dee and emeraldbride ...
Thank you .. thank you .. *takes a bow* .. lol. No big deal la, give birth 3 times no epidural and no episiotomy and no tearing ... I think I'm just DAMN LUCKY. Not like I discovered a cure for cancer leh ... lol.
Gill .. ya, she's pro natural birth ... but I'm not small sized so I dunno whether that's an issue with her ...
Regarding your maid issue, er ... whether she chooses to leave or you send her back .. you need to pay for her airfare home .. my advice is send her back asap and work on getting a new one now before you get big and very tired to train etc.
Seriously, I think as "bad" as infantcare is ... I won't really trust a maid to be with my newborn .. if anything happens, how? Even for me, when I had my 3rd girl, (I'm a SAHM) ... my maid didn't handle her at all till she was almost 4 or 5 months old ... I die die did everything my own .. I just tasked her to look after my older ones so I can concentrate on my newborn ... I bathed her myself etc. Even when my maid eventually handled her at 4-5 months old, I still bathed her myself .. I just watch her feed her cereal cos my girl didn't want to eat when I'm feeding cos she wanted me to breastfeed her instead.
The thing is with maids is you really dunno what's their experience like with handling little babies ... they can SAY la .. dunnno whether it's true.
for me, I can't depend on my mom .. she's not keen to actually help me regularly .. that's why I have a maid to help me .. very frustrating for me cos actually my mom is still quite young and able (plus she's divorced from my dad so technically she's damn free) yet, she don't really want to help me .. and she stays near me .. *faint* ...