allets dun be angry, u know what, my hb was like yours when i had my #1...they dont have the maternal instincts like we do, so they dont place lots of bb related issues on priority (like we do)...
and also, men are scientifically proven to be less adept at multitasking (unlike us)
of course we cannot say "oh men are like this thats why have to accept them", but my point is it takes a long time for them to "wake up" or come around to their senses....that we are having a baby and they need to take on more than they can handle.
for mine, it took my hb 2 years before he could perfectly well handle my son
some women are lucky (eg 2ks??) where their spouse are more helpful than their comfort zone...
we will never be satisfied with what they have done because we know we can do more than them; but for them, they think that they have done a lot, which is a huge step for them. take heart that he is doing more (but in your eyes, never enough) and appreciate him. think of this issue in another positive light?
we can always be angry at them lor, but it hurts the relationship...your spouse would feel that u put your child as #1, and not him anymore, felt left out...things can go downhill one de
always remember kids are based on your foundation of marriage so actually your r/s with your hb is more impt that your kids. maybe now you dont think so, coz bb is newborn but many years down the road, you wud realise this
how i know? coz last time my marriage counsellor tell me one de, we quarrelled so much over our son until very jialatz need to seek counselling