Julie,
Haiz... Guess things spark off when relatives like to compare. They always compare us and partly becos I used to be a homemaker, thus better at handling kids whereas she has never taken care of her kids on her own. She relie a lot on my MIL.
Worse when our kids shares very close birthday. When I had #1, she decided to hold a BBQ to celebrate her son's 7 yr old bday so we gave in and never do any full month since #1's time. She even called MIL to tell us not to go over to the BBQ cos I'm still in confinment, consider 'dirty' will crush with the bday boy.
When we had #2, she host full month celebration for her #3, house warming, bday celebration for her #2 within 3 months. MIL worried tt ppl will say we want ang bao so tell us not to have any for #2.
When ppl come to my hse for both #1 & #2's 1st bday bash, they would commend how big & spacious my hse is, compared to her new 4 rm. (Mine was resale 5i, so bigger and more comfortable when hosting guests and I have no problem with 80 pax, where else her 4rm is cramp with even 30 paxcan also see her face not happy.
In fact, she is much more worried if this pregnanacy is a boy cos most relative have been teling her & her son, if this is a ger, her son will be the only boy in the family of 7 grandchildren. She is even more concern if I leave the bb for my MIL to take care, her 4 yr old ger will be getting less attention from MIL.
I was telling hubby, luckily we did ask MIL if she wants to help in care giving for bb in 2010 before we even decide to plan for 1. Otherwise, she will tell me like in 2009 that she wants MIL to concentrate on her ger cos she ger needs attention.
