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Sayang sayang, it must be very hard on you. My husband travels a lot too and he may need to travel in June, when I'm due! Imagine how I felt when he told me that. He even asked if I'm willing to do a C-sect to accomodate his schedule. Faint... But he's attitude is a little different from that of your husband's, so all I can say is that communication is important. It is a very emotional time for us ladies so of course we expect our husbands to be more considerate. However, after years of dating and a few (horrible) boyfriends, I have come to lower my expectations. I'm not saying this in a negative way, but the way men are wired is really strange.
Sigh, what to do? In the end, he said he won't travel in June on his own accord. I didn't and couldn't pressure him, cos he keeps telling me that he is very stressed at work and he needs to keep his job for me and baby. So there you go, what can you say when he brings this up? Of course, he said it nicely, but it still irks me.
I gathered from your post that you're already doing a lot at home for yourself, and I think you're very strong to stomach all your grievances. Just try to continue to talk to him nicely, maybe it will help? No point showing him black face, it will only make him more defensive. I'm also doing my best when my husband irritates me, cos now that I'm pregnant, really have no energy to pick a fight.
Hang in there and if need be, sit down with him and a neutral third party, like a counsellor or a very objective relative? All the best and I hope things work out for you. You can PM me if you need to talk. Marriage is hard work, isn't it?
