(2008/10) Oct 2008
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hi littlebluey
i am a passerby and came across this website when my frenz email me regarding the petition u gals going for... besides helping those working mum, i think sahm are well deserve to get what they supposed to benefit with.... let me have a self introduction before pouring out my anger.... my husband and i are local working as a research scientist in UK. We came back to singapore last year after our contract ended, hoping to have our kids receiving education in singapore. when we r back, we managed to find a job but our salary being cut 50% and most of the company r not family oriented.... i sent my 2 girls to childcare center and realised that besides the so called fees r high, the teachers dun look professional... SO i decided to quit job and be a stay at home mummy early this year....at the same time, i realised i was expecting my 3rd bb due sept.. may be this is god will for me to be a stay at home mum...i do not have much struggling giving up my job becos i wanted to be invoive in my kids developmental milestones... i dun have a maid, i dun want my parents or inlaws to look after them.. neither do i want to have them in childcare or infant care.... we moved back to hdb flat after i resigned becoz singapore living standard is too high for a single income family...
during the national rally, i was very happy becoz of the BENEFITS announced but it disappointed me totally on wednesday.... the so called benefit is nothing..... their main purposes r to encourage couples to have more children by giving out money and money... yes everyone r money face... but do u think by giving money, couples will give birth more.... the ans is no..... the money is not enough to cover the hospital bills etc.... the benefits oni for WORKING MUM, how about NON WORKING MUM WHOM GIVE UP THERI JOB, we give up our career to upbring the future leaders in singapore and yet we r being treated so unfairly..... singapore always think that non working mum r a bunch of yellow face wife that do not deserve to get what they supposed to have.... they feel that non working mum did not contribute anything to the society... then how about FATHER, they contribute to the society, and wat they get in the end? NOTHING not even a week of leave.... frankly speaking, i really regret coming back to singapore not becos of the implementation, but how the govt treat us....... furthermore, i understand for those whom have fertility issue going thru IVF will start next month and only get benefits if the IVF is done in govt hospital.. CORRECT ME IF I M WRONG. if that is the case, does it mean that govt hospital have a higher successful rate for IVF as compared to PRIVATE hospital... i dun think so... how about those going for IUI, no subsidies for them.... r they not a group of infertility patients....
i am a passerby and came across this website when my frenz email me regarding the petition u gals going for... besides helping those working mum, i think sahm are well deserve to get what they supposed to benefit with.... let me have a self introduction before pouring out my anger.... my husband and i are local working as a research scientist in UK. We came back to singapore last year after our contract ended, hoping to have our kids receiving education in singapore. when we r back, we managed to find a job but our salary being cut 50% and most of the company r not family oriented.... i sent my 2 girls to childcare center and realised that besides the so called fees r high, the teachers dun look professional... SO i decided to quit job and be a stay at home mummy early this year....at the same time, i realised i was expecting my 3rd bb due sept.. may be this is god will for me to be a stay at home mum...i do not have much struggling giving up my job becos i wanted to be invoive in my kids developmental milestones... i dun have a maid, i dun want my parents or inlaws to look after them.. neither do i want to have them in childcare or infant care.... we moved back to hdb flat after i resigned becoz singapore living standard is too high for a single income family...
during the national rally, i was very happy becoz of the BENEFITS announced but it disappointed me totally on wednesday.... the so called benefit is nothing..... their main purposes r to encourage couples to have more children by giving out money and money... yes everyone r money face... but do u think by giving money, couples will give birth more.... the ans is no..... the money is not enough to cover the hospital bills etc.... the benefits oni for WORKING MUM, how about NON WORKING MUM WHOM GIVE UP THERI JOB, we give up our career to upbring the future leaders in singapore and yet we r being treated so unfairly..... singapore always think that non working mum r a bunch of yellow face wife that do not deserve to get what they supposed to have.... they feel that non working mum did not contribute anything to the society... then how about FATHER, they contribute to the society, and wat they get in the end? NOTHING not even a week of leave.... frankly speaking, i really regret coming back to singapore not becos of the implementation, but how the govt treat us....... furthermore, i understand for those whom have fertility issue going thru IVF will start next month and only get benefits if the IVF is done in govt hospital.. CORRECT ME IF I M WRONG. if that is the case, does it mean that govt hospital have a higher successful rate for IVF as compared to PRIVATE hospital... i dun think so... how about those going for IUI, no subsidies for them.... r they not a group of infertility patients....
skybluegal
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ribena,
aiyo.. ur mil veri guo fen leh.. ignore her la.. anyway u not staying with her right?
aiyo.. ur mil veri guo fen leh.. ignore her la.. anyway u not staying with her right?
Ribena..
you'll be letting ur MIL win if u really go ahead with divorcing.. cos the grand-daughter that she doesnt dote on will be the one who suffers.. in addition to you.. so your best revenge against your MIL is to hv a gd r/s with your husband. i can imagine that it's very difficult, but i agree with the rest in that you muz play soft tactics also..n let ur husband see how affected you r by ur MIL..how she is affecting your pregnancy etc.. everytime ur MIL does a small thing that annoys you or is not-so-nice, voice it to ur husband gently, saying you are trying to ignore it n forgive ur MIL, but it's really v.hard.. .
hang in there..n don't b rash ok?? all the mummies here are behind u!
Littlebluey and Phylicia,
thanks so much for consolidating our views, grievances and names..really hope our petition will work. i tink what really irritates me is the fact that eVEryOnE expected us (Aug-DEc mummies) to enjoy the benefits.. my boss, the receptionist at my gynae's clinic..everybody said we'll surely enjoy it. A reasonable expectation had been set because of their past practice in Aug 2004...that's why I feel so cheated. The unequal treatment between the Aug-Dec mummies and after-Jan mummies is really hard to swallow too. Ugh.
Anw, thanks again!!
you'll be letting ur MIL win if u really go ahead with divorcing.. cos the grand-daughter that she doesnt dote on will be the one who suffers.. in addition to you.. so your best revenge against your MIL is to hv a gd r/s with your husband. i can imagine that it's very difficult, but i agree with the rest in that you muz play soft tactics also..n let ur husband see how affected you r by ur MIL..how she is affecting your pregnancy etc.. everytime ur MIL does a small thing that annoys you or is not-so-nice, voice it to ur husband gently, saying you are trying to ignore it n forgive ur MIL, but it's really v.hard.. .
hang in there..n don't b rash ok?? all the mummies here are behind u!
Littlebluey and Phylicia,
thanks so much for consolidating our views, grievances and names..really hope our petition will work. i tink what really irritates me is the fact that eVEryOnE expected us (Aug-DEc mummies) to enjoy the benefits.. my boss, the receptionist at my gynae's clinic..everybody said we'll surely enjoy it. A reasonable expectation had been set because of their past practice in Aug 2004...that's why I feel so cheated. The unequal treatment between the Aug-Dec mummies and after-Jan mummies is really hard to swallow too. Ugh.
Anw, thanks again!!
<font color="aa00aa">Mommies!!!</font>
<font color="0077aa">i juz came back frm my chk up. result nt veri good. eveytin is good but except for my gal in my tummy. her weight is juz 1571g. haiz... my gynae told me that by nw i'm 32wks preg. my bb should be 1.6kg to 1.8kg. haiz... i dunno wat to do leh. haiz... i so sianz... no mood liao ler.... can any mommies here teach me n intro me wat food to eat so that my gal can grow fast? really veri helpless leh... </font>
<font color="0077aa">i juz came back frm my chk up. result nt veri good. eveytin is good but except for my gal in my tummy. her weight is juz 1571g. haiz... my gynae told me that by nw i'm 32wks preg. my bb should be 1.6kg to 1.8kg. haiz... i dunno wat to do leh. haiz... i so sianz... no mood liao ler.... can any mommies here teach me n intro me wat food to eat so that my gal can grow fast? really veri helpless leh... </font>
eternitystar
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<font color="0000ff">Mousebb,
Enjoy yourself and Happy Birthday to your Little Prince - Wen xuan
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Enjoy yourself and Happy Birthday to your Little Prince - Wen xuan
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skybluegal
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rebecca,
go eat durians, beef and drinks lots of milk.. i drink similac and my bb is growing gd so u can try
go eat durians, beef and drinks lots of milk.. i drink similac and my bb is growing gd so u can try
eternitystar
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<font color="0000ff">Rebecca,
Think drinking powdered milk help to fatten up the baby. Perhaps u cld give it a try!
Dun worry too much ok
Eat and Rest well!!
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Think drinking powdered milk help to fatten up the baby. Perhaps u cld give it a try!
Dun worry too much ok
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xxinyingxx
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Bye ladies...
eternitystar
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<font color="0000ff">Rebecca,
Dun be sad, aiyoyo at week 32 bb will go thru a growth spur, juz continue to eat
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Dun be sad, aiyoyo at week 32 bb will go thru a growth spur, juz continue to eat
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eternitystar
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<font color="0000ff">Rebecca,
Drink milk powder instead of fresh milk it shd be more fattening!!
Muz maintain a positive attitude!
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Drink milk powder instead of fresh milk it shd be more fattening!!
Muz maintain a positive attitude!
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pig_pig
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<font color="aa00aa">Rebecca
Could be you and your hubby are both small-built so your bb also small size bah. Once bb is out, just let your bb drink as much milk as possible, your bb will gain weight very fast le. Dont stress yourself and worry so much. Did you try taking those fish oil capsules? That time when my gynae said my boy not gaining weight, he suggested I take fish oil.</font>
Could be you and your hubby are both small-built so your bb also small size bah. Once bb is out, just let your bb drink as much milk as possible, your bb will gain weight very fast le. Dont stress yourself and worry so much. Did you try taking those fish oil capsules? That time when my gynae said my boy not gaining weight, he suggested I take fish oil.</font>
<font color="0000ff">Littlebluey,</font>
<font color="0077aa">i scare of the smell n the taste of the milk powder. wat brand of milk are u takin?
<font color="aa00aa">mousebb,</font>
my body built is those thin de ba i tink. i'm always underweight. but my hubby is nt. he's those kind eat muz exercise. if nt the weight will grow, grow grow.
<font color="119911">Juz Us,</font>
b4 preg, my weight is 49kg. n today's weight is 58kg+</font>
<font color="0077aa">i scare of the smell n the taste of the milk powder. wat brand of milk are u takin?
<font color="aa00aa">mousebb,</font>
my body built is those thin de ba i tink. i'm always underweight. but my hubby is nt. he's those kind eat muz exercise. if nt the weight will grow, grow grow.
<font color="119911">Juz Us,</font>
b4 preg, my weight is 49kg. n today's weight is 58kg+</font>
eternitystar
New Member
<font color="0000ff">Rebecca,
I can't take milk powder wor becos one thing I'm lactose intolerant and on the other hand, my bb is too big for his gestational age and my gynae asked me cannot take any milk leh...
I got some samples chocolates flavours, u want? I can pass it/send to you
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I can't take milk powder wor becos one thing I'm lactose intolerant and on the other hand, my bb is too big for his gestational age and my gynae asked me cannot take any milk leh...
I got some samples chocolates flavours, u want? I can pass it/send to you
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eternitystar
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<font color="0000ff">Rebecca,
My gynae's clinic gave me quite a lot previously wor...if u want I send to you lar
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My gynae's clinic gave me quite a lot previously wor...if u want I send to you lar
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