(2009/08) August 2009 MTBs
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donkeymami
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sharon, u hv many AL then haha...true la..when u back to work after maternity leave u nit to clr childcare leave by Dec'09 
shirley
I dunno if she's pro-BF or she doesn't care lor. SIL's 2 kids she din say anything. But hor.. My mum scaring me & saying this one diff, is grandson.. dunno will have diff std???
Yeah dunno why MIL aws like that. My SIL's MIL also kept asking her whether BB hungry, got milk or not, why is the BB crying, blah blah
I dunno if she's pro-BF or she doesn't care lor. SIL's 2 kids she din say anything. But hor.. My mum scaring me & saying this one diff, is grandson.. dunno will have diff std???
Yeah dunno why MIL aws like that. My SIL's MIL also kept asking her whether BB hungry, got milk or not, why is the BB crying, blah blah
poopoo
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Jul
Maybe this the power of MIL ba! hahaha...
not only asking got milk or not, sometime If bb got wind in their stomach and if we BF our baby they will also pointing finger on us saying must be the food we are eating.
Since yours is son, maybe you could have diff treatment from your MIL
Maybe this the power of MIL ba! hahaha...
not only asking got milk or not, sometime If bb got wind in their stomach and if we BF our baby they will also pointing finger on us saying must be the food we are eating.
Since yours is son, maybe you could have diff treatment from your MIL
mashybrainz
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Jul
My MIL said i didn't have enough milk for my boy coz i didn't eat well during my preg days! As if she knows what i ate. Then my boy got asthma also becoz of what i ate during my preg days. Anyway, she blames me for everything lah.
donkeymani/mich
coz of c-section, dun even know whether they'll bring bb over to me during the first night or not coz maybe need observation. sigh... But good thing i've CL now, so don't have to worry abt cleaning bb's black poo.
My MIL said i didn't have enough milk for my boy coz i didn't eat well during my preg days! As if she knows what i ate. Then my boy got asthma also becoz of what i ate during my preg days. Anyway, she blames me for everything lah.
donkeymani/mich
coz of c-section, dun even know whether they'll bring bb over to me during the first night or not coz maybe need observation. sigh... But good thing i've CL now, so don't have to worry abt cleaning bb's black poo.
smurf_ling
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mashy
u gotta bf bb at nite...... to stimulate ur breasts... and oso not to introduce teats to the newborn sooo early (avoid nipple confusion)
u gotta bf bb at nite...
... to stimulate ur breasts... and oso not to introduce teats to the newborn sooo early (avoid nipple confusion)mashybrainz
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jul/mich
yah lor. Even my SIL does that too. She actually said my boy got asthma becoz i drank cold drinks during my preg days. Actually for my #1, i abstained from all cold drinks. But find that it's useless. So this time round, i don't care liao. Just drink and eat whatever i want.
yah lor. Even my SIL does that too. She actually said my boy got asthma becoz i drank cold drinks during my preg days. Actually for my #1, i abstained from all cold drinks. But find that it's useless. So this time round, i don't care liao. Just drink and eat whatever i want.
~mimosa~
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donkeymami,
yup...last yr i din take much leave...heng! so can clear one shot now...plus end yr i got the 6 days child care leave...n i still carry forward leave to next yr!
mashy,
MIL always conveniently blame DIL one...if they wan boy n its a ger then they blame DIL...in fact its their son who determine the sex of the baby mah
yup...last yr i din take much leave...heng! so can clear one shot now...plus end yr i got the 6 days child care leave...n i still carry forward leave to next yr!
mashy,
MIL always conveniently blame DIL one...if they wan boy n its a ger then they blame DIL...in fact its their son who determine the sex of the baby mah
mashybrainz
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pegsfur
yes! Make sure he does night duty. That should wake him up.
smurfy
maybe i should do 1 night feed then. Anyway, i've learnt to bf lying down and i can actually fall asleep with bb next to me. Hopefully i didn't forget how to do it.
yes! Make sure he does night duty. That should wake him up.
smurfy
maybe i should do 1 night feed then. Anyway, i've learnt to bf lying down and i can actually fall asleep with bb next to me. Hopefully i didn't forget how to do it.
mashy, as far as I am concerned, asthma is a genetic allergy and my hb has it, so its got nothing to do with me and after seeing my 2 girls, I don't think cold drinks are related to whether bb has cough/asthma or not.
A good friend of mine breastfed her girl for 2 years cos her hb's family has a lot of allergies and she was hoping that bf would tone it down. In the end, her girl still had alot of allergies too, so she concluded that its all genetic.
and after seeing my 2 girls, I don't think cold drinks are related to whether bb has cough/asthma or not. A good friend of mine breastfed her girl for 2 years cos her hb's family has a lot of allergies and she was hoping that bf would tone it down. In the end, her girl still had alot of allergies too, so she concluded that its all genetic.
mashybrainz
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sharon
yah, that time i took a long time to conceive, she kept asking me, until i fed up said it's all her son's probs. Before we got married, she tried to dissuade my hb (coz i'm older than him), said i may have probs conceiving coz i'm older. And i'm only 1 yr older than him!
yah, that time i took a long time to conceive, she kept asking me, until i fed up said it's all her son's probs. Before we got married, she tried to dissuade my hb (coz i'm older than him), said i may have probs conceiving coz i'm older. And i'm only 1 yr older than him!
mashybrainz
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mich
yah, it's definitely genetic. Both my hb and i had various allergics. But my MIL conveniently forgot abt them and said it's coz of my allergy. Until i fed up, i reminded her that her son was allergic to this and that then she was like 'oh is it?' Fed up. She was there when her son kenna hives after taking alcohol. And she herself has sinus. Then when i said that, she shooed me and said cannot curse my son by saying his allergies are caused by this and that. We're affirming the devil's deeds by doing that! Gosh!
yah, it's definitely genetic. Both my hb and i had various allergics. But my MIL conveniently forgot abt them and said it's coz of my allergy. Until i fed up, i reminded her that her son was allergic to this and that then she was like 'oh is it?' Fed up. She was there when her son kenna hives after taking alcohol. And she herself has sinus. Then when i said that, she shooed me and said cannot curse my son by saying his allergies are caused by this and that. We're affirming the devil's deeds by doing that! Gosh!
pegsfur, your hb found the CL for you already? Tell ur hb his duty is to bring bb to you for breastfeeding at nites, followed by changing diaper and putting bb back to sleep!
mashy, from the sounds of it, its best to stay far away from your MIL! can't believe she used such strong words.
mashy, from the sounds of it, its best to stay far away from your MIL! can't believe she used such strong words.
mashybrainz
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mich/sharon
thank God i'm not staying with her else i'll go crazy. Also thank God that my hb understood and stood by me all this while.
at least i'm being tolerant and don't talk back to her. I just grumble to my hb after that. hahah.
thank God i'm not staying with her else i'll go crazy. Also thank God that my hb understood and stood by me all this while.
at least i'm being tolerant and don't talk back to her. I just grumble to my hb after that. hahah.
mashybrainz
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jul
agree with u. U can tell your CL that u don't like things done this way and that. U can't do that to your MIL.
Then again, one of my friends was 'tortured' by her CL. When she went for the pd appt, the CL was complaining to the pp there that my friend was very hard on her.
agree with u. U can tell your CL that u don't like things done this way and that. U can't do that to your MIL.
Then again, one of my friends was 'tortured' by her CL. When she went for the pd appt, the CL was complaining to the pp there that my friend was very hard on her.
pegsfur
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mich,
Not yet leh ... i think he has forgotten abt it, or that he thinks he still has plenty of time.
Oh yes, i think his sequence of duty shld be bring bb to me for bf -> change diapers -> burp bb -> put bb to sleep
Heh heh ...
sharon,
Ya lor ... it's quite settled that i'd be staying put for confinement. So good for u .. staying with mum now.
jul,
Yup, u r absolutely correct. The thing is i can't stand it now .. dunno why my blood will boil if she starts her nonsense. Last time i will just ignore her but now i seldom can tahan. Will quarrel with her de.
Not yet leh ... i think he has forgotten abt it, or that he thinks he still has plenty of time.
Oh yes, i think his sequence of duty shld be bring bb to me for bf -> change diapers -> burp bb -> put bb to sleep
sharon,
Ya lor ... it's quite settled that i'd be staying put for confinement. So good for u .. staying with mum now.
jul,
Yup, u r absolutely correct. The thing is i can't stand it now .. dunno why my blood will boil if she starts her nonsense. Last time i will just ignore her but now i seldom can tahan. Will quarrel with her de.
mashybrainz
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pegsfur
best part. Get him to heat up BM while u pump at night. I think it's more tiring to heat up BM than to bring bb to your side. Then get him to feed bb.
best part. Get him to heat up BM while u pump at night. I think it's more tiring to heat up BM than to bring bb to your side. Then get him to feed bb.
mashy, yes as the DIL, we can't appear to be disrespectful or it will invite more complains. If I am not happy with my MIL, I will tell my hb and tell him to go deal with it or talk to his mother.
jul, yes impt to stay amicable with MIL indeed. I don't want to become the bad DIL, let my hb be the bad guy ha ha
jul, yes impt to stay amicable with MIL indeed. I don't want to become the bad DIL, let my hb be the bad guy ha ha
~mimosa~
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mashy,
i also dont talk back..in fact most the time i dun give comments...only complain to my hubby...then she told my hubby y i so rude, always keep quiet...faintz
pegsfur,
i had a hard time moving back to my mum's place..previously stayin wif MIL one...thank god i got a v understanding n accomodating hubby, dats y can stay at my mum's place
i also dont talk back..in fact most the time i dun give comments...only complain to my hubby...then she told my hubby y i so rude, always keep quiet...faintz
pegsfur,
i had a hard time moving back to my mum's place..previously stayin wif MIL one...thank god i got a v understanding n accomodating hubby, dats y can stay at my mum's place
mashybrainz
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mich
the worse thing is whatever my hb decides to do, they think it's all becoz i told him to. They think he's a henpecked hb and listens to whatever i say. Actually he makes a lot of decisions himself lor, so find it pretty unfair when they start to blame me for it.
the worse thing is whatever my hb decides to do, they think it's all becoz i told him to. They think he's a henpecked hb and listens to whatever i say. Actually he makes a lot of decisions himself lor, so find it pretty unfair when they start to blame me for it.
pegsfur
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mashy/bear,
Hahaha .. u gals are really giving me evil ideas to tekan hubby huh ... but i like!!!
sharon
Good lah ... at least u r now comfortably at yr mum's place. But do u mean to say at first your mil dun allow u to go back?
mich
Ya, will give him a reminder abt the CL tonite ... see wat he say. I'm just afraid he'll go to his mum for help, or get his mum to recommend CL. I dun want to have anything to do with his mum or his mum's frens!
jul
Partly oso becos me & her already buay gum in the 1st place. After so many fights and quarrels, i dun think we can ever make peace.
Hahaha .. u gals are really giving me evil ideas to tekan hubby huh ... but i like!!!
sharon
Good lah ... at least u r now comfortably at yr mum's place. But do u mean to say at first your mil dun allow u to go back?
mich
Ya, will give him a reminder abt the CL tonite ... see wat he say. I'm just afraid he'll go to his mum for help, or get his mum to recommend CL. I dun want to have anything to do with his mum or his mum's frens!
jul
Partly oso becos me & her already buay gum in the 1st place. After so many fights and quarrels, i dun think we can ever make peace.
pegsfur
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mashy,
Same!!!! MIL oso blame me for any little decision hubby made ... even things like not drinking the herbal soup she prepared. She thot i told hubby not to drink.
When my fren came to visit me, she can talk very nicely to my fren and even commented that last time his son used to like to drink the herbal soup she prepared. Now that he's married, he doesn't drink it anymore. Even my fren can tell that her words have a deeper meaning.
Same!!!! MIL oso blame me for any little decision hubby made ... even things like not drinking the herbal soup she prepared. She thot i told hubby not to drink.
When my fren came to visit me, she can talk very nicely to my fren and even commented that last time his son used to like to drink the herbal soup she prepared. Now that he's married, he doesn't drink it anymore. Even my fren can tell that her words have a deeper meaning.
mashybrainz
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pegsfur
these crazy MILs... we'll never run out of stories to tell. I wonder what new stories i'll have this confinement. Prob not as much since during the last confinement we were at each others' throats. Hope they learnt their lesson.
these crazy MILs... we'll never run out of stories to tell. I wonder what new stories i'll have this confinement. Prob not as much since during the last confinement we were at each others' throats. Hope they learnt their lesson.
mashybrainz
New Member
sharon/pegsfur
they think our hb got no brains. After get married become brainwashed by us. sigh...
mich
yah, they really can't let go of their son. Actually it's a lot better than the time when we just got married. They simply couldn't let go, esp my MIL. We had to slowly 'wean' her off. Tough time for us then too.
they think our hb got no brains. After get married become brainwashed by us. sigh...
mich
yah, they really can't let go of their son. Actually it's a lot better than the time when we just got married. They simply couldn't let go, esp my MIL. We had to slowly 'wean' her off. Tough time for us then too.
pegsfur
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shirley,
She crazy de ... even her underwear she hanged outside dunno how kena blown away by the wind or wat, she said i threw it away. Then there was once she opened the main door and went back to her room. But becos the door stopper (magnectic type) is abit rusty, u have to push it properly for the door to stick. She didn't and the door closed. She yelled at me, asking me why i closed the door. Piangz ... I wasn't even anywhere near the door!
mich
I think the possibility of MIL doing confinement for me is not great lah ... but he might go & ask her for recommendation. Ok, to avoid this, i think i must really remember to remind him tonite.
She crazy de ... even her underwear she hanged outside dunno how kena blown away by the wind or wat, she said i threw it away. Then there was once she opened the main door and went back to her room. But becos the door stopper (magnectic type) is abit rusty, u have to push it properly for the door to stick. She didn't and the door closed. She yelled at me, asking me why i closed the door. Piangz ... I wasn't even anywhere near the door!
mich
I think the possibility of MIL doing confinement for me is not great lah ... but he might go & ask her for recommendation. Ok, to avoid this, i think i must really remember to remind him tonite.
mashybrainz
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pegsfur
haha, your MIL sounds just like my crazy neighbour. She just called the police the other day, again. I wonder what happened this time. Last time she complained another neighbour boxed her. I think this time gotta do with her son in law.
haha, your MIL sounds just like my crazy neighbour. She just called the police the other day, again. I wonder what happened this time. Last time she complained another neighbour boxed her. I think this time gotta do with her son in law.
mashy: what!!! ur MIL can tell u not to say those about her son, but she can say that about u?? isnt that the same kind of affirming??? nonsense lah she...
pegsfur: wah, she say until liek that ah... so mean leh.. Maybe b4 he was married, always with her, no freedom, so no choice. now married liao, grown up liao he has a choice not to drink mah..
pegsfur: wah, she say until liek that ah... so mean leh.. Maybe b4 he was married, always with her, no freedom, so no choice. now married liao, grown up liao he has a choice not to drink mah..
pegsfur
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Mashy,
Hahaha .. ya, sounds like wat my mil will do
When we quarrelled, she will always say dun bully her just becos she's an old woman. Then she'll say she's gonna call her daughter (from her 1st marriage), her god-brother, her auntie to come to our house and be the judge.
At first i still abit scared cos dunno wat they will do to me cos her daughters are all like her de, very chor lor type. Den i got so fed-up with her, i told to get them ALL here, i'll wait for them .. we'll settle it once & for all.
Sekali, she just action-action only ... pretend to press the numbers when actually she dun even dare to call her daughters cos she knew they will not be bothered with her.
Hahaha .. ya, sounds like wat my mil will do
When we quarrelled, she will always say dun bully her just becos she's an old woman. Then she'll say she's gonna call her daughter (from her 1st marriage), her god-brother, her auntie to come to our house and be the judge.
At first i still abit scared cos dunno wat they will do to me cos her daughters are all like her de, very chor lor type. Den i got so fed-up with her, i told to get them ALL here, i'll wait for them .. we'll settle it once & for all.
Sekali, she just action-action only ... pretend to press the numbers when actually she dun even dare to call her daughters cos she knew they will not be bothered with her.
donkeymami
Active Member
btw, i got hands-me down Avent milk warmer from SIL may i knw can i use for medela or pigeon bottles? or jz can use on avent oli?