Jolene, my vote is for Javian too!
Belly Button
Mine protruded some time back - early march, I think.
Vent (warning, long)
I'm very frustrated with my husband. The problem is, he is involved in a project related to the World Expo in Shanghai. After Chinese New Year, he went to Shanghai for 2 weeks. Then in March, he was there for a total of 3 weeks, with a 2 night break in between. Actually, he could have remained in Singapore for 3 more nights, but flew there on Friday morning, and then spent the weekend going on day trips with his colleagues. I was quite upset that he did that, when he could have spent more time here and help me with organising the baby's room.
Last week, he wanted to go again, but I asked if he could not go, because it is getting more and more inconvenient for me. So his 2 other colleagues went instead. Then he quarreled with me and told me that he wished he were in Shanghai instead of in Singapore with me.
Then last night, he told me that he really bo pian, must go to Shanghai again end of this week. Of course I wasn't very happy lah, but I did not say he die die must stay in Singapore. But he's not happy because I did not "support" him. I told him I am not happy he has to go and is not asking another colleague to go instead (he is management, can send one of the engineers to go one), but I am already supporting him by saying that if he must go then I also bo pian. But he is not happy because I am not happy that he is going to Shanghai. He also said that there is another trip in May, and he confirmed not going for that one, so I should be happy. Wah piang, I am due in June leh. And not every baby will swee swee come on due date right? He still want to make it sound like he is doing me a favour that he is not going in May? This is his baby also leh. I feel like telling him - if work is so important, more important than his wife and unborn child, then May also go lor. I wash my hands liao. He is very irritating, when he first went after CNY, I was emotionally more stable and much smaller, so I didn't make a fuss - he says he dun feel that I need him. Now I need him to not travel, he says I am not understanding and am giving him extra stress.
He complains that his job is stressful enough, he does not need me to give him more things to worry about. But that is life, right? Work got stress and things to think and worry about, home life also got things to think and worry about. It is part of life that we got to balance the two isn't it? You mean just because he got stress at work I must pretend that I dun have needs and concerns just to make his life easier?
Then, over the weekend, we finally got Starhub, and he set up the set top box. But he put on the floor with the wires and plastic bag and box all over the place. I close eye. But today my part-time helper coming, so bo pian, but set it up properly in the cabinet. Ask him to do, say dowan to do. So bo pian lor, I do what I can, but because of my big belly, I cannot reach behind the cabinet, so no choice, got to ask for his help. He help, but then got problem, no signal. So he got to fiddle with it. Bad mood, face black. Once he got the signal, he said, that's it! You deal with everything else. He's not going to bother with it anymore, leave me to sit on the floor and make sure that the hub station and all the other gadgets that we had to move around were properly in the cabinet, and not hanging from the wire, in danger of dropping. With the pelvic and back pain we've been experiencing, sit on floor is very uncomfortable for me. Then must keep squatting to pick up all the things he left on the floor. Big belly very uncomfortable and inconvenient.
Then he was so angry, whole of last night and this morning give me silent treatment.
I mentioned that have to organise the baby's room, right? What we're doing is converting my study into the nursery, and using his study as a common study. So got to go through my things, and move them to his room. He helped with moving the furniture - book shelves and wardrobe, because there is no way I can push them now that I am pregnant. But everything else leave me to do. All the books and baby things his relatives passed to us I have to carry over myself. Because it is my responsibility. Not "our" responsibility, but "my" responsibility. Like the baby is mine only. I tried to tell him that it is both our responsibility to get the nursery ready, but he say I'm trying to pass/push my responsibility to him.
So what, his responsibility is only to donate sperm and earn $$ izzit? I am so, so irritated and frustrated with him.
He always complain that I dun think of him the things he has to deal with, but is he thinking of me and what I have to deal with?
I just wanted/needed to vent, and also to ask - am I being unreasonable and hormonal?
Someone help me please.
