abortion

[saddistmum]

i strongly need advice. I was once a divorcee(so is my husband) n one week ago, i m married again with a 13 week baby in my stomach. My husband n i recently quarelled alot n my husband had a verge to give up our marriage due to alot of disputes.( I didnt do anything wrong). My husband just don like one of my male colleage who probe too much into our matter. i oso feel like giving up too but how abt my baby? i doesnt wan to undergo divorce again. my mum n sister also wanted me to give up.

 

[janey09]

U can't divorce. Your marriage less than 3 years

 

[jayjayqueenie]

how far along are you in your pregnancy. i am guessing u r in early pregnancy and u have not told anyone yet.

 

[Mongkok]

As read, i don't understand why u can allow a male colleague to interfere in your marriage.

Your husband dislike of your male colleague is from a third party pov and that shld b regarded. Coz it's vice versa.

Marriage is about compromising during bad times.

You had a failed marriage before. That shld serve as a wake up call but not an exit option when u encounter problem in your this marriage.

Your poor kid is truly innocent. Daddy feeling jealous and protective while mummy is ok w a male colleague probing into her life.

Seriously, you shld b a mature person by now. Be responsible to yourself, your choice and your child. Think from your husband pov. Don't think u can take it if the role is reversed.

Your mum and sis wans you to give up. Any guarantee that they will find you a better man? If you present only the negative side of him, the world will ask u to Dv. But only u know the other side of the coin.

He is the father of you unborn child. Respect your judgement. Some ppl are there for dramas only. Your life your choice.

Tackle from the root of the problem. Exit is nvr a solution unless he is abusive.

You hv a simpler problem (read this forum). But you took the extreme for solution.

 

[saddistmum]

is 13 weeks. initally i did think of abortion n went to clinic. but when i saw my baby during the ultran scan..i cry very hard n loud..i know i cant bear to do so.

U can't divorce. Your marriage less than 3 years

annulment?

 

[jayjayqueenie]

i really believe u havent tell anyone about your pregnancy. am i right ?

 

[saddistmum]

i really believe u havent tell anyone about your pregnancy. am i right ?

yupz..only my mum n sis know.

 

[jayjayqueenie]

yupz..only my mum n sis know.

so why dont you tell your husband ?
what did your colleague talk to you about to let your husband feel he is interfering with your life ?

 

[coachy0203]

Totally agree with what Mong kok said.

Nobody would understand the situation clearer than yourself including your sis and mom. Im surprised they didnt encourage you to keep the baby. Abortion is bad emotionally and physically.

Why dont you talk to your husband about the baby and 2 of you try to speak to a marriage counsellor?

 

[be-brave]

if ur husband don't like ur colleague probing, y not stay further away from ur colleague or don't let him in to ur home affairs? not worth to give up ur marriage becos of ur colleague, right?

think quarrel as a form of communication to understand each other.

is easy to give up and run away but u won't get anyting at the end.

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[Lee Weijie]

please not give up your babe.

 

[lostmypurpose]

Do you harbour feelings for your colleague? If not just stay a distance as friends. Don't need to reveal too much. Also you should tell your hubby about the baby, and see what his reaction is. That should tell whether he still cares about you.

 

[hellocheng]

i strongly need advice. I was once a divorcee(so is my husband) n one week ago, i m married again with a 13 week baby in my stomach. My husband n i recently quarelled alot n my husband had a verge to give up our marriage due to alot of disputes.( I didnt do anything wrong). My husband just don like one of my male colleage who probe too much into our matter. i oso feel like giving up too but how abt my baby? i doesnt wan to undergo divorce again. my mum n sister also wanted me to give up.

Geez. I think you need to talk to your husband about this. Also, you should not allow your male colleague sticking his nose with your relationship matters. You definitely need to settle all scores now for the baby.

 

[margret]

sorry but your advice come too late.