Hi all,
My son Ethan was born on 14 Nov at KKH. I've been following this thread since my maternity, really glad that this thread exists as it has been a great source of information to me.
Pig,
I was one of the mommies occupying the labour ward for 10hrs on 14 Nov. I've always thought my labour was difficult until I heard your's & Shanediao's story. I had serious tearing as well, if not for the epistomy, I think the tear would have reached the anus, cos my baby was sumo size at 3.76kg + big head!! Have always been very scared of labour pain... insist on epi before they rupture the waterbag, altho I've always been curious of how real labour pain feels like, and how some people I know can tahan. Never will I wonder again, cos I went without any pain relieve at the final 2 hours, not by choice but becos the gynae knows that I wanted to have natural delivery and stopped giving me epi so that I hv motivation to push harder!! It was hell, felt like dying, and kept crying for pain relief and C-section. Think I was the loudest in the delivery ward that time. Haha... anyhow, the gynae finally vacuumed the baby out in just a matter of minutes! Then he spent another 20mins or so stitching me up, I rem him saying “a lot of repair work needs to be done.” I was also wheeled to my ward after that, then upon reaching my ward, I also felt urgent and walked to the toilet to pee... thank God I wasn't on epi… later when the nurse learnt about it, she say “Aiyo!”
Oh ya, during maternity as my wound had not healed after 3 weeks, I decided to brave it and take a mirror to see what’s happening down there. Then I saw something whitish, thought it’s pus and used tissue to wipe/pull it away. Pull liao then know actually that is the stitch… so susa… and a part of my wound did not close up properly. During my 6 weeks checkup, gynae say an extra flesh (lump) had grow on the part that is supposed to heal up, so gotta trim/burn away the flesh and mend the hole… very gross as I get to see what the gynae is doing to me - live on video… bloody…
Now, I think its completely healed. As I felt absolutely fine with any position, squat, stand, walk, jump... I think my gynae did a good job. Maybe you may want to change your gynae to Dr Benjamin Tham, also from the private suite. He is very friendly, caring and likes to joke. Although I stay in B1 ward (4 bedded, subsidized), he still came to visit me after the delivery. The other time I had threatened pre-term labour and stayed in B2+ ward, he also came to visit.
Actually during our last visit when baby was 3mths, we asked him when will be a good time to try for a 2nd baby. He said “Now!” hehe… then he added "actually depends on us, whether we want to xiong xiong one shot or separately". He mentioned he has 2 kids and the 2nd one was actually conceived 3mths after the birth of the first… hope that is of some encouragement to you
Jia you wor!
My son Ethan was born on 14 Nov at KKH. I've been following this thread since my maternity, really glad that this thread exists as it has been a great source of information to me.
Pig,
I was one of the mommies occupying the labour ward for 10hrs on 14 Nov. I've always thought my labour was difficult until I heard your's & Shanediao's story. I had serious tearing as well, if not for the epistomy, I think the tear would have reached the anus, cos my baby was sumo size at 3.76kg + big head!! Have always been very scared of labour pain... insist on epi before they rupture the waterbag, altho I've always been curious of how real labour pain feels like, and how some people I know can tahan. Never will I wonder again, cos I went without any pain relieve at the final 2 hours, not by choice but becos the gynae knows that I wanted to have natural delivery and stopped giving me epi so that I hv motivation to push harder!! It was hell, felt like dying, and kept crying for pain relief and C-section. Think I was the loudest in the delivery ward that time. Haha... anyhow, the gynae finally vacuumed the baby out in just a matter of minutes! Then he spent another 20mins or so stitching me up, I rem him saying “a lot of repair work needs to be done.” I was also wheeled to my ward after that, then upon reaching my ward, I also felt urgent and walked to the toilet to pee... thank God I wasn't on epi… later when the nurse learnt about it, she say “Aiyo!”
Oh ya, during maternity as my wound had not healed after 3 weeks, I decided to brave it and take a mirror to see what’s happening down there. Then I saw something whitish, thought it’s pus and used tissue to wipe/pull it away. Pull liao then know actually that is the stitch… so susa… and a part of my wound did not close up properly. During my 6 weeks checkup, gynae say an extra flesh (lump) had grow on the part that is supposed to heal up, so gotta trim/burn away the flesh and mend the hole… very gross as I get to see what the gynae is doing to me - live on video… bloody…
Now, I think its completely healed. As I felt absolutely fine with any position, squat, stand, walk, jump... I think my gynae did a good job. Maybe you may want to change your gynae to Dr Benjamin Tham, also from the private suite. He is very friendly, caring and likes to joke. Although I stay in B1 ward (4 bedded, subsidized), he still came to visit me after the delivery. The other time I had threatened pre-term labour and stayed in B2+ ward, he also came to visit.
Actually during our last visit when baby was 3mths, we asked him when will be a good time to try for a 2nd baby. He said “Now!” hehe… then he added "actually depends on us, whether we want to xiong xiong one shot or separately". He mentioned he has 2 kids and the 2nd one was actually conceived 3mths after the birth of the first… hope that is of some encouragement to you