(2009/09) September 2009 MTBs

Rach, it does seem like she is really good. I am looking for someone to help take care of the babies for 1 or 2 mths so not sure besides CL,who else to engage.
 


<font color="0000ff">Rach, </font>
U check if her tummy is round and hard - and her cry tone is sharp and screaming then I might be colic. For me I preferred pump then latching - latching is taking longer time and I do nt know how much she is drinking. Each
time she suckle also fall alsp so night time I definitely won't wan to latch her.
Today baby is nt crying but she wake up every 1.5hrs interval for milk. tis 2 days I'm reli exhausted, engine can't move soon.
I tried give her more abt 70ml - 80ml it seems she hv difficulties to finish it and merlion as well. Then 60ml is just nice but she woke up so frequently for milk.
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My 210ml is before latchin... each pump min I will get 150ml. Just finished pumping - from 3.30am - 630am I produced 170ml.

ur ML seems gd - can u give me her contact?
 
Hi Mama to 6Js
You're very fortunate to have 2 helpers! But you probably need it.
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Not easy even though your two older ones are now sorta independant. Helping with schoolwork is time consuming too. My #1 is now 22 months old. Unfortunately, I am now living in Auckland and domestic help is virtually unheard of here because of the minimum wage labour law. Even my part-time cleaner who comes in once a week charges $70 each time just for general cleaning. One thing I've really struggled to adjust to was being independant and having to cope with houseowork on my own again.

Shelled,
I'd love to have a playdate with you but I live very far from you... like as in different country lor. haha. Main reason I still come onto this forum is just habitual, because I depended on it so much during my first child and I made some really good friends on the forum. Sad thing is I can no longer meet up with people I meet on the forum. And thnaks for the info on the milk savers.
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RE : Pouch slings
Any mummies here use pouch sling to carry and nurse baby? I spend so much time nursing and not enough time doing anything else that I'm thinking of getting a pouch sling so I can walk around while baby is feeding inside and have my handsfree. Easy to use or not huh?
 
Hello mummies!

Too tired to sleep.... so pop in here b4 hubby finds out and KPKB. I Popped on Monday morning. Started with natural then plus gas, then epidural than got stuck at 8cm, ended up with emer C-sect with epi, 12 hours later. Sigh.... Anyway, BB is out and IT'S DEFINITELY BETTER TO HAVE HIM INSIDE THAN OUTSIDE!!!!!

I was discharged yesterday noon and since then it was a nightmare. Baby Ian wanna feed so regularly and need to change nappy so often. Hubby can't handle these and my wound hurts so much. Fortunately my mum is around to help... what to do without her!

SHELLED
I'm really considering buying the BF pillow, I remembered u tried to dissuade JUL from buying it previously. Is it really going to be a waste? I'm having problem feeding my baby cos of the wound. And if I use football hold, he keep slipping off into the gap b/w pillow and me. My arms are arching from holding him in place.

Taking care of the bb and adjusting to this new "lifestyle" is really difficult. Really hope I can pull thru'. Gambate to myself and all the other mummies!
 
<font color="ff0000">bbq></font> oh.. u mean after ur confinement??? u delivereed liaoz rite if i didnt rem wrongly...
u have a twins yah???
nanny??? just 1 or 2 months?? she can only come out for 1 month.... so.. i dun think she can help for 2 months...
MMmm.... i can check with her later..she just left home for market....
where do u stay?
she has a job in Dec..so she prob can only help u in Nov if she's available... but maybe u wanna give me more details..
or i check with her first.. if she can make it any time in Nov i give u her number or vice versa?
She is with me till 7th Oct...
i think she need to go back at least 2 weeks before she can come out for a month..
what is ur plan??

Hey.... u can call me... i just checked with her... u call me and talk to her...
then see what u want..see if she can accomodate...
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i PM u my number later...

<font color="ff0000">Happykae></font>
oh yes... its sharp and screaming for the past 2 nites previously... but last 2 nites she's ok liaoz..
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yah...so nite time i let CL feed her... day time i latch lo..
seems like she can sleep longer this way coz she is full and we know how much she drank..
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u pump for 3 hours??????????????????????
i pumped from 145am - 3am yielded 80ml earlier i happy liaoz..progressed from yest's 60ml per pump... hahaha..
and my nipples already so sore from th pumping.. how to pump 3 hours?? i'll cry.. or my nipples will.. hahaha....

My ML is in the FYI list... Mona...
but she's fully booked till Nov... u can try calling her..if she cant make it, she'll get her sister to help out..
she trained her sister..but her sister only does Mona's clients who stays in the East...
So u can try calling her..
She is even booked 10months in advance..regular customers wil call her to book her once they are pregnant...
kua zhang rite???
Now i trying to get her to give me another 5 sessions...she gotta see her schedule and let me know again.,
Coz when i booked her. i only told her 5 sessions...
(coz she was real cheap at $160 for 5 sessions...i dunno she good or not..i did ask why she never increase price even though she's in this line for 30 yrs,
she said coz all her customers are regulars and referrals..she dun wana just increase like that.. but effect Nov 09, she's increasing to $170 for 5 sessions..)
So... still very cheap loh..compared to the usual $50... or $60, $80....)
my next birth i sure book 20 sessions with her.. hahaha....

Sorry ah..my hp not with me now.. pumping milk..immobile..so u check the FYI list... its added in before.. Mona..
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She's 50 years old..who looks like 30-40s loh...super petite but dun see her petite... very strong hands..


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not sure if i should buy???
pls advise!!!
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<font color="ff0000">itsy></font>
for the nursing pillow, i have one..not the Brest friend brand though.. it was a gift from friends...
its those $40++ one... available at Kiddy Palace and it does help me alot in supporting my bb...
without it, i gotta stack pillows upon pillows... i guess we'll outgrow it soon.. but for initial stage, it does help alot..
maybe no need to get the brest friend one which cost $70++ or $100++.. i not very sure..
get the simple $49 one will do i think...
since we wont need it when bb gets bigger..
i find the one i have good enough la...
i sit on it for the 1st few days also coz of the stitches below.. but its still in good shape.. not bad la..can withstand a 85kg sitting on it..
still never go out of shape.. hgahahaa.... :p

jiayou jiayou!! its not easy with c-sect.. but u can do it!!
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shelled> wat nursing tanks are u all buying?? how much?? but i limited colors. i only like black, brown, gray this kinda color -_-"

flower4> i heard bottle fed bbs are more prone to colic. not sure how true

pamelia> jiayou
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ling> wow. u delivered later den me but got so much more milk than me!!

rach> wow. keke. my ml ask me start massage only on the 28th. i delivered on de 3rd. she say will advise btw 5-7 sessions after she see me. i think she is not bad la. anyway is jenifur recommend one. keke. i'll let u all know after i start her
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eh. y must charge extra if cook for family? my CL nv charge extra. sometimes my parent drop in for dinner n dey eat tgt. but my cl charges 2k. she dare not ban me fr doing anything. cos she say i m boss, but certain things she ask my mum advise me -_-" n i usually bathe when she sleeping

she sweeps de house everyday, mop de kitchen after every cooking, wash de dishes, wash my bedsheet, wash toilet. basically take over de role of de wife in doing housewk n caring for bb.

bbq98> most of de good cl oredi fully booked leh. like my cl after doing mine, got to go to another hm soon

itsy> haha. finally someone who agrees with me tat it's better to have bb inside den outside. haha. with bb inside, i can still go on late nite paktor with hubby, only cant eat sashimi. but i'm in control of my life. now bb controlling my life
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Rach
Thanks! I got my hubby to Kiddy Palace to buy it. Pillow upon pillow is really not working for me. Spent too much time and energy trying to keep them in place.

Michelle
Ya lor. They're totally in contrl now. I hope I can get back some of my "control" over bb soon. Foremost, must let him know he's supposed to sleep at nite and wake to feed more in the day. Since yesterday, he's the opp. I'm so tired! My poor mum still have to go work early in the morning.
 
Dear all,

I just want to share my HORRIBLE &amp; terrible experience.


Mummy's Nick: MUm2be08
Status :SHAM
BB# : 2
EDD : 18 Sep
ADD : 16 Sep
Wt : 3.02kg
Lt : 50cm
Method : Natural with w/o Epi
BB's Gender : Princess
BB's Name : ?
Gynae : Dr Adrian Woodworth
Hospital : TMC


Here we goes,

On the 15/09, i went to see my gynae for the last time as my EDD is on 18/09.

As i wish my baby can comes out on the 20th sept 2009 cause my sister is getting married on the 19th sept. I wish to attend her wedding so everyday i tell my baby to comes out after her aunty's wedding.

But out of the sudden, on 16/09, around 2.50am i was awake by the contraction pain. I went to the toilet for urine and found that there was blood.
I immediately brush my teeth and sit down to rest awhile.

At 3.20am, contraction comes again and my waterbag broke.. Oh shit.. Damn it..

3.40am, reach TMC. The nurse ask me to change and check how much cm have my cervix open.

I ask the nurse how much, she said is 8-9cm already. I can't ask for epidural, is too late!

Sent me into the labour ward to standby.

4.30am my baby girl was born out safely.

Can u imagine within this 90 mins, everything happen out so fast!

Was planning for the 3rd baby after a few years but after this HORRIBLE incident, I told myself 2 is enough! *sweat!
 
twiggy
yes i need 2 helpers. cant do with only one, esp now that i gotta coach boys in their school work, one helper has to cook and i need another one to supervise the other kids. need many pairs of eyes and hands at home!

oh i didnt know u r not in spore! i used to stay in aus for a yr when i only had the twins. also no helper and everything gotta do myself! but it was fun n u learn a lot from ur independence or should i say forced to learn!

somebody was asking me if i will bring my baby ard when i sending the kids for classes? the answer is yes. no choice lor the rest of my kids were like that too when they were babies. i only start leavg them at home with maid when they turn 6 mths.
 
Hola mummies
Its been a long time....
Suppose to give birth on 18 sep but my son cant wait to come out so on 31 Aug he come out and weighing 3.74kg. But me doesnt have a gd rest as he was admitted to KKH on the 6th day aft discharge from Mt A...Stay in KKH for 4days due to jaundice....had a blood exchange cos is very very high...now he still have jaundice and is still keep gng up...went to KKH again on tue..done test on liver and urine..all fine no problem..gng to KKh again for check up next fri..Stress!!
 
WOw..Abt BF....STRESS!!!all can pump out so much...me at the most is only 125ml for both breast..does tat means i got little milk? Son very sleepy...he dun really sucks....so quite diffcult to get him latch on...even he latch on he dun really suck!! can u image..he really shut his mounth very very tight..dunno to be angry with him or laugh at him.!!Ai...
 
hi mommies and mommies to be...
finally got time to come in to kay-poh abit...
miss u all ladies.. =)

congrats to mommies whom have popped since my last appearance here...

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MIL is giving me a hard time... =(
1st: "tidied" my whole hse upside down till i dun "recognise" my own hse and dunno where the usualy stuff r kept
2nd: make my life miserable by doing/ saying things that is so hurting and stressing both me and my hubb
3rd: .. long stories of complains"

MIL asked me she want to take care of me during confinement when im in my 2nd trim... now she only wan to take care of bb...
and BTW, she dunno how to take care lo.. dunno how to bathe, clean, wash his buttocks, wrap diapers etc.. im have to stand beside and supervise leh... piangz...

my BF came in on day 5 (very late) my bb so big sized and always hungry) MIL pestered me to give FM evryday till i cannot tahan.. so day 4 hubb went to buy FM liao.. both of us so fed-up and wanted to engage last min confinemt nanny frm TMC but all fully booked.. =(
before tat, i tried BF (door closed but nt locked), n bb was shrieking/ crying badly and she rushed in without knocking, damn scared me and stressed me.. she took bb away again...

"passed" bb to sleep with MIL since day 7's nite time (the nite before) cos i really need rest at nite to recover... im so heart-broken.. MIL so happy
even snatched bb away from my arms when im cuddling him or soothing bb and he stopped crying... *evil MIL*
FIL came over to sleep every nite but yesternite nv came over.. i think bb's cries "scare" him off liao...

want to engage ML for massage dun even dare to... evrything we do is being questioned and bombed by nt following the old times.. blah blah blah...

then throwing us with old tales, y we are not doing this, y must BF, FM is the best; y nv clean bb tongue; y he so yellow, must feed him with pearl powder n bathe him in herbs; y this y that, y u dun listen to old folks, or y u nv listen to us parents, or the aunt that has many grandkids liao... *faint* we explained but still nv get to their heads one.. "dun listen to doctors advices, they dunno one la"

and oh, she dun even bother to find out what food shld be cooked for confinement... just add ginger to normal harmless food.. which is, since day 3 i have been eating almost the same style of food till now..

hubby said dun get ML first cos i wont feel relaxed with the massage when MIL is still around.. so i have to wait till after bb full mth... :/

sorrie for the long long list of complains... i feel more sane since after discharging hosp.. i prefer to stay in hosp actually.. tmc's confinemt r very delicious...
 
<font color="ff0099">Twiggy</font>
Aiyo, you really are very very very far away!!
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i hope they sell Milk Savers in Auckland.
Do you mind sharing what you're doing in Auckland?? *kaypoh*
How long does your part-time cleaner work for that $70/time? Sounds really expensive!

I use a pouch to carry K around when I BF him outside.
Esp if time is tight, or if he's in one of those "I slowly slowly drink" moods.
But I don't feel it's truly handsfree lah, cos if you move ard, bb will end up tugging on your nipple to avoid slipping off. So still gotta use 1 hand to stabilise him in the pouch so that he doesn't sway too much while you're moving around.


<font color="ff0099">itsy</font>
Congrats on the arrival of baby Ian!
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Sorry to hear about your emerg c-sec though... Hope you recover quickly from it.

TIme for your mom to train your hubby to change nappies and burp! Little things like these can make your life seem so much easier.

I used the My Brest Friend nursing pillow after I had my c-sec with J, but I found it very uncomfortable because have to tighten the strap/buckle ard my waist (which is virtually nonexistent during postpartum period).
And with bb lying on the pillow and putting weight on the c-sec wound really didn't help either.
I bought a Cheeky Bon Bon nursing pillow for $29.90 from the taka baby fair recently, and I find it more useful than My Brest Friend loh.
At least it's works for something else other than just a nursing pillow, so I use it to prop K up to "sit" when he wants to kaypoh ard during his awake/alert period.
It's also less than half the price of My Brest Friend. So if in the event it doesn't work well as a nursing pillow for you, at least can still use as support for bb.

Alot of newborns have topsy-turvy timing during the first weeks. Just rough it out for a while k?
Meanwhile try to figure out what settles him into sleep, so you can make it a routine to do it and ease him to sleep during the appropriate times. JIAYOU!
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<font color="ff0099">Michelle</font>
Thinking of opening another spree for Glamourmom nursing tanks lor. Go look see if you're keen.
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Suddenly now we all start to feel it's easier with bb inside than outside hor? Everyone chin up! Things will gradually get easier!! Then from 4 mths onwards, things start to get rewarding cos they start to interact with you and learn new things everyday!


<font color="ff0099">Christine</font>
I think lots of mommies want labor experiences like yours lah!
So fast and without delay! Even if no epidural, the pain is over in a flash lor!
I, for one, gladly trade places with you lor! Better than waiting for 10cm dilation (With zero pain relief) for >12hrs, then still end up with C-sec lor...


<font color="ff0099">Shanice</font>
OH dear. I hope he gets well very soon!


<font color="ff0099">Jess</font>
Your situation sounds really bad indeed. How does she intend to help if she dunno how to do anything at all?! So ironic lor.
I think hers is a serious case of loving her grandchild too much...
If you compare your MIL's "non-traditional" confinement dishes, of course TMC food is better lah. At least their BF soups are super delicious!
I think your hubs is right to ask you to engage massage lady after your MIL go away. Otherwise she sure got more things to say one lor.
Your MIL will be less involved after bb full mth right? Otherwise i cannot imagine how you are going to stay sane with her around!
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<font color="ff0000">Michelle></font> u using Mdm Noor?? i sms her 3 times no reply..
so i guess not fated. haha...

it depends on CL.. usually will be more if cook for family..depending on how much ur CL is already charging..urs is $2000 of coz no more extra la..
so far i realised $1900 all got include cook for family..
mine is $1800... so its already cheaper....
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But she also got cook for my HB and parents occasionally if they are home..
ehhehe...so.. yah... still $1800 loh..
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hahaha...she never ban ban ban me la.. but she advised me nicely...
and i just heed her advice loh.. hahaa... coz in the end..its for our own good.. ahhaha.. :p
actually good CL will strongly encourage la.. hehe.. if we want to do..they cant do or say anything also..
so i bargained for bath every 2-3 days to wash hair..and quickly dry it..
please dun blow with hair dryer..coz the water will get blown into the scalp... next time headache....
so use towel and dry as much as possible.....

<font color="ff0000">itsy></font> u are welcome.. hope its helpful to u..esp with c-sect wound.. i can imagine how difficult it is to BF..
with stitches down there, i also very hard to sit upright past few days...
finaly the wound is getting better... think i got infection or swelling down there.. coz my stitch is all the way to the anus...
coz bb too big... >.<" thats what gynae says...he attributes everything to bb too big, no choice..
sigh...
 
aiyoh today forum sot sot again i just posted now my post is gone!

christine
yah why u said its a horrible experience. fast labour is a blessing u know, ur baby is v good to u! at least the pain n hard work pays off quickly. its a drag to be in long labour.

shanice
jaundiced babies r generally sleepy. what more u said urs jaundice level v high. hope his level goes down soon. meanwhile just keep pumping to keep up the supply and try to keep him awake when latching. i v cruel one, i will use damp cloth to wipe his face, eyes, mouth so he will not fall asleep during latch! v tiring to feed a sleepy baby n v time consuming esp i have so many other kids to see to. in ur case u might wanna top up with ebm cos he needs lots of hydration to bring down his jaundice level

rach
i think what happykae means is pump adter 3 hrs interval not pump for 3 hrs lah? i pump for 20 mins my nipples maciam wanna ddrop already what more 3 hours!

Jess
oh dear ur mil sounds like a total nightmare! and sounds like mine too! when i had the twins, she love to comment abt every other thing, love to snatch my babies from me, love to peek n peer when i bfing. is ur baby her first grandchild? they tend to behave like that when its their first.
 
a "bit" late but here is my birth story

08/09 tuesday
last chk-up with gynea at clinic.. ultrasound scan est. bb weight at 3.3kg le..
asked me to admit same day 3pm la..so probably can have bb bday on 09/09.. must induce cos me still no feeling of contractions..
bb will be too big for natural (according to him to my size).. if we admit today, 60% sucess chance of natural.. i wanna natural.. so we okie..

3.30pm - reach hosp and finish registration at 4pm
waiting for empty available observation bed (lucky im not in pain or waterbag broken)

5pm- check dilation by nurse... damn painful! only 1cm dilated. so insert pill- another sharp pain. i have only slight irregular contractions.. no wonder no feeling at all.. lol.. but so painful VE...
monitor for another hr.. go back to ward for rest and dinner

8.30pm - sent down to delivery level - observation ward again.. clear poo poo and wash up and wait

9pm~9.30pm - on drip for induction. the needle inserted is so long! and painful to me.. then dr. woody came to break my waterbag.. felt a pain and then warm water gushed out.. (okie so tat the feeling of waterbag broken)

started to feel contractions coming.. (so now i know how real contractions is like.. lol) hubb support me when breathing technics frm mrs wong classes... was bearable with it.. can only clutched right hand cos left hand pained with drip needle.. argh.. even joking and making fun of another lady moaning away..
it coming at a contraction/ minute..

~10pm+ - dr woody came and asked if i wanted epidural (cos the anesthetist is ard at this time).. he said if i want, i can ask.. 80% of women cannot stand the pain one.. i replied so far i dun want it... i can bear the pain!
so i asked doc how long is my turn till full dialtion, he est abt 6 to 7am... (huh, so long~~~ -_- )

after tat it started to come 2 to 3 contractions/minute.. i cannot even relax and breathe properly, the next contractions came... i am wringing my hubb's hand and almost wanted to bite it off. but i din la..

09/09 Wednesday
12am - by this time.. im the one moaning in the whole observation ward liao.. all the other ladies were being pushed to delivery suite.
i wanna asked for gas mask/ thigh jab.. but im still nt in delivery suite. i asked if the thigh jab can be jab more than once.. nurse reply it better to do it one time only..

so i asked for VE to see how dilated i am before i decide for epi or thigh. nurse did VE just when the highest contraction rate came (127) damn pain!! only 3cm.. *i wanna give up liao.. pain for so long and so painful, still only 3cm...

so i asked for epi shots.. nurse gave form for me to sign b4 getting anesthetist to come. hubb still blur blur.. i wanted to shout gimme the damn form to sign la...

12.15am - epi carried out but need me to sit up on edge of bed, pillow prop on my lap, leaned front. aiyoo, i got my big belly and boobs blocking and now a pillow.. how to lean and curl like a prawn..
then contractions keep coming, how to keep still
finally it done with lotsa efforts..
gotten side effect of shivering.. epi dose had to be set quite high for me.

1.15am - finally got available delivery suite for me. the shifting made me felt my contractions pain again.. cos nurse lowered my epi dosage (supposingly after epi shots, dun have to feel the contractions pain rite..? :p)
so gotten back to "painfree" after an hour of requesting

becos i could'nt sleep the nite before, i drift in and out of sleep this time.. need to conserve energy to push later...

5am - another nurse came and did VE, and yes.. this time no pain for VE.. she said gd news, i shld be ready in an hr's time..

6am+ nurse came in hustle here and there... but no sign of dr. woody,
6.30am he is here.. preparing, asking nurses this and that.. they all very bz, cos a lot of pple delivering today
im still groggy and numb, and shivering came back..
they propped my legs up and i was like.. it time already? then they asked me to push.. i was like.. i cant feel anything.. i dunno what im pushing.. (at least they nv lowered the epi dosage)
so i just pushed.. and pushed, then they asked me to stop.. then told me to give a BIG pushed again..
6.47am - i felt empty suddenly.. then my bb was place on my chest.. surprised and emotional.. i teared! then they quickly place him on warmer..

hubby was asking y our turn, i took so long to deliver.. cos he din sleep this whole time.. haha..

i was wondering how come my bb not coming at all.. and contractions r so painful.. i think becos my bb too big sized really for me..
and pple thot i had c-sect wor... lol =)
 
Just feel like complaining
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I seriously dun like my CL. She is good lah when it comes to doing the housework and bringing things for me to eat, but i guess i prefer someone who can teach me how to take care of baby. Everytime when baby cry, i will carry him...then CL will come and carry baby away from me. When i want to bottle feed baby, she will also carry baby away and feed. I feel so irritated...i want to have some bonding time with baby
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Dun noe if i m carrying baby in the wrong way, he will cry...but when CL carry him, he will stop. I am thinking, when CL leave on 1st oct..how? i wun noe how to handle baby.

Jenifur - hope u get well soon.
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rest well and take good care.
 
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<font color="0077aa">shelled</font>
yes lo.. im like "in hell" my "hse" is not my "hse"
even my hubb felt stress.. we both broke down together..

maybe she thot by keeping the hse clean, wash clothes, cook meals is taking care liao lo..

she is not doing what she is "preaching" lo
my hubb asked her how she is going to take care of me, she replied: y do ur wife need to be taken care of? bb more impt la...
LOL
seriously serious ironic lo.. lol

stress me till my BM came so late.. it came on sunday when PIL went msia for granny's death anniversary...
tmc said BM usually 5 to 7 days.. but too late for me cos MIL complained y i nv had enuff for bb to drink.. ask me to pump out so she knows how much he needs to drink.. in the end have to FM

MIL: FM is better than BM la.. last time they all drink FM grew up so big now..
(i wanted to say evryone is recommending BM, it's even printed on the FM tin lo.. and dun u remember the china FM incident..)

i hope she is out of my life the moment full mth celebration ends.. cos she needs to go back n wk..

(BTW, she even dare to ask us when we wan to hold then full-mth, then must have cakes la.. lol
so i told her nowadays no need to give cakes except relatives.. just give small token or thk u gifts like choco/ wrapped red eggs etc.. she said i talk rubbish that i dunno my stuff... im so pissed [she nv being to any recent bb full mth celebration cos they dun have frens one lo])


<font color="0077aa">mamato6js</font>
yea i read abt ur reply when i first posted my complains..

it her first grandchild lo.. i know.. but it overly overly outrageous to us.. in the hosp, she advised dun carried too much, dun swayed hor.. she is revoking wat she "preached"

then i met another mommy in tmc parentcraft cos i went there for BF counselling/ consultation.. she oso had the same situation.. sighh

just just now only.. i was carrying and bottle feeding bb, burping him, she suddenly like very free, stand nearby and watch what im doing... irritating lo..
 
long time din post liao...nw it's all abt BFing. mine nt TBF baby, so stressed...better keep quiet...

*jess* *mama to 6Js*
guess all MIL are alike...rare to find someone who wld give compliments to their MIL esp during confinement period. My sis used to complain to me abt her MIL during her pregnancy. And i actually told her tat, this is nt the worst yet. Shall wait for the confinement period and the period after confinement. Coz both the mother and the grandma want to haf a say on hw to handle the baby. both haf their own thinking and ways of handling matters and situations and this is when the WAR starts...

and Jess rest assured, it will soon become history....juz like mama to 6Js and me, right? mama to 6Js??

*Rach*
my CL charged me S$1800 nia. cooks for my hb and children. and help bathe my 2 younger kids.
for breakfast on alternate basis, i haf meesua + essence of chk + red date tea or 2 slices of bread + 2 fried eggs + essence of chk + red date tea.

for lunch and dinner, there's always a vege, a tonic soup and a meat dish (pork, fish or chk). she cooks separate food for my hub n kids coz they are nt supposed to share my food.

for supper, doubled broiled chk in hard liquor like martell or XO...

she prepare herbs bathe for me to bath on alternate day basis...

and then hor tot wash hair liao muz faster blow dry it??? never heard use hair dryer the water will get blown into the scalp de leh...use towel to dry hair, hw dry can the hair be?? leave it to dry totally takes at least an hour, and the water in the damp hair won't seep into the scalp meh?? anyway i oso bue hiao de lah, bt this one sounds so unlogic wor....
 
Itsy

I personally find the bfeeding pillow not useful. I had csection too and find the pillow pressing on my tummy and wound. I have been using a pillow (those thicker ones) and I prefer pillows because I can rest my boy on the pillow without fearing he will roll over and fall to the ground (always have this fear of dropping him).

Rach,

I will send you email. I didn't know can't use hairdryer...have been using it to dry my hair. Otherwise, wet hair in aircon room is even worse right?

Shanice,

125ml is a lot. I can't even get that from both breasts. Yes, I also curious how Ling got 300ml.

Happykae

Pump for 3 hrs? just 30mins and my nipple damn sore liao.
 
shanice,
wat's the level of ur bb's jaundice?
i just brought mine for checkup and it's 15 just the cutoff to admit so will hve to bring her back again on sat. btw her name is like urs in diff spellin
 
Mummy's Nick: nicekiel
Status :FTWM
BB# : 2
EDD : 18 Sep
ADD : 31 Oct
Wt : 3.74kg
Lt : 53cm
Method : Natural with vaccum assited and Epi
BB's Gender : Prince
BB's Name : Ryden Lee
Gynae : Dr KC Ching
Hospital : Mt A
 
Congrats to all mummies who have popped!

Ling
Wah! I'm stressed by u.
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U so good got so much BM. Mine pump after 6 hrs only yield 240ml max.

Jenifur
Take care &amp; rest well.

For those mums who pump out their BM, do u sterilize the pump aft each pumping session or only wash them?
 
Milky>
on 15 sep went to KKH to check his SB level was 247...according to doc is still manageable...but doc oso dunno the reason for the SB level keep gng up...when discharge from KKH on 8 sep his SB level was only 206...
 
<font color="0000ff">Rach</font>,
Lol, sorry my sentence mislead u - early morning still feeling sleepy.. Of cos nt pump continuously for 3hrs. Like what <font color="0000ff">Mamato6js</font> sae pumped 20mins ord wanna drop if I pump for 3hrs - can't imagine what will happen.
Thanks for the information - Im staying in the east so probably mona's sister will render the service. But their charges reli reasonable.

ML -
I kanna play out by a ML named Siti from Hana Jumu. I engaged her service once for prenatal - then she shared with me her post natal massage package and I booked 10days session for $460 wif her. (luckily nv pay deposit) The day she supposed to come for the 1st session she smsed me said she got into a small accident so need postpone massage to the next day. The next day arrived, she didn't turned up again so I smsed her, her daughter replied sae mother was admitted due to chest pain hence need to cancel the appt again. in the evening I dialed her and check if she is alright, she sae she has discharged and nw heading for a pre natal massage session for a client. She apologized to me as her daughter supposed to notify me tis morning but she forgotten. I asked if she need to rest as I can change to another ML. She reassure me tat she is alright and will see me 11am at my plc the next day. Well the next day arrived and expected she didn't turned up. I smsed and called her numerous times but she didn't answer, can't even bothered to reply my sms till today.
So irresponsible - she has advertisement on motherhood magazine for her service.
 
Shelled> thanks


Jenifur> Get well soon

mama to 6js> Thks. tat's wat i been doing..trying to feed him every 2-3hrs w BF or EBM or FM..depending whethere i tired anot...doc oso advise me to BF n FM as not to dehydrate
him...

bbq98> is it alot??but stress aft Ling got 300ml!!hahaha...
 
shanice,
how come urs is 3 digits?? i also dont know but i wa told 15 is the cutoff.

i just pray after sunnin today n tmr, bt sat the level will go down. can understand how u feel cos i broke down in tears after hearing the result n worried bb might have to admit. hope urs get well soon.
 
<font color="0077aa">girlygirly</font>
thanks for the encouragemt...
at least my mom i can "tell her off a bit la".. she's standing on my side cos she sees me so depressed too.. and she dislikes my MIL behaviour too...

yes.. i wanna it to become history.. but sacrifice my poor bb into the "tigeress's clutch".... lol..
now i tried to make evrything a bit of joke here n there to make myself feel and think better...

i wanted TBF too.. but now cannot liao.. EBM oso have to do secretly and fed thru bottle... =(
jus managed to pump at most 40ml out of both breasts at a time only... not enuff to feed my hungry bb...



Breast pump
anybody using medela - Pump in style advanced? is it really good? cos TMC parent craft recommend this one.. now im using avent manual (single).. pump like mad each time.. very time consuming

any other brands to recommend cos medela PISA is so so exp wor.. so far TMC parent craft selling cheapest after FBI discount...

oh and anybody oso using the "mums-fairy" hand-free breast pump necklace? is it good? want to free both hands if intending to use double pump to speed up the work and can maintain regular BM pumping timing...

thanks in advance... =)


going to read the past few days posts slowly... so many... lol
 
<font color="0077aa">girlygirly</font>
thanks for the encouragemt...
at least my mom i can "tell her off a bit la".. she's standing on my side cos she sees me so depressed too.. and she dislikes my MIL behaviour too...

yes.. i wanna it to become history.. but sacrifice my poor bb into the "tigeress's clutch".... lol..
now i tried to make evrything a bit of joke here n there to make myself feel and think better...

i wanted TBF too.. but now cannot liao.. EBM oso have to do secretly and fed thru bottle... =(
jus managed to pump at most 40ml out of both breasts at a time only... not enuff to feed my hungry bb...



Breast pump
anybody using medela - Pump in style advanced? is it really good? cos TMC parent craft recommend this one.. now im using avent manual (single).. pump like mad each time.. very time consuming

any other brands to recommend cos medela PISA is so so exp wor.. so far TMC parent craft selling cheapest after FBI discount...

oh and anybody oso using the "mums-fairy" hand-free breast pump necklace? is it good? want to free both hands if intending to use double pump to speed up the work and can maintain regular BM pumping timing...

thanks in advance... =)


going to read the past few days posts slowly... so many... lol
 
hey all mummies,congrats to all!!

now all the post all abt pumping &amp; breast feeding.

do u mummies wash the breast pump &amp; sterilise everyday?
i jus dismantle my manual pump. i am new lah. everything looks so complicated. heehee
 
>MICHELLE
I also go to Bukit Batok Polyclinic for my baby's jaundice test. Hope next tuesday when i return that young lady doctor's not there....she's lousy...make my baby do liver test when her jaundice level is already so low!

ONE MONTH CATERING
I'm also thinking of NEO GARDEN after tasting it at my friend's kid's one year old celebration, but SHELLED also mentioned that MELROSE BAKEHOUSE is also yummy....hmmm...anyone tried BOTH? any comments?

>SHELLED
Alamak, i better wear my bra lah, I don't want saggy breasts...after going bra-less for 2 days, i find that leaky breast is too much to deal with...

Oh, if you are doing the spree, i'm interested in the turqoise nursing top...but dunno whether have stock or not as its under the 'limited stock' section...but i just love the colour turqoise :p

>MILKYWAY
For 3 digit reading for serum bilirubin, you just divide by 17. I think one reading (3 digits) will be in umol/L and the (2 digits) reading is in mg/dL
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Gosh, I'm so lazy to pump, I haven't even start (rather cannot be bothered) pumping yet...latching on is so easy I just don't really look forward to the time when i have go back to work (good thing that event will only happen in MArch/April 2010) and have to pump
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*haven't been able to get into the forum whole morning!*
 
wow. my breast were leaking n i decide to pump, cos bb din wanna wake up. grrrs. got 100ml of milk within less den 20mins. keke. den bb continue to latch on after i pump out =p so happy

itsy> keke. very hard to train bb one. if u r lucky, ard 3rd mth, den can dun wake up at nite =p

christine> lol. not so horrible wat =p de suffering not many hrs. keke. congrats anyway
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shanice> hope ur bb is fine. dun worry too much. if ur bb shut his eyes, let him go sleep lo. he will open when he is hungry =x

jess> it's ok. urs is mil. can u img my whole hm, from one tat doesnt cook to one tat is zzz. i cannot recognise my kitchen. all thanx to my cl. i got a feeling my kitchen is ruin. red&amp;white intially, think gonna become red&amp;gray -_-"

shelled> keke. but 4mths later he is going infant care. dun haf much time to spend with him. only got torture days =x

rach> i using mdm sadiah. first one i called, n since she can, i din call de rest liaos. but her charges are 50bucks per hr.

lol. i juz go bathe at nite, on aircon n close door, she cant really say anything. she tell my mum i m her boss, so can only advise, cannot say =x ahha. but i m stubborn. so nvm =[

mamato6js> not cruel la. i oso use wet cloth wipe bb, massage his body, legs n feet to wake him up n feed him. but can only do all those when i m awake. if at nite, i oso sleeping. he dun wan drink i put him back =x

ning> erms. u can ask ur Cl to teach u?

happykae> y nv try those MLs recommended in our forum instead?

milkyway> 3digits need divide by 17.1 den get ur equivalent. diff form of calculation.
 
<font color="ff0000">mama6></font>
ooh.okie... hahahaha....:p
my bb has been wide awake since morning.. i wonder if its due to the "ginseng" milk she was fed ( i drank ginseng soup last nite..and pumped 2 hours later..)
she been crying... MIL, mother &amp; CL all said she's hungry..
but she was fed BM, 10ml EBM, 60ml FM at 130pm...how can she be hungry at 230pm??
then they went to make another 90ml FM for her..she vomited out some bean curdish thing....then drank 40ml FM....
faint.............

I need some professional help.........not auntie's tales............ >.<"

<font color="ff0000">girly></font>
ya..mine also $1800... and cooks for HB occasionaly coz hb comes back late....
similar lo... breakfast i tell her simple can liaoz...(exp la...)
so i just take bread...
lunch and dinner will be tonic soup, meat/fish &amp; vege.....
she will put all ginger separate.. i add in however much i want...
then everyone else can share....
wah...still supper???

last nite i took ginseng soup... my girl still not slping now...and wants to be carried.. put her down then she cry...
i'm carrying her w left hand now, typing w right hand...

she prepare herbs for me to dry clean once in morning, once in evening...
when i cannot dong i tell her i wanna bathe today....also w the herb water....

the blow dry thing is my fren's fren's massage lady say one...
i also tot shld blow dry...but apparently shouldnt....
i use towel rub till dry....can be done..need time only....

<font color="ff0000">bbq></font>
yah...i was blowing when my fren told me not to.... so i didnt... coz when u blow, its hot air....pores open...
then water being blown into the scalp...makes sense also....

dunnola... when my fren explained mades sense....so i just towel dry loh..
so her fren's fren had headache one day..then trace trace....due to her blowing her hair.. which the ML says should not...
so.... ya.... up to individual lo... hehe.. :p

<font color="ff0000">Shanice></font>
hahaha....mummy blur liaoz... its 31st Aug la... not Oct.. keke...:p

<font color="ff0000">Angeline></font>
i was and sterilise after each pump..
but some of the mummies here dun..they either do it in the mornng or something like that..
wash and sterilise very easy ma...put inside the steam steriliser only...

<font color="ff0000">happykae></font>
yah... u can give Mona a call..then ask her if she cant do it, can her sis do it for u?
call her or sms her...but she's super busy...
she was telling me she no time to even reply sms...coz she rush from house to house....
10 customers a day..sometimes 11 or 12.... >.<"
 
shelled> Glamourmom® - Limited Stock Item (GLAMOURMOM® NURSING BRA TANK WITH LACE V-NECK) @ 19.96, after ship in will be how much?
 
Hi mummies! Have not posted since long time ago.. been diligently (and silently) reading! :D

Can someone help me update my details? Is it Ling? Thanks! :D

Mummy's Nick: lil_jade
Status :FTWM
BB# : 2
EDD : 20 Sept
ADD : 09 Sept
Wt : 2.95 kg
Lt : 50 cm
Method : Natural with vacuum and Epi
BB's Gender : Prince
BB's Name : Not decided yet! :D
Gynae : Dr Tan Hak Koon
Hospital : SGH

Got some questions here I hope someone can help me:

1. I’m in the midst of my malay massage (4th of the 7 session package) and my ML asked me to extend by another 5 times (also consecutively everyday) cos she said my womb a bit broad? I was confused and my MIL also wondered cos usually it is womb is down / low. Is there someone with this broad womb problem too? I don’t know if my ML just wanna to make more $....
2. I’ve been drinking red date tea diligently (no water allowed) and have developed many mouth ulcers recently! My MIL (who is doing confinement for me) is also clueless on what I can drink instead. I suspect all the “”bu” stuff is too heaty for me!

Hope some mummies can help me out!
 
Rach> I called Mona based on your recommendation too! But she is SOOOOOO busy... wah... super tough to get her. In the end, did not use her cos the date she gave me was 6 days after my delivery.. too long a wait.. But she is indeed cheap leh! Do you think she will be willing to take in customers who just want to massage for maintenance 1 or 2x per week?

Jess> I used Medela twin electric plus for my #1, and still using the same one currently for my #2. It is good, pumping is strong, and is cheap (about $300+). Only thing is it is super noisy loh... My hubby forbid me to pump in the bedroom when at night cos he cannot sleep! I have to move to the study to do it... but regardless of that, I think it is a fairly decent pump. Not sure about Ameda, but many mummies seemed to like it too! My SIL used it and loved it, only problem is that the parts (like funnel or what) tend to spoil easily. Medela is hardier. But Ameda is qiuet loh..

Huishan> I steam sterilise everytime I pump, even in the wee hours... I'm the paranoid sort.. :D

Shanice> My baby had jaundice too! Just went check-up at polyclinic this morning and it has dropped from 200 (on tue) to 170.. gonna go again next tue cos doctor said have to keep checking until the level is below 100... geez...

Shelled> I also want to ask if I can order the glamourmum nursing tank? Interested in the same one that Michelle mentioned. It looks so good! :D
 
hi mommies,

just wanna check with u all ar.. what are the food n drinks we need to watch out for when we're bfing bbs?

I've been looking forward to the end of confinement so that i can start drinking cold stuff and kopi/tea &amp; coke.. but all these got caffeine.. so i dunno how wor.. how much can i drink a day so it wun relli affect my bm..?

Thanks mommies who can help clarify? =)
 
<font color="ff0099">Jess</font>
I think now you just have to beware that your MIL don't spoil the bb.
When push comes to shove, I ended up scolding my ILs when they let J go out of hand. They just keep saying "children are like that one", but they don't realise that by letting him get his way, they are CONDONING him to misbehave.
Likewise for your MIL holding/swinging your bb, it may develop to become bb's sleeping habit, then later you also have to hold/swing bb ard every night before he can sleep.

Ya ya! Scare your MIL with the China melamine milk incident!!!
Since she so super love your bb, the thought of letting bb drink anything poisonous should scare her into supporting you to BF.
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Old ppl are more traditional abt red eggs/ ang ku kueh/ cakes for full mth lah.
My MIL is ok with us just throwing party with buffet, but she still wants to go get cakes/red eggs for the relatives cos she say old ppl will want to rcv those.
If don't have, then they will nag nag nag why we never do things "properly".
If not too much trouble then just let your MIL have her way lor, otherwise she may feel everything u also go against her and don't listen to her.

My MIL also wanted me to put J on FM last time, but luckily cos we dont' live togther, I just continue to BF lah. After 2 mths, J look so chubby like Santa Claus that she no longer ask me to change to FM.
Just ride it out and prove to her that BM truly is better for baby.


<font color="ff0099">girlygirly</font>
Why not TBF baby then very stressed? It's ok one lah. Personal preference mah.
I just BF cos it's "free". Although at the rate I eat and eat and eat... I think maybe buy FM cheaper than feeding me lor.
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<font color="ff0099">Paige</font>
What size would you be wearing for Glamourmom huh? Can just add to cart and they will prompt you if no stock liao.

I also feel leaky breasts is too much hassle lah. That's why invested in a lot of nursing bras this time round so I can change them everyday and not have to rush myself to do laundry just so that I"ll have clean bras to wear.
Sweat like siao in this weather leh! All my clothes so smelly.
 
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jenifur-hope u get well soon!

hey mummies, i m able to pump out at least 90ml of BM during each session now! i latch on to bb during each feed or let my mum or MIL feed bb my EBM. i pump out my BM as n when i m free. so far so gd, hv nt been giving FM already. for my 1st bb, i had suffered engorgement, but luckily nt for tis time round. tks to all mummies who hv helped in giving BF-ing tips!
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rach, ya i oso spread my BM around my areolas to ease my sore nipples. now bb can latch on properly w/o much pain. i will pull his lower lip so tat his mouth covers almost my entire areola.
 
<font color="ff0000">Lil jade></font>
yah..Mona is very packed one...
6 days after ur delivery is the time period recommended.. if u read my earlier posts, Mona do not advise anything earlier than the 6th day...
too early will cause uterus to tear..thats Mona's theory..
her priority is post natal customers..
she does normal massage at $35 an hour... but only subjected to free slots...which means only after all the post natal slots are taken up, then she'llslot normal massage in...

her current schedule is packed all the way to Nov...
and i'm almost pleading with her to make way for another 5 sessions for me..
only at nite possible..and i told her no prob... i'll take the 10pm slot...
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so my next 5 sessions wil start next mon!! yeah!!
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i also want the black v lace.. but only M size available.. i doubt i can squeeze into a M man..sianz... :/

<font color="ff0000">mampoko></font>
great... u pump after latch or before??
sometimes i dun dare to pump in case next feed nothing to latch bb on....
so sometimes i save...sometimes i pump...very contradicting.....
 
shell,
are u still taking any orders? i'm interested in getting Glamourmom® - Limited Stock Items, blk lace v neck, size M. i'll do the tt if u are able to add me into the spree. thanks.
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Another thing to complain!!!
The staff at Mt A spelled my son's hanyu pinying name wrongly!!!! Now the birth cert cannot change but can only clip on a note to address the correction!!!! ARGHHHHHH!!!!

I'm trying hard to dealing with the pain from C-sect, handling BB and BFing. Really salut to mummies who have C-sect and yet have to take care of older children as well as a new born... AND still manage to organise BP!!!!! YES! I'm talking about Shelled and Jenifur.. Ahahha SUPER lah! Anyway, I'm definitely going to hang on till I get the hang of things.

How much weight did u lose?
I lost only 5kg after birth! I tot we should lose more?? Haha does it mean when I gain 16kg during pregnancy and I lost only 5kg after birth, meaning I put on 11kg on myself?!?! Wah piang!
 

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