Cindy,
S@L,
K@ye,
So glad what I'm feeling is normal. I'm already starting to feel a bit sad n jealous when I see my baby being cared by others... can't imagine next tiem when I fully return to work. Hopefully like
K@ye, my boy will still burst into a smile whenever he sees me.
RE : Financial independance
I never thought I would ever be happy not having my own financial independence. I've not been working since Aug last year now because of my complicated pregnancy and it's driving me a bit nuts staying home all the time. I miss having my own money to buy stuff, spoil myself etc. Although hubby says never mind, I still feel bad. It's a self-imposed restriction on spending which some of my tai-tai frens say is very silly. They say "after all, if you give up career for his child, he should support your lavish lifestyle". But somehow I can't leh... So yeah, returning to work because I want my financial independance and I want my own sense of self-fulfilment from having a challenging career. Sigh... what a dilemma!
Summer,
RE : Failure to thrive
I read it in the Gary Ezzo book. It says to first distinguish "slow weight gain" from "failure to thrive". I suppose only the doctor can define this properly for you. As for the factors, it's divided into :
Mother-related factors
i) improper nursing technique
ii) Nature or lifestyle - ie mum not producing enough milk due to stress etc.
iii) Feeding too frequently - baby snack feeds and does not get enough nutrition
iv) Feeding too infrequently
v) Pushing to hard into next milestone - mother focusing too much on other things eg getting enough sleep, and neglecting feeding.
Infant-related causes
i) Weak sucking
ii) Improper sucking
iii) Underlying medical problem
Let me know if you think any of these might be the factors so I can type out the details for you. If you like, I can try to email / fax you these pages. Or you could go to a bookstore and look at page 96 of the book.