(2008/06) June 2008


Zuen, Feifei, thanks for your words. Zuen, no use making resolutions together, coz he is a loner. I have tried all sort of ways and even my mil knows how her son behaves but choose to ignore about it and yet quite ok to me, thus we all can't do anything. After 5 yrs liao, I am getting used to it. Dun worry about me, I am being forced to take care of my gal and boy (I can't take full credits coz I also have help on my boy most of the time).
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Warrior, haha, if you take care, i am sure you will be very strict on Floyce. Just relax and take it easy during these days.
 
Felicia, my mum told us (actually my relatives) that when I-weekly and U-weekly reached the NTUC she works, they will be snapped up within 2 hours coz of this show. Sometimes she is working not fast enough to go out grab a copy, they are gone, v fast, and have to wait for re-print and delivery. Now the ordeal is over, dun think she will spend $$ on the weekly mag liao, hee.
 
<font color="aa00aa">feifei,
i'll go beserk if need to handle 2 kids for a long period plus housework somemore. If can everyday bring my kids out then maybe i can lah. But if asked me to stay at home 24hr, i sure cannot de lor.

Veniz,
i bought the magazine partly oso coz of this little nyonya, then my MIL always likes to ask me why this, why that and most of the times she was watching but i'm NOT! So by reading the story line, whenever she ask, i can answer.
Tats why my hubby very surprised why i can answer her mum as he know i seldom like to watch drama one. hehe.....</font>
 
Felicia,
ya lor, true hor...go out, somehow won't be as stressed as stayign at home with thme..hehe..

Christina,
morning =)..
 
morning...

MLP,
one is enuff? haha tell ur husband its nvr enuff lor...somemore jayden so cute...im sure he wants a 2nd one..guys sometimes 口不对心..

if its a gal...u dun need to worry she kena bully..cos she will only bully pple...and tear pple apart...SHE-ROARS!!!
 
John Little CNY Expo Sale
08 January 2009 - 18 January 2009

Event type : Retailer &amp; Sales
Venue : Singapore Expo, Hall 5
Admission : Public - Free Admission
Event Schedules : Time: 10.30am to 10pm
 
feifei,
no nd wait for ntuc promo.. go to rivervale plaza the medical hall.. their petpet is $11.80 and get $1 disc if buy 2..
 
shycloud,
tks for the infor..tink i might be going cos sat going for a PS at Tampiness =).

Babycupid,
I see..so buy 2 more worth it hor..hmm...=)..Need to go stock up liao..Now NTUC hv Nepia on sales wor..me still tinking to buy anot =)..
 
<font color="119911">Morning ladies!
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I drank teh at 4pm ytd and suffer fm insomnia. Slept at 4am. BB woke up at 5am to drink milk. ZOMBIE today!

I let Jayden crawl on the bed as I catch lil nonya...haha... pat him with the tv on. I only do this when really like the show. haha...

Shycloud, tt's why I think he siao siao... but it takes 2 hands to clap to get #2. So c how lor. But wanna enjoy playing with jayden now first lei. keke...</font>
 
Felicia, good idea you have had on getting the synosis from the mags so you can be advance reader and can explain to your mil. Too bad my chinese also cannot make it one, otherwise I will get i or U weekly to read. Reading 8days is no fun, coz the storyline is so concised, eventually still have to sit down watch the show to know the ending.

carol, I thought you want a gal gal so can share talks with us on gal's fashion?
 
I managed to pat pat pat my boy to sleep just now... his first nap! feel a sense of accomplishment but not sure if I can do it again. alot, I realise, depends on how tired he is. If he is tired, he tends not to figit too much and tends to fall asleep quicker.
 
<font color="119911">Veniz, yesh, i want a gal gal ar... that's why i say i wish for a girl and maybe in tiger yr. It's my husband who just want ONE for NOW. Cos the other day i told him i stop bf liao and keep my pump barangs. then he said u can sell ur pump away lor. I was like STUNNED! I want to keep for #2 lei. haha...

Cactus, my boy also like tt once in a blue moon. very tired liao. he can just sleep by himself. Try again later for his next nap n see how it goes!
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hi hi...

wah all analysing on the animals ah? so which one is the best??

mag, ellysia &amp; angel, i managed to pat the lil to bed last nite... quite an achievement! maybe i shouldnt be so greedy, jump straight to letting him fall aslp on his own. one step at a time ba... at least lesser cryings for patting him to bed.
 
MLP, no, I'm working.
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I leave for work at 810am, and my boy wakes up usually at 6am, so I look after him in the mornings whilst my maid does housework, and I put him down for his 1st nap of the day and when he sleeps at night.
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MLP, heehee, just keep lar. By the time you have a gal, we will be able to pass down nice clothes to her (I can go dig nice ones, but have to keep from my hb, hee.)
 
veniz, i added liao. remba to accept k?

mag, ellysia, i oso got hooked on the Baby Whisperer book.. intro to my other cousins who are new mummies too. last nite read until eyes really cannot open liao then slp.. hahaha.. still hvn finish leh. super slow reader...
 
Re: Bb Sleeping
My ger have problem sleeping in her own cot already. She have been sleeping with us for months then last night got to put her on her cot cause HB sick. Already pad her sleep then try putting her down n 5 times! she still wake up n cry. I try to hide aside n peep on her. She was on her tummy looking at the door. After few minutes cry. When she see me she 'bian zui' cry with tears.
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See liao heart pain. HB also. So no choice put her back to our bed and she fall asleep immediately. Tonight got to try again.

Anyone encounter this too? what ways to let her sleep smoothly in her cot?
 
MLP, yah... very very precious time. Cos my boy sleeps early.. last night, he zzz at 710pm.. woke up at 6am. usually he sleep only at 730pm. By the time I reach home, usually 615pm. If I'm lucky, 605pm. Then it is quick quick shower and change clothes and gobble down dinner. Bathe him at 645pm, then play short while before putting him to bed.
 
<font color="aa00aa">Veniz,
Ur chinese shldnt be more bad than me leh! Coz i'm not chinese educated lor. From primary till uni' our major teaching language in school is Malay leh. I loves reading chinese novel, so i practised reading from there. But if u ask me to write, cannot lor. Can only write my name. muahaha....</font>
 
bleh, we make him sleep early cos we realise no matter what time he sleeps, he has a tendency to wake up about 6am. So if he sleeps late, he tends to take a lot of long naps during the day.. and that's not good. Already he is sleeping a total of about 3.5hrs during the day over 3 to 4 naps. That is just nice, I think. He sometimes wakes up prematurely about 5am or so, but my mom/I rock/pat him back to sleep and usually he goes back to sleep quite easily until about 630am to 7am.
 
any mommies planning to start fish for their bbs soon? I'm thinking of starting when Matthew is 7 mnths old. planning to try porridge again with him (he rejected porridge earlier)but mix with fish. My grandma suggested threadfin, my mom suggested cod and salmon (for omega oils). Any suggestions?
 
Felicia, heehee, my written chinese and reading cannot make it one, but I come from a mandarin speaking family. I love to read english books, novels, and yet my english speaking and sometimes spelling, grammar not so good. In general wise, I am ok with English. Nothing here nor there. Very sad rite? Thus I have to impose language learning to my kids, make sure they do well in both languages.

Hey, you let me know when you free to arrange meet me for lunch again, hee. No hurry with the rompers hor.
 
RE: Little Nyonya
I must say that it was a good show coz it brings me back to my childhood days....not about the dramas but the peranakan lifestyle....ah, my Grandma, Grandaunt....

Re: BB Sleeping
For me, for my #2's afternoon naps, I tend to place her with her tummy down coz she sleeps longer this way and I can monitor her for the just incases. But for nites, she is getting much better...gets up at 3plus and next round about 6 plus for milk. Since I have the rocking chair, just BF her, rock and hum to her...and voila, sleep back quite quickly. Thank goodness!

jsmurf - You are welcome! For me articles are for knowledge and I don't think any child will be zone into one type. Like for my #1, he is more spirited and touchy. Also, parents and those who takes care of the child plays an important part as I believe that the relationship we as parents have with our kids will leaves its influence on them for the rest of their lives. As they say, nature and nature. My DH is very cute when we have arguements. After our arguements, he will always try to cheer me up with silly faces, cute cards, etc. He has tons of ideas. Mind you, we are no sweet 20s...we are over the hill. As he puts it, he will still hold my hand and hug me in public even when we are 70s...LOL.

Just wanted to share this article with all SAHMs which I read at justmommies:

6 Things Nobody Told You About Being a SAHM
You might not like hearing these things, but while the truth is not always what you want to hear, it is what you need to hear, and as a fellow SAHM who had no idea what she was getting herself into, I feel it is my responsibility (and perverse pleasure) to enlighten you.

Staying home all the time is much more difficult than working.

Like it or not, being home is a tough job for several reasons. One, you will be around your kids constantly. This is a double edged sword. Two, you don’t get scheduled lunch breaks where you can read a book or run errands. Count yourself lucky when you get to eat the bread crusts from their sandwiches. Three, you will be around your kids constantly. (A point worth repeating.) Four, you can forget vacation time, comp time or even “you” time. Depending on the age of your kids, you will be lucky to get potty time - it will be up to you to take ‘me’ time; no one is going to offer it to you, no matter how dark the circles under your eyes are or how evil the glint is inside them.

When you are home there aren’t any office politics or deadline crises to worry about. This is good because you don’t have the mental energy to waste on such mundane tasks; however, the downside is that you aren’t engaging your brain with such mundane tasks. You will have to put more effort into finding ways to use your brain on an adult level. And for the record, mocking the morning cartoons does not count as mental exercise.

Your kids will not magically behave like angels all the time because you are home.

Another common myth about being a SAHM is that when you stay home, your constant presence will ensure that your kids will always act wonderfully since you are on hand to redirect their behavior and such. Yeah, right. And owning a treadmill ensures that you don’t gain weight. I hate to break it to you, but it all takes effort, so be prepared. Remember when your kids acted really, really good for the babysitter and then acted like a monster for you after work? Well, now you are taking the babysitter out of the equation.

Kids will be kids and you being home with them will not change that. In fact, as their comfort level with you increases, so does their security level, meaning they will feel less at risk and freer to fully express themselves. They will talk back more. They will fight with their siblings more. They will throw monstrous temper tantrums more. Now, instead of only having to deal with them after a long day of work, the joy of their personalities (whether good or bad) will be yours to savor 24 hours a day.

Your house will not always be clean because you are home all the time.

When I first began staying home, I couldn’t believe how messy my house was. It wasn’t until I thought about it that it made sense. When you stay home, you are, well, home a lot more. Instead of making a mess in the four hours between arriving home from work and bedtime you can now make a mess all day long.

This is an incredibly frustrating reality for new SAHM’s, but remember, you are home to be with your kids, not to have a model home. Despite what it initially feels like, you will find balance and the messiness will even out. It might take a while depending on how old your kids are, but you will eventually make peace with a certain level of filth.

You will not necessarily have time to cook wonderful five course meals every day now that you are home.

If you were used to getting take out a few nights a week while you were working, it can be a difficult habit to break. If you don’t enjoy cooking, it will be even harder. Just because you are home does not mean you will be serving up meals like Emeril (and if you are, feel free to share your address with me). It’s ok if you have to learn how to cook - having ovaries does not automatically make you Betty Crocker. As long as you are making an attempt and the family can eat your attempts on a semi-regular basis you are making progress.

Being at home all the time will occasionally get boring, frustrating and stressful - sometimes all at the same time.

When you first begin staying home, you and your kids will go through a honeymoon period. You will go out to lunch, you will go to the store in the middle of the day just because you can, you will take trips to the library or the museum. Then, one morning, you will wake up and realize that you are a little tired from all the running around you guys have been doing. This is when reality sets in. Being a SAHM is a marathon, not a sprint. You have to pace yourself.

At first, you will stay in with the kids for a few consecutive days, possibly doing crafts and games to keep yourselves occupied. Then a few more days later it will happen. You will be sitting with your kids, staring at each other, and you will all be wondering “OK, what do we do now?” Then, something even more shocking will happen. You will feel bored. It may happen after a few weeks or it may take slightly longer, but boredom is a heavy, inescapable reality in the life of a SAHM. The job is exhausting, it is hard, but it is also monotonous, with days, weeks and years stretching out in front of you - a seemingly endless void depending on you to fill it. And you will. You will also occasionally catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and realize that you’ve barely combed your hair and you’re still in your pajamas and its 2 o’clock in the afternoon.

Being an at home mom is not a cakewalk. There’s an incredible amount of work involved with taking care of the house and your kids 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 366 days a year. (Yes, I know there are only 365 days in a year, but it feels longer when you are a SAHM.) There will be days that the kids are sick of you. There will be days when you are sick of the kids. There will be days that you wonder what the heck you were thinking by staying home.

You need to realize two things about these feelings - they are completely normal and you are not a bad mom for having them. You are human and no human loves their job every single day. There are going to be good days and bad days and most, if not all, SAHM’s go through the same exact things. Take heart, you are not in this boat alone.

(Excerpted with permission from Domestically Challenged: A Working Mom's Survival Guide to Becoming a Stay-at-home Mom by Alana Morales, copyright 2006)
 
cactus - For myself, I tend to steam the fish, then flake it and add into the porridge. When I first started incorporating fish into my #1's porridge, I add it into his porridge and cook it...aiyoh, big mistake...#1 rejected it (fishy smell). 2nd day onwards, I started steaming it and it was smooth sailing after that. I started with loi her (threadfin). Hope this helps!
 
Veniz,
At least you force to take care and you managed to mah. Whenever my hb has to work on Sun and PH, I will escape to my mum's place early in the morning. Then can run away from some responsibilities. ;p If I have a 2nd kid, I confirm get maid.

MLP,
Wah, caffine such strong effect on you? I always talk to my hb abt no. 2, then he will ask if I am serious. He still cannot handle Lil ZuEn. Haha. Then he try to persuade me to stop at 1 so that we can give all our love to her. ;p

Sharon,
I tried on Sun to let my bb naps in her cot. She sleeps with us on the bed now. She woke up in 15 mins time when the hp rings. I oso not sure if it is bcos she is not familiar with the cot. Can can usually nap for quite a while de. I am oso hoping to let her sleep on her own too. My new year resolution.

Cactus,
Your boy really sleeps very long in the night leh. My girl usually goes to bed at 9+pm and will wake up about 6am. If she goes to bed too early, then we risk having an active baby at 4+am.
My mum already add cod fish into the baby's porridge. She basically throw 1 piece and cook with the porridge. The cod fish will "disintegrate" during the cooking process, so no worries of choking.
 
JP, thanks for sharing the article. It was a very interesting read.

When you flake the fish, must it be in very small flakes? Do we need to mash it further? What type of fish do you use? I think threadfin, snapper/garoupa/seabass meat should be okay. But I'm keen to try cod and salmon, but not sure about the fishy smell. My boy is not fussy though with food. he just rejects porridge ... and potatos alone. He will take sour stuff (some peaches and blueberries have a sour taste) and even bitter stuff (some carrots I've cooked are slightly bitter).
 
MLP - So cute, coffee/tea has no effect on me. Can drink cups and still sleep...ha!ha! Your DH is opposite of mine, my DH will say - Keep, keep, just in case we have #2...taa daa...#2 came. Now, he said...sell, sell, don't want anymore...LOL
 
ZuEn, maybe Matthew sleeps long at night because we dreamfeed him at night? We feed him every 2 to 3 hours.. small amounts though at night. sometimes, he will drink. sometimes he will reject. but 7 out of 10 times he will sleep through the night till about 6am. other times, he will wake up with nightmares or just wake up to play/talk about 1am to 3am. I think the overall sleeping hours for a baby of 6 months should be abt 14 hours (saw a chart in the papers yesterday). Think it is about 11 hrs at night, and about 3 hours during the day, over 2 daytime naps. My boy is more like 10.5hrs at night, and 3.5hrs during the day.
 
cactus - Yes, once you flake it, you have to mash it further and please check for bones coz even when they state its fillet, there's still bones. I started #1 with loi her (threadfin), in the wet market, when you say you want loi her, the uncle/aunty will ask, how old is your precious? LOL
 
Thanks for the advice, JP! I am thinking of buying from Giant.. cos from time to time, they have promotion on salmon and threadfin. My family buys whole fish to cook.. so am thinking of putting aside some fillet for Matthew the next time we buy.
 
Talking about schedule hours for our babies, as our babies are coming 7 months, let me share with you this from babycentre:

• Solid foods two to three times a day, plus about 24 to 32 ounces of breast milk or formula in a 24-hour period. (Get specific tips on how to tell whether your baby is getting enough breast milk or formula.) Now's the time to start increasing the amount and variety of your baby's foods and to introduce finger foods and perhaps a sippy cup.

• About 14 hours of sleep in a 24-hour period — this includes nighttime sleep and naps. Two naps during the day (morning and afternoon) is typical. Read more about sleep needs at this age.

• Time for playing, working on new skills, and interacting with you.
 
cactus - That's a great idea. I tend to cook for #2 first without seasonings. Then after taking her share out, I will like whip out some sauce (eg: HK style sauce) and pour it on the fish. Then, my #1 and the adults can enjoy also. Don't waste mah!
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Christina,
I thinking of moving the cot to our room but the cot is too big. Must unfix it but HB lazy...

Cactus,
My mum did cod fish porridge same as how Zuen'm mum did. cut small piece cook with porridge.

Zuen,
Most likely unfamiliar with the cot. Or don't have the familiar smell? My HB say my ger must smell his smell then can sleep. :/ cause last night she turn to his side then fall asleep. Booo!
 
cactus,
i started giving my ger fish flakes 3wks ago =).I put it into her porridge, then when porridge really, i just smash the fish into flakes for her..Yest I was drinking a packet drink, then my ger starin gat me, so i decide to test whether she knows how to suck the straw anot..and she did! I was so surprise leh..

Bleh,
the book really nice huh? I hv to wait patiently for mine to arrive..hee

MLP,
I also cannto drink tea or coke at 4pm onwards, if not also can't sleep de..

JP,
Bery good article lor..tks ya..!
 
JP, Giant has really good offers on salmon and threadfin. I bought a 4.5kg salmon from Giant 2 weekends ago. 99cents/100gm leh! Very cheap. Threadfin I think usually offer at $1.29/100gm or something like that.
 


sharon,
Does ur ger has a chou chou? cos i find my ger always smell her bloster b4 she goes to bed lor, tink they will find e familiar smell wor...

I also had a hard time to pat my ger to sleep now cos once she lie on her mattress, she tends to turn sidewards and flip, i hv to hold her down..Its a battle lor, i end up sweating all e time though in aircon room lor..hiaz...now she knows how to crawl liao, worst, crawl up my mil mattress, and everywhere..
 

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