Hi, can someone help me please!! I currently emotionally torn between to file for divorce or not, suffering heart pains and sleepless night since last week. My husband of 14 years betrayed me, abuse my trust for him and hvg an extra marital affair (he even forged a cert of annulment to denied the existence of kids and me... he obtained it from google search sample) and denied all the way till the very last min only to admit upon confrontation with a strong evidence (thru words of mouth from very close relative). Before that he even accuse me of not trusting him which causes him lot of stress... Courtship 5years and marriage for 14years, I am a full-time housewife, a mother of 3 kids age 2-11. Everydays from dawn to dust, fr diaper changing to changelleing schoolworks( No tuition since day 1 of school and now despite No good rate in study- coz their father's claim that he cannot afford), cooking, washing laundry, sending kids to and fro school by bus/walk( my husband, a VP in banking industry, who have a car but he dun do it), tendering to sick , doing everthings A-Z 24/7 365/year single handed w/o any help from day 1 of my motherhood. While I working hard for my family, my husband is working, partying, clubbing, socializing, sports and now hvg affair..........actually, a few years back, I sensed something not right but he assured him that, I am the one and only one he love and will be the wife till the last day of his life. I stay committed to my marriage as I love him wholeheartedly from day one and only for the sake of my children's (I want them to grow up from a complete family with both father and mother, now especially my youngest is only 2 yrs old)..... But this round, he keep mum and did not even apologize for his wrongdoing after admit to the affair only to claim that he is yearn for love and lack from home ground.... Where is he usually not home to enjoy them. Me and the kids, we are also yearning for love to no avail..... Leave the house as early as 7am and back at 2-3am daily........he even ask me to let him stay away from home for a indefinite period of time to so call do his own self reflection and think. He is a VP in names but at hPosted on Friday, March 09, 2007 - 1:39 pm:
When asked, I just say I'm a single mom with three kids. They ask more, then I share that he's getting married to his girlfrient. People tend to understand and don't ask too much.
There WILL be people who speak negatively of you. Just ignore them. We have more important things to worry about.
I divorced my ex due to irresponsible behaviour. There was adultery but I did not have sufficient evidence nor could I afford a PI. I used PPO, bank letters of demands, police reports of abuse and thefts/sales of our family items as documents.
BUT he wanted the divorce. He didn't want to wait the 3 year separation. So he pushed me to file. And I eventually did cos you need two people to make a marriage work.
You can try what I did and ask for sole custody. Unless he objects, you'll get it without question.
My ex pays for some childcare fees (direct to the school) and my parents for care of the kids. He does't want to give me $ direct. It's $700 in all for all three children aged 5 to upper primary. Pathetic right?ome, lot and lot of bills unsettled, pink reminder letters, lawyer letters, fines keep rolling in.... And I am a ZERO income housewife with NO saving..., NO allowance($50/week for 3 kids& myself) ... What can I do now? Filing for divorce, with his current financial status, am I able to obtain any child support and spousal support??? Even the current house (in 2 names- through I did not contribute $) is still $4-500k outstanding..... Am hurt by what my dearest husband did to me, to the kids, am scare for the future, am worry for my kids...... total devastated, am loss...any good advices please!!!!!