hi mummies
Does any1 have the same exp as me? my confinement is coming to an end this Fri and sigh, many unhappy things happen during my confinement. My mum agreed 2 help me look after my bb for long term and alas my dad was sick but claimed he is ok liao, caused my bb to b hospitalized when he was 2 wks old, undergone v drastic treatment which i ve posted in the prev threads. Thus, when the medical report is out, I was angry with my parents and told them that sick cannot lie say ok and somemore still zzz with bb.
After which, when the medical report is out and doc told my mum personally tt they r the cause of bb's high fever, my mum went into self denial mode and tt time i was 1/2 way thru confinement. There is no way that she can ctd to look after bb for me cos doc say since my dad is chronically sick, v dangerous for bb as he mayb infected again. So no choice, hb and I quickly shifted bb to MIL's place for a few days. Bcos of this, my mum quite angry with us for shiftin bb to MIL's place as she deemed my MIL cant take gd care of bb which is not true. Subsequently, we shifted bck to our own place to ctd with my confinement. Alas, my mum was v spiteful and told me tt the min my confinement end, i m on my own and she quickly called her boss to take back her job. Hb and I asked her to extend for 2 more wks till my C sect wound totally healed, she refused and told me that we have to be on our own. C section would split anything, my prob. Then after which, confinement she would come late ard 10 am and then leave ard 5pm, throwing bb to us. As I m quite tired having to express milk every 3 h, my hb took the nite shift to look after bb and wanted me to rest as much as possible. However, he cannot tahan long term and when I asked my mum if she can fulfil her role as a confinement lady to overnite and help look after the bb which is in the original deal, she refused to and told us tt bb is ours and we have to take resp.
Finally
I told my hb i ll rest as much as i can in the day time, but when I m sleeping, my mum wld keep slamming the door, everyday in anger when she found out that we sought the advice of my MIL and got 1 nite, when my hb and i were physically exhausted, we got our MIL to help, she literally gave me black face everyday and then after which I have to take my lunch and dinner 3 - 4 h apart cos she wanna rush home to do hsewk.
Finally, hb suggested tt we move in to MIL's place to stay so that she can help me look after bb at night. The thing is tt my MIL tend to say neg things in front of my bb abt me such as" grandma loves u, mummy ll cane u when u grow up etc" and i have to endure that from 12/5 to 3/6/08. The tot of it really makes me wanna break down. I did tot of lookin after the bb myself, but given the pain in my c section would and it is impossible for hb 2 look after bb at nite and work, i m left with no choice. I felt super depressed at the tot of it and cant even rest well durin my confinement. Does any1 have any solution out for me b4 I move on to my MIL's place this Sat? Realli hope there is a solution, else think i ll kanna depression cos I m not supposed to leave the hse until 3/6/08. Imagine my confienemnt starts 7 April to 3 Jun without being able to go out at all! Sometimes i realli feel like committing suicide!