Sorry mummies but I have been bottoming up my anger and need to vent it out...
My in laws dote on Bb K a lot cos it’s their first grandchild, somemore it’s a boy.. But they are quite inconsiderate in some way and another..
We would go back to their place for dinner normally once a week, sometimes once a fortnight due to our busy work schedule. Hubby would normally call to inform them we are going back for dinner so that my MIL can prepare his favourite dishes.
There were a few occasions when my hubby called back to inform them for dinner. One of them was sick (down with flu cos couple of months back flu bug was spreading in spore) but didn’t tell my hubby about it.. Had they told my hubby about it, I wouldn’t want to go back for dinner, for I don’t want bb K to be infected with their virus.
In fact, I feel it’s their responsibility to ‘declare’ to us that they are feeling unwell. Yet they kept mum about it until we went over, then they would casually say ‘Oh, I am down with flu, don’t bring the bb near me’..
There was an occasion when the whole family of 3, both my in laws and BIL all down with flu bug and same goes, didn’t ‘declare’ to my hubby until we went ove. My BIL still got the cheek to say ‘Father passed the bug to mother and mother passed to me and we passed the bug round and round’!!!
Blood was boiling when he told me all this and deep in my heart I was thinking ‘What the hell are they all doing? All family down with flu and nobody tells us about it when they know we are coming back for dinner with bb K? What if he caught the flu virus? '
Apparently they never thought of the consequences of keeping mum about their illness la.. Luckily bb K never fell sick during these occasions but I super buay song about them.
During these occasions when they were unwell, even though they said ‘Don’t bring the bb near me’, they would still carry him eventually, in fact close contacts.. I understand they dote him a lot and only see him once a week but come on lor, they are down with flu, and bb K was only about 5 months old back then, immune system wasn’t that strong.. What if he catches the virus from them? Who’s going to suffer in the end? It’s me and bb lor.
Then my in laws will start their finger pointing at me for not taking good care of bb K and cause their ‘bao bei’ to catch a flu which in fact they are the culprits for his flu.
I was very unhappy with their inconsideration but I didn’t tell my hubby about it cos my hubby very close to his family.. In fact he’s very defensive about his family whenever I have feedbacks about his family even though it clearly that they are at fault. So to me, it’s pointless to talk to him anyway..
Now with the deadly swine flu spreading around worldwide, I told my hubby last week that if we were to go back to in law place for dinner, I would want him to check with them if anyone of them is unwell. If they are unwell, then of course we wouldn’t go back.. Better to be safe than sorry, right?
Hubby then asked me why need to ask this question? I couldn’t tolerate any further and told him that his parents are bloody inconsiderate not to declare they are unwell when we went back for dinner on several occasions.
And now with this swine flu, I wouldn’t want to take any risk of having close contacts with unwell ppl.. Hubby understand my intention and agreed to my request..
Few days back, hubby decided to go back for dinner and called his mum.. So I whispered to him about ‘checking with them’ thingy and he asked his mum:
Hubby: Mum, is there anyone in family not feeling well?
Mum: Don have, why ask this question? (I assume that’s my MIL’s reply cos both hubby and MIL talked through phone)
Hubby: Just casually asking la.. Now got swine flu, so got to play safe ma..
So during dinner time over the table, MIL told my hubby that if we ever go to our other ppl house, we shouldn’t throw the question ‘is there anyone in family not feeling well’ to them cos it’s very RUDE to do so..
After saying, she looked at me as if she knows I am the mastermind of this question.
And my stupid hubby, so occupied with eating, only said ‘No la, we seldom go to our friends house one!!!’
Please lor, all our friends are considerate, automatic and zhi dong one.. If they are unwell, they would ‘declare’ and not invite us to their house, especially they know we have a bb and now there’s swine flu going around..
Had my in law been considerate in the first place, would I need to ask my hubby to ask them this question? And now I am being ‘accused’ of being rude for posing this question to my inconsiderate in law..
I am soooooooooo ANGRY lor..
Sorry mummies for the long post but... Sigh!!!!!!!!!!!
my gal cant even finish her 30ml puree.. 
