Online shopping
Like starry and l.tulips, im a hopeless shopaholics, so can imagine my flat' going to be overstuffed from anything and everything. I also started excessive online shopping since having #1, has never stop. I think online shopping in sg has taken off esp when the region currency is weak against our sgd. I can imagine when i move back to sg soon, my flat is going to be seriously cramped. I think all my 2 kids gonna share room forever as the other room is study cum pc/entertainment toy room for hb. When i moved back to sg, am going to do some jumble sale on bb and my stuff cheaply or donate to library or charity.
Little bb
Hmm i think when u will be a lot more stronger than u think u r once bb is out. Motherhood does the incredible boost to growth as a person and crisis management when it comes to family. U will do the make decisions that will put ur kids in top priority. Communication and trust between a couple are important and need to build up over time.
I have a gf when is also a sahm of 2 kids. Her husband is one who takes pride in his appearance, dress well etc and all his buddies are girls. Dun ask me how my gf can stomach but i know my gf has a way to contain her hb. She knew before marriage that her hb is always a lady person. In fact hb gets so well with his friends who are girlst that his birthday gifts are excessively generous such as iphone, ipad etc by his good lady friends. We did have xmas dinner a few years back and did experience his friendliness to all the wives compared to our hb. My friend and i did ask this gf how did she do it. She says she knows her hb is such a person and she has no intention to stop him but she also did tell hb that she has her limits as how far he can go. My this gf says she is confident of herself and ability as a wife. She knows how to really pamper her hb once he is home like wait up for him even though he finish work usually abt 11pm and serve him fruits and chat a little before they sleep. In fact she prob takes care of her hb so well that if she is not ard i doubt the hb knows how to take care of himself. I think he will miss his wife. I think she has a way with her hb,
I believe majority of the married ladies are not in favour of their hb being too friendly. There should always be a baseline on how far hb shd be friendly to their good girl-friends. All these need to be communicated. Importantly being wives, we need to learn to know abt hb and help him hold on to his heart dearly to us and our family. This would involves lotsa love, understanding, communication to make him feel important to be loved, treasured and needed in the family. This hopefully help him to prioritise his objectives in life. Like my gf, maybe we all need to know how to have a hold on our hb so that if we are not around, they will miss us incredibly.
Like what l.tulips suggest, doing common interest things will engage and strengthen your love to each other. Children is always a family binding instrument as they are the fruits of love. Hence going for prenatal class, shopping for bb, talking about house roles when bb is out and how parental styles will take for your family are all very powerful avenues to keep hb involved and be responsible.
I hope the above sharing helps to let u know that there are hb out there who still have good friendship with ladies and you are not alone though we are not in favour if we can choose. There are other things we can do since they are our hb [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif] We can talk, do other things that bind our relationship stronger n now with bb coming along, bb will help hb to be more steadfast as well.
In fact i think we can do some pre-bb delivery gatherings for tea, window shopping or simply talk to release steam. This will def help to encourage and edify one another. Being pregnant these days are so much more fun. All thanks to support group and internet liberation.
High chance that my #2 may not be easy to take care compared to my #1. My #1 has the best of everything and i think all moms will feel the same. The moms usually have better environment to be smiley, happy, and plenty of rest. Come #2, total diff situation if u have no help like parents', school or helper' support. I think this is part of life and motherhood, just deal with our mood swings as we go along. Dun pressurise yourself too much, it wd get worse the more worried u r. Let nature do its work.