etc. Anything else I need to prepare?
My family eats bread with peanut butter or jam every morning. I heard they like to eat rice. Do I let her cook rice or eat bread like my family?
TwinnyStars
Member
I'm ok to let her eat rice for breakfast if she likes it and cook it herself. I understand that she needs lots of energy to work. Will talk to agent again to find out more. Thanks.
What has she done? I also just had a Myanmar maid but so far still ok.
tryingtoconceive2014
Active Member
Hi mummymay,
Alternatively, you can give her monthly household money. That is what my mom does with all our maids at home, so that they can buy whatever they like to eat.
My helper is not choosy with food. Most of the time she eats the same food as the family. Except for breakfast, I realised she likes biscuits more than bread so I just buy her biscuits and instant coffee. One of my criterias is for my chosen helper is to eat almost anything as I find it troublesome to cater to one who doesn't eat certain food or has certain restrictions.