(2008/10) Oct 2008
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matsu
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<font color="119911">huini,
sounds like your mil is the doting mom who juz support whoever needs help. Your problem doesn't lies with her, it's your sil that u shd deal with.
If your hubby not gng to 'talk' to her then no choice, u have to, for your bb's sake. juz tell her straight that when her son is sick, u cannot have him over, she have to find her own solution to her own problem.</font>
sounds like your mil is the doting mom who juz support whoever needs help. Your problem doesn't lies with her, it's your sil that u shd deal with.
If your hubby not gng to 'talk' to her then no choice, u have to, for your bb's sake. juz tell her straight that when her son is sick, u cannot have him over, she have to find her own solution to her own problem.</font>
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
hi huini - my piece of advice is to leave it for a while and then talk to her or ur sil later on abt it... such in-laws relationship is v v tricky. Not forgetting u need ur mil help to take care of shenise. If she angry she can say bye and just take care of ur nephew.
jellypurin
New Member
vanilla
think that is a good advise to huini...
think that is a good advise to huini...
xxinyingxx
Active Member
Bigflamingo,
How come last min flying to perth??
How to handle baby on flight
For me... i latch marcus during take off and landing. In between, just play lor. Then try to coax him to sleep. He slept for a while in the bassinet. Oh... ask for seat near the bassinet. Else, you will probably end up carrying baby throughout the flight.
How come last min flying to perth??
How to handle baby on flight
For me... i latch marcus during take off and landing. In between, just play lor. Then try to coax him to sleep. He slept for a while in the bassinet. Oh... ask for seat near the bassinet. Else, you will probably end up carrying baby throughout the flight.
Hi bbgoh,
me new memeber...haha
jjmom,
my mil is gd but she always side with her daughter.alot of things u guys can't imagine. if i am going to tell u that...last time when i am dating my hubby, my mil will call hubby n ask him to buy food buy for his sis.
I always tell hubby, ur sis, 40 yrs old this yr, everything is dun know, dun know. haiz..
elch
I din talk to her, cos we dun communicate. only those hi & bye.
vanilla,
wanted my mum to look after shenise, but my mum still wish to work for 2 more yrs..so no choice, like what u say, in laws relationship very tricky, got to handle it properly.
Thanks to all mummies for hearing me out, feel more better liao...haha
me new memeber...haha
jjmom,
my mil is gd but she always side with her daughter.alot of things u guys can't imagine. if i am going to tell u that...last time when i am dating my hubby, my mil will call hubby n ask him to buy food buy for his sis.
I always tell hubby, ur sis, 40 yrs old this yr, everything is dun know, dun know. haiz..
elch
I din talk to her, cos we dun communicate. only those hi & bye.
vanilla,
wanted my mum to look after shenise, but my mum still wish to work for 2 more yrs..so no choice, like what u say, in laws relationship very tricky, got to handle it properly.
Thanks to all mummies for hearing me out, feel more better liao...haha
Jelly
hope u r better today... poor dear. lots of things happening... inevitable have a heavy heart...
maid wise, i think yr mum really has high standards. gotta find a way to make her understand that if she cannot live with any maid, then without any help even worse leh...
u mentioned a cousin passed away, is it the one you scrapped about?
cast yr cares on him for he cares for you. take care...
hui ni
i also feel it's unfair. like the mummies mentioned, yr SIL prob feels her son gets first priority. so if he's sick, yr mil should care for him, and you should then care for your own kid. but she's truly very selfish. and i feel sad for her son that when he is ill his own mother doesn't wanna take leave to care for him.
hope u r better today... poor dear. lots of things happening... inevitable have a heavy heart...
maid wise, i think yr mum really has high standards. gotta find a way to make her understand that if she cannot live with any maid, then without any help even worse leh...
u mentioned a cousin passed away, is it the one you scrapped about?
cast yr cares on him for he cares for you. take care...
hui ni
i also feel it's unfair. like the mummies mentioned, yr SIL prob feels her son gets first priority. so if he's sick, yr mil should care for him, and you should then care for your own kid. but she's truly very selfish. and i feel sad for her son that when he is ill his own mother doesn't wanna take leave to care for him.
xxinyingxx
Active Member
So... bigflamingo,
u are the mystery $12 transfer that didn't put name?
JOanne,
my mistake. I never rec anything from u. HOw did u do the transfer?
u are the mystery $12 transfer that didn't put name?
JOanne,
my mistake. I never rec anything from u. HOw did u do the transfer?
jellypurin
New Member
dimple
thanks am feeling better. ya, that's the one i scrapped about.. he had so few pictures taken of him that when i found that, i just scrap it... yesterday scrapped for my other cousin too...
prayed about it yesterday and just commited everything to God.. He will make a way
thanks am feeling better. ya, that's the one i scrapped about.. he had so few pictures taken of him that when i found that, i just scrap it... yesterday scrapped for my other cousin too...
prayed about it yesterday and just commited everything to God.. He will make a way
bigflamingo
Member
XY,
hahaha...yes should be me. Coz only my husband has a POSB account. I asked him to transfer.
I am changing jobs, but didn't know when my last day was gonna be, so I just booked the flight two days ago. hehhee. Now I have to rush out and buy a baby winter jacket. The Zara one is so cute but so ex!
hahaha...yes should be me. Coz only my husband has a POSB account. I asked him to transfer.
I am changing jobs, but didn't know when my last day was gonna be, so I just booked the flight two days ago. hehhee. Now I have to rush out and buy a baby winter jacket. The Zara one is so cute but so ex!
bigflamingo
Member
XY,
hahaha...yes should be me. Coz only my husband has a POSB account. I asked him to transfer.
I am changing jobs, but didn't know when my last day was gonna be, so I just booked the flight two days ago. hehhee. Now I have to rush out and buy a baby winter jacket. The Zara one is so cute but so ex!
hahaha...yes should be me. Coz only my husband has a POSB account. I asked him to transfer.
I am changing jobs, but didn't know when my last day was gonna be, so I just booked the flight two days ago. hehhee. Now I have to rush out and buy a baby winter jacket. The Zara one is so cute but so ex!
xxinyingxx
Active Member
Joanne,
u transfer using which bank?
POSB/DBS is immediate.
If other banks, then will be 2 working days later.
u transfer using which bank?
POSB/DBS is immediate.
If other banks, then will be 2 working days later.
xxinyingxx
Active Member
Joanne,
u transfer using which bank?
POSB/DBS is immediate.
If other banks, then will be 2 working days later.
u transfer using which bank?
POSB/DBS is immediate.
If other banks, then will be 2 working days later.
bigflamingo
Member
Where are you and baby going Little Bluey?
Hi mummies,
Me now at city beach resort for my company's AGM. Very tiring for me coz I need to travel to n fro as everyone is staying over nite while I need to go home to look After bb. Then next day have to travel here again. Now pumping n hence can come to forum.
Jelly,
Will tt u tonight for the cup. Thanks!
Cheerbear,
Will tt u tonite for the cupcakes! Thanks.
Welcome Huini! I m 28 this year and bb Claudia is born on 19 Sept.
Now gg for lunch soon. Catch up later if time permits.
Me now at city beach resort for my company's AGM. Very tiring for me coz I need to travel to n fro as everyone is staying over nite while I need to go home to look After bb. Then next day have to travel here again. Now pumping n hence can come to forum.
Jelly,
Will tt u tonight for the cup. Thanks!
Cheerbear,
Will tt u tonite for the cupcakes! Thanks.
Welcome Huini! I m 28 this year and bb Claudia is born on 19 Sept.
Now gg for lunch soon. Catch up later if time permits.
<font color="#C24641"> Bluey
aiya.. dun need to feel embarassing de. if i insist.
but it's already mail out. pray hard that it wont lost.
Huini
i think u should argue with that 'buay zhi tong' not ur MIL.
frm hte way u talk abt her, she seems like those quiet n shy type women.
willing to gve help to those in need.
now it's ur SIL took U all for granted!
i think ur MIL is also a sandwich between u n her daughter.
maybe ur SIL is nt happy that ur MIL is helping u all to look aft Shenise.
so she's using such way to take "revenge".
n also ur SIL might think that,
'since mother at ur place.
might as well throw my son to u all.
if u all scare that mother might get tired.
den u all should take leave.
aft all, mother is there to look aft Shenise n my son is just a "part-timer".'
this is my thinking la.</font>
aiya.. dun need to feel embarassing de. if i insist.
but it's already mail out. pray hard that it wont lost.
Huini
i think u should argue with that 'buay zhi tong' not ur MIL.
frm hte way u talk abt her, she seems like those quiet n shy type women.
willing to gve help to those in need.
now it's ur SIL took U all for granted!
i think ur MIL is also a sandwich between u n her daughter.
maybe ur SIL is nt happy that ur MIL is helping u all to look aft Shenise.
so she's using such way to take "revenge".
n also ur SIL might think that,
'since mother at ur place.
might as well throw my son to u all.
if u all scare that mother might get tired.
den u all should take leave.
aft all, mother is there to look aft Shenise n my son is just a "part-timer".'
this is my thinking la.</font>
matsu
Active Member
<font color="119911">Huini,
your mil seems to really dote on her daughter vy much since she still worry abt her missing lunch at 40yrs old *faint* (hope we don't have to b like your mil)
in this case, like what vanilla has pointed out, u really have to take into consideration that your mil may rather take care of your sil's son than your bb if being 'forced' to make a choice
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your mil seems to really dote on her daughter vy much since she still worry abt her missing lunch at 40yrs old *faint* (hope we don't have to b like your mil)
in this case, like what vanilla has pointed out, u really have to take into consideration that your mil may rather take care of your sil's son than your bb if being 'forced' to make a choice
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
hi JJmom - thanks..his surgery will be in 4-6wks time. This sat we will see pd to assess the actual date, get the surgeon n my son's fav anethestic doc. He was discharged last fri after spending 10days in the hosp and contracting h1n1 there....sigh!
Hi huini- yes we r v happy when our own mums take care of our bb..hence this is how ur sil feels and ur mil feels too... so hangon there...dont rock the boat too hard cos the one who suffer later cld be shenise and urself....
mousebb - that is a nice lunch!
Hi huini- yes we r v happy when our own mums take care of our bb..hence this is how ur sil feels and ur mil feels too... so hangon there...dont rock the boat too hard cos the one who suffer later cld be shenise and urself....
mousebb - that is a nice lunch!
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
hi mousebb - thanks he is recovering... lost alot of weight and we still trying to make him put some bakc be4 he loses more during the coming surgery.
Hi elch - depends..he has the antibody for it, but his immune system is still v weak so cld contract again if he is really weak. and if this strain just mutate abit, he might get it again if not careful.
Hi elch - depends..he has the antibody for it, but his immune system is still v weak so cld contract again if he is really weak. and if this strain just mutate abit, he might get it again if not careful.
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
thanks reb... i really pray this will be his last surgery...he has done 4 operations before he is 1yr old.
pig_pig
Active Member
<font color="aa00aa">Vanilla
Xin ku ni le! As parents, I always feel so helpless for my kids when they fall sick and lost weight. Feel so heartpain. You too, have to take good care of yourself esp your boy is going for op soon. We parents also cannot afford to fall sick.</font>
Xin ku ni le! As parents, I always feel so helpless for my kids when they fall sick and lost weight. Feel so heartpain. You too, have to take good care of yourself esp your boy is going for op soon. We parents also cannot afford to fall sick.</font>
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
thanks Bluey -- will do...
Wow ...envious...nice place...u have a good trip!! When u leaving for France?
Wow ...envious...nice place...u have a good trip!! When u leaving for France?
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
thanks mousebb - ya...i cant fall sick cos i do the niteshift during the hosp stay.... the nurses there all recognise us..can tell the rm no we were in b4
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
bluey - good timing..cool weather!! enjoy the food and wine! I think ur little darling will love the cheese there!
jellypurin
New Member
bluey
thant's nice and ashten is so fortunate
thant's nice and ashten is so fortunate
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
thks elch
xxinyingxx
Active Member
Mummies,
My SS suddenly drop alot.
Think i'll have no choice but to give up BFing le.
My SS suddenly drop alot.
Think i'll have no choice but to give up BFing le.
lilbluey
Active Member
<font color="0000ff">Vanilla,
Yup, it's one of our fav season nice & cool weather and best of all it's off peak so it won't be too crowded
I hope my boy will love it there
My hb intends to do a travel shoot of him hahaha ;p
Mousebb,
It will be about 18 hrs plus (include transit) becos we are going to another part of France before heading to Paris..hope Ash will cooperate hahaha..
Bug yr hb about it keke ;p
**yr lunch is sinful yet nice!!**
Jelly,
All our bubs are fortunate becos they hv their daddies and mummies to dote on them =D
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Yup, it's one of our fav season nice & cool weather and best of all it's off peak so it won't be too crowded
I hope my boy will love it there
Mousebb,
It will be about 18 hrs plus (include transit) becos we are going to another part of France before heading to Paris..hope Ash will cooperate hahaha..
Bug yr hb about it keke ;p
**yr lunch is sinful yet nice!!**
Jelly,
All our bubs are fortunate becos they hv their daddies and mummies to dote on them =D
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bigflamingo
Member
Wow, Lil Bluey!
France! Very cool. What XY said is right...we have to feed upon take off and landing to equalise the pressure in their ears.
France! Very cool. What XY said is right...we have to feed upon take off and landing to equalise the pressure in their ears.
jellypurin
New Member
xy
drop how much?
bluey
i hope to bring rebby to hokkaido next year in august...
drop how much?
bluey
i hope to bring rebby to hokkaido next year in august...
skybluegal
Active Member
mummies jus back from taka toys fair and din got the pool of balls as is OOS (i think) since i cant find but bought a batt piano that cost $12 only 
vanilla,
u r a wei da mummy and wishes elisha speedy recovery after the op
mousebb,
wow ice cream.. i like esp the weather now is killing.
HK, i plan to go in Nov one but bcoz of the H1N1 and now another virus (cant rem the name) my hb say NO MORE going
bluey,
so envy leh.. going france and think ash will like it alot coz is cooling
xy,
dun be sad abt ur ss drop.. think marcus already benefit alot from ur bm.
btw, me no more bf liao so if take plane how to latch? nothing for him to suck leh.
vanilla,
u r a wei da mummy and wishes elisha speedy recovery after the op
mousebb,
wow ice cream.. i like esp the weather now is killing.
HK, i plan to go in Nov one but bcoz of the H1N1 and now another virus (cant rem the name) my hb say NO MORE going
bluey,
so envy leh.. going france and think ash will like it alot coz is cooling
xy,
dun be sad abt ur ss drop.. think marcus already benefit alot from ur bm.
btw, me no more bf liao so if take plane how to latch? nothing for him to suck leh.