vv, last time i also very soft w my girl till she climbs all over me... my hubby said let her cry lor... i consulted her previous cc teacher on how to do it.. so starting w the naughty corner (which is no use liao), smacking (her skin thick liao) and curently using the "carrot" method... if she's good, she get what she wants... otherwise, nothing... at 1st, hve to endure her screaming/crying/fussing.. i remember once only her and i eat in a restaurant (not many pp there) and she refuses to eat and spill the food all over the table.. so i told her ok, wait till mummy finish and u will get it fr me when back home... she screams while i eat my meals.. i learnt how to endure her screaming/fussing/etc in public... they r very good at embrassing u but as long as no attention given for mis-behaviour, she will quieten down and she even can self-entertain herself by talking to herself.. of course, once home, smack her and got to sit her down later why the smacking... took me a few mths to get the messages accros to her.... now she dun want to do things, i get my cane and she will immediately do it liao... sometimes i also pamper her lah esp she got it fr my hubby
oh, even my niece and nephew knows that if they dun behave well, they will get it fr me (verbally lah... as for the physical part, i will tell their parents and they take over fr there) maybe can get yr hubby to be the "bad" guy and u be the "good" guy and he might learn fr there...