hey hey esp to mummies with elder kids,
Do your parents show favouritism to their grandchildren? I have 2 girls, #1 is 3yrs and #2 is 22 months.
My mum shows very obvious preference to my #2, probably coz she isat the age where she 'parrots' everything my mum says and indeed very cute lah. For my #1, she is more articulate but being older, she isat the stage shewants to assert her independence and sometimes my old school mum getsangry and disciplines her --which i think can be very harsh sometimes.
My #2 also quite a fussy gal so mymum will useall sorts of ways to cajole her to eat her porridge--like allowing her to walk around while eating or watch her fave videos while eating. Then when my elder girl does that, she scolds her! (e.g. "Why are u walking aroundwhile eating? SIT DOWN!") I feelvery upset when i see her favouring one over the other!
When we bring the kids to her place, she will straightaway go for #2, ignoring #1! Even when my elder gal calls her, she is oblivious to it. Then later she will turn ard and ask my girl "Why u never call me!" I find myself having to defend my elder gal all the time ;(
When i tell her that she is playing favourites, she just becomes defensive, 'Where got" or "But XXX needs to be disciplined!"
Tdy, my eldest girl tells me, shedon't like Po po, she likes Nai Nai (my MIL) and Gong Gong (My dad). I think she doesn't understand why Po Po is so harsh onher, and shedoesn't feel good about it, but she doesn't know its because of favouritism. I feel for her! I think she is at the agewhere her emotional needs need to be met and i feel upset when my mum is so partial.
Next week i'm going back to work so my Mumwill be looking after thekids while we r at work. I'm so worried for my girl. [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/sad.gif]
