won mummy
same same! grands dote on them, even other elders also want to side with kids. if so, we will "punish" our kids even harsher. eg, if i am scoldin #1 at the table, inlaws come n sayang her instead, i will command my kid to stand at the gate instead. my gal wil cry even louder. then i will "wayang", tell her who ask her to disobey me n "talk to others" while i lecturing her. for #2, when elders gave her sweets or drinks while i feedin, my gal wil stop eatin, then start screamin n cryin for the snacks, i will purposely place out of her reach, n say clearly to "her", no one can give u anything to eat/drink until i say u can after u finish ur meal. of cos, elders n grands sure unhappy tat i "torturin" the kids, give black face, i stil do so. the more they try to let the child disobey orders, the harsher we punish the kids infront of them, to let them know the more they try to stand in our way of teachin, the more the kids goin to suffer bcos of them tryin to help them. so now, they dun interfere n even try to do our ways even when we not ard. cos they know if they let my kids cultivate the bad habits, n i saw it, my kids wil sure get it big time.. n i wil sure find a way to hint it bcos their grands cause them to b scolded/punished de... i am the mean dil/daugther lor... but i think my hubby even more jiatlat, cane til got marks so tat my kid will show the grands the nxt day..... but if dun teach them right from the start, it b even more tough when they grow older.
same same! grands dote on them, even other elders also want to side with kids. if so, we will "punish" our kids even harsher. eg, if i am scoldin #1 at the table, inlaws come n sayang her instead, i will command my kid to stand at the gate instead. my gal wil cry even louder. then i will "wayang", tell her who ask her to disobey me n "talk to others" while i lecturing her. for #2, when elders gave her sweets or drinks while i feedin, my gal wil stop eatin, then start screamin n cryin for the snacks, i will purposely place out of her reach, n say clearly to "her", no one can give u anything to eat/drink until i say u can after u finish ur meal. of cos, elders n grands sure unhappy tat i "torturin" the kids, give black face, i stil do so. the more they try to let the child disobey orders, the harsher we punish the kids infront of them, to let them know the more they try to stand in our way of teachin, the more the kids goin to suffer bcos of them tryin to help them. so now, they dun interfere n even try to do our ways even when we not ard. cos they know if they let my kids cultivate the bad habits, n i saw it, my kids wil sure get it big time.. n i wil sure find a way to hint it bcos their grands cause them to b scolded/punished de... i am the mean dil/daugther lor... but i think my hubby even more jiatlat, cane til got marks so tat my kid will show the grands the nxt day..... but if dun teach them right from the start, it b even more tough when they grow older.