rach, yes yes! exactly what i meant to say. We learned that in church right? [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif] hehe.... yupz, negative confession is like a self fulfilling prophecy... a lot of people grow up with rejection issues cos they were told by their parents that they were stupid, ugly, and picked up from the rubbish bin....etc... but sometimes when we get angry, evil thoughts come into our minds...but i try my best not to say the words out loud...we can't stop birds from flying across our heads but we can stop them from building a nest!
when i first delivered, the first things my in laws said were "cannot praise baby"....i just totally ignore that advice lor, if you dun praise your child (of course not all the time) when they achieve a milestone, they will grow to think that they are never good enough. Then today, got some great grand aunt at the holiday resort, she started to use "chao barbie" and started to say things like, "every job also requires education, road sweeper, rubbish collector etc all requires education" BO LIAO ONE!!!! say those things for what! Every time come back home from resort, i will just pray and renounce all those negative things spoken at my baby