Mummyfaith,
I guess, I am one of those mummies, who disregard her qualification to oversee the baby. I am glad I made this choice although I don't have financial independence now(unless using up my depleting savings is considered financial power). Gone were the days when I swipe the cards like there was no tomorrow. I am very prudent with money now and yes, baby don't have the luxury of having so many wonderful toys and gadgets which are available in the market. My hubby and I always window shop and said "someday, we'll get that for her...".
It sounds really sad, but you can't really have the best of both worlds....
Financial happiness aside, I am proud to say, I can witness Sarah's development every single second of the day! She seemed to be a very content and happy girl to me as well!
So what if I have to scrimp and save and put my family's household expenses first before my own (which consist of me, hubby, and father-in-law). So what if I don't have the latest fashionwear, or go shopping to vent my frustration.
I have a smiley and happy baby to make me feel ever content with my life. As long as all monthly loans and bills are taken care of, for now, I will continue to be a SAHM...
I think, if I were to return back to work, my whole family will be affected. Haha, cos, now my hubby is already spoilt by the fact that I cook and the home is relatively clean and well-managed. He said, its also good to return to a home where your wife and kid is waiting for your return and a homecooked food meal awaits you.
The other thing is, I am feeling uneasy cos, I can't provide money for my aging mum. argh... feel so useless..
So whether you choose to be a SAHM or not, is really up to individual... weigh all the pros and cons. oh, I heard some SAHM have their hands in businesses. DUnno how that works.