(2007/03) March 2007 MTBs

[bbmouse]

Pink: Your hubby asked you those questions? Hahaha... Usually I'm the one who will ask such questions to my hubby..

Linda: Erm.. Not sure who Anna prefers actually. This maid gives in to her more than the old one. Also becos this maid is younger and has more energy to play with her lah. Actually I'm still half-hearted whether to let her go now or not. We will take back the old maid, the question is when. There's no pont having them both now before Mickey is born. *sigh*

 

[mist]

linda,
hahaha... yeah, actually i would start to plan all my dates, once i know my hubby is out of town!! Then i will show my hubby how packed and busy my "schedule" is when he's out of town... hahaha... I "love" it most when he calls me to "spot check" me... hahaha... i am crazy!! ;p

 

[carol23]

wa Linda u already think out ur plans to distribute the kids liao ah.

 

[shopping_queen]

carol
you are gonna regret EVER thinking of trying my food. remember tian's expression when she saw my food? wahaha....

linda
NUMBER FOUR NUMBER FOUR!!! we chant for you. so when??!

 

[edde]

joelle, u r not weird coz if u r, i am too! to me, family life = my life, above all things. sorry if i sound childish coz i really am (hahah!), if i were u i wont attend the gathering. in the first place, the organiser shld choose a more neutral place eg, coffee/hotel lounge since not everybody likes clubs. and if its supposed to be a gathering, how to catch up in the noisy club??? since the organiser is not sincere, why shld i bother to attend? haha.. super childish hor...

hey, i think you are the most successful and ling4 ren2 pei4 fu2 SAHM i hv ever seen.. really.. esp when i see yr devotion to seth and yr family. so seth always finish the food u make for him?? i am so sick of seeing anthea spitting out my food

 

[shopping_queen]

mickey
but if you dun want this new maid, she will go to your SIL right?
why don't you keep them both since you would need another one when mickey is born anyway?

ok, i shall stop my kponess and not add to the confusion

 

[michellek]

re: Makan at Lau Pat Sat
Calling all mummies for a FEAST at Lau Pat Sat.
Date: A Friday??
Time: 7pm
1. Carol (any day also can provided hb not outstation)
2. Linda (Prefers Friday coz i can sleep late on sat. )
3. Pink (Will be late)
4. Michelle

 

[lindaseah]

pink,

Q1. I will marry him and make sure he dun commit the same mistake. (since i oredi know when he will or who it will be)

Q2. I definitely will marry him and make sure he is insured for millions so dat we can live in comfort after his departure.

*Pssst.... when men ask these qns, it might = he is tinking of attempting No. 1., or he tinks u are attemping, or he is worried dat he will be dying*

SQ,
Store plastic bags?? LOL... Won meltz meh?? With the heat from the cooking stove ontop??

I tink i reallie am a aunty. Coz only aunties buy this kind of oven+stove combi. All my frens got those countertop stove + standalone oven.

CArol,
Good idea! And perhaps we can have the SAFFY workshop there as well. Kekekeke.....

 

[michellek]

mist,

kekeke, u like the 'spot check' har ?

 

[thewife]

ya Joelle
some pple enjoy eating, drinking and chatting at the same time, perhaps the night ambience is better? maybe quick drink + dinner (1-2hrs) not too much to ask for, but if it last beyond midnite, then a bit difficult, which is my case.

Mickey
i feel a bit bad for the young maid if she has to leave bcos old one is coming back....

Irin
where's the attendance list for this sunday garden trip?

 

[autum]

SQ,
u just bake a bit lah.. u use Pax's recipe, very little quantity only. When i first did, i only made 4 big muffins.. (abt 7-8pcs if u use small cups).. then if really not nice.. throw away lor..

anyway hor, muffins even if not nice, still edible la.

 

[thewife]

Linda
hmm...now that i think further, his 3rd uncle was diagnosed with bone cancer - used to have diabetes which seem to run in his mum's family line. He seems afraid that he may get it so he's trying to eat healthier, slim down a bit. i asked him why now? he said now he has leia, has more responsibility. ..maybe..

 

[lindaseah]

bbgal,
If u intend to have 2 maid when mickey arrives and u dun mind ur maid #2, u can arrange for #1 to come back in time with ur delivery. Juz need to ensure ur old maid dat the position is hers but she need to wait abit more.

Mist,
LOL.... u guyz have qing qu. When i go chiong at nite and my hb return to find dat i am not home yet, he won even bother to sms me. Dat is how boring or boh chap we are now.....

Carol,
Tinking only lar. Nowadays disease and aliments are so common amongst the young/middle aged ppl like us dat we must always be prepared.

SQ,
Next yr, next yr. If reallie wan, must be more than 30months apart from lett. Coz this is the last one liaoz. I prefer the gap to be as far as possible and yet must have it before i turn 35. kekeke......

 

[lindaseah]

re: Makan at Lau Pat Sat
Calling all mummies for a FEAST at Lau Pat Sat.
Date: A Friday??
Time: 7pm
1. Carol (any day also can provided hb not outstation)
2. Nana (If the new maid does not in on friday)
3. Linda (Prefers Friday coz i can sleep late on sat. )
4. Pink (Will be late)
5. Mist (provided hubby is not working late)
6. Michelle

 

[nanabear911]

joelle.. I really pei fu u .. hahaha.. can attach to seth the whole day lor.. Really peifu and have to say.. i can't do it..me is bad mummy

hahaha..

that's why when u ask me.. no need to acc tiff ar?? when i feel bad.. yes.. no matter wat i will push away all the appts and stay with her.. hahhaa .. like for now.. my maid issue.. i can't leave her alone lor.. I sooo miss her now.. Sigh..

Linda.. Hahahaha.. ya.. i stil go clubbing at times.. hahahaa..

 

[lindaseah]

Pink,
Tell u something funny.

Before we even married, my hb was telling me dat he saw some fortune teller and he was told dat he will die at age of 29. So he kept telling me dat if we get married, he will leave me at age of 29. (HE BELIEVES IT) So from the day we married, we always talk abt how to distribute the $, house, kids etc....

When he turned 29, nothing happened, so i pretend to be angry and told him "Eh, why u din pass away?? I oredi plan to sell ur kids for $$ and run off with another man liaoz. Now how?"

His reply was "Mabbi i hear salah, Its 39 not 29." So now, i have to wait another 5 yrs before i can suan him again. LOL............

 

[lindaseah]

pink,
Good dat ur hb is more responsible. Abit like lang zi hui tou kind.

Nana,
Where u frequent?? Nx time can go same place. kekeke...

 

[bbmouse]

SQ: After observing her work during this period, my SIL also don't want her liao. She has a sweet demeanor which is her advantage. But with time, we can see how she handles her work and her attitude. Do u know when she's at my MIL place that my MIL maid is the one doing all the work, even things like cutting anna's fruits, and bringing out the high chair?? Wah Pengz! She's newer and yet can havet his attitude.
I asked her if she can handle another newborn baby, and she replied she cannot. *huh??? even if I really cannot, I won't say this to my boss right?*

Pink: Whether she leaves when my old maid comes back is a different matter. We plan to have 2 maids anyway when mickey is born. We will "measure" her based on her capabilities and attitude.

 

[bbmouse]

Linda: That was my initial plan - ie to let the old maid wait til Mickey is born, but during hte time the CL is around so both of them can learn cooking from the CL. Kekekke... But if we don't want to keep the new maid, then we'll ask the old one back earlier. There are many considerations lah.. Cos I also don't want the old maid to think we ask her back cos she's "so good" that we ask the new one to leave to make way for her. Know what I mean?

 

[thewife]

Linda
hahha Lang Zi Hui Tou? plss....he doesnt even know how to take care of Leia. But 1 thing i cant beat him...
this morning leia was fussing in her carseat again. he turned around and said No, you sit, (twice), my gal immediately kept silent and sat still...wa pengz, im feel so imbalance now, so unfair.

mickey
oooo i get it now..
for rina, i just throw everything to her, sometimes i kept myself in the room and do my stuff...if not how to keep her busy

 

[lurvecakes]

bel is sick.. down with cough and flu... also vagina infection again... sian...

pinkpink,
bel also will listen to nick... so whenever she don wan to listen, i will tell her: later papa coming, u better keep quiet... den she shut up liao... wahahaha....

 

[mejo]

Pinkpink,

YT also listen to daddy leh or rather if my MIL said it is daddy's stuff she will then stop touching. Like she kept trying to open some kitchen cabinets and my MIL will say it is daddy's and she will bu gan bu yuan slam it shut. LOL.

 

[autum]

Pink,
Leia bully u la.. she is 'scared' of daddy. haha.. hm, i think EJ scared of me.. haha..cos my hb if cannot handle EJ, he will say to EJ "later mummy scold u".. so that means i m the bad-guy lor..

 

[nanabear911]

linda.. no fixed place.. u jio me la.. hehehe..

P.S. Am always the one to drive the drunkens home.. hahahahaa.. so i can't afford to drink much..

 

[lurvecakes]

nana,
next time don drive, so can drink... also can take taxi home...

 

[blurbelle]

pop in awhile

re: friday feasting
cannot go

my dad's bday so we are having dinner together

re: sunday botanic gdns
cannot go too

i m working at EXPO...CARNIVAL..anyone wants to buy car? haha.

 

[thewife]

ya Yvonne, Mejo
i dun get it lo, its so unfair! i spend more time with her and she doesnt listen to me, simply ignore, dun give me face
so we use 'Papa' to threaten her these days.

i mentioned before tat she cried when my hubby warned her once not to touch the buttons (hi-fi, aircon, volume) near driver seat. From then onwards, whenever she sits with me at the front seat, she never touch that zone. Never, so amazing.

 

[blurbelle]

chloe ate durian on sunday

 

[lindaseah]

bbgal,
Hmmm.... unless ur new gal improve her attitude, otherwise she is no good. My mum used to tell me dat my maid 'act' infront of me. When i return home, my maid will 'act' bz, do her chores etc. I replied my mum "At least she knows how to act infront of the boss. If she dun even know this, den she is reallie CMI."

WEll, theres a few ways to let the maid know dat she is not returning coz she is better.

1. Make up some story dat the new maid have family problem and she needs to return home. OR something lidat. (Lie lie abit)

2. Do not accept ur old maid so quickly. Let her wait. (zuo zuo her rui qi. )

3. Ignore the fact that u send the new maid away. Juz concentrate on telling ur old maid wad is NOT EXPECTED of her (all those stories..) and play on her guilt.

 

[tituteo]

linda: i love the stove top oven u have!! i wanna get it for my new place wan..but then this resale flat has built in kitchen fittings liao so my hopes dashed! =( last time i used dat in aus and it was the best ever! mine came w a grill seperate fr the oven even! n we even use the oven as a 'heater' in winter! the temperature n everything perfect! woahh.. if i m rich..i shd consider getting one n put in the service balcony.. then i will have wet n dry kitchen in my tiny hdb!! heh heh.

sq: u can try baking with lower temp.. then if undercooked, cook longer... the most muffin abit dry nia..still edible. then slowly u modify n gauge ur own timing lo. my scrambled egg very cheapo wan. jus beat egg n add milk into a bowl.. micro for 30 s.. take out n stir.. then micro another 30 sec. can eat liao.

edde: thanks for being as weird as me! ha!! actually not childish la. i was oso rather pissed they chose nightspot.. but i did not want to reject outright. wanna see if dat day seth can sleep early or something then i pop by lo.. but the organiser got upset w me then i was half guilty and half angry oso. cos machiam i m the oni spoilsport.. alot of others oso cannot go ma. jus dat my reason not 'valid' to her. and no la..sometimes i oso cook super awful food but those i dun post recipe.. cos will not cook again.. haa.. then seth will eat till very ke lian. those times i dun force him to finish.. cos i know he very poor thing. but i dowan to waste food so still gif him lo. haa.. then make up by giving him nicer soup.

 

[lindaseah]

Yvonne,
Alamak, Must make her drink alot of water lei.. The weather erratic. And the infection is due to wad?? Too much soap?? Too lil cleaning??

Pink,
There is always a white face and black face in the family. Either u or ur hb. If u are the black face den u miss out on clowning with the kids at times.

 

[lindaseah]

Nana,
Drink dun drive. Accidents are accidents. Not matter how confident you are.

I jio u?? Dun wan lar. Ur frens will wonder why got a aunty join u. LOL.... When i go with my gang and u with urs, den we can see if wanna go the same spot mah.. But we boring one. Always St james, robinson walk or Clark quay.

Blur,
U doing CAR show ah?? AS in the BUNNY LADY?? woo hoo~~~ kekekeke....

Chloe enjoy durian too?? Next time we meet at amk and eat. Lett aso like.

Joelle,
Thank u for making my stove suddenly sound so good. But its only used during xmas and cny.

 

[mist]

michelle,
hehehe... yeah, i am the imbalance kind. i like my hubby call and check on me, where am i, why not home yet etc.. hahaha.... that's y last time when no kid, i purposely go out till late late, so that my hubby will sms me.. hahaha...

linda,
qing qu? hahahaha... i remember my hubby told me, one of his overseas associate teach him to get me pregnant, so that i hv no time to go out and play!!! somemore my hubby told me, his colleagues told him the baby will keep your wife at home!! idiot!!!

Pink,
leia bully you huh?? You always give in to her huh?? sometimes children knows who they can bully one.... Your hubby "beat" leia before??

belle,
chloe can eat durian??

 

[tituteo]

mickey: actually i think its not a bad idea gettin ur old maid back now. at least when u get the new maid, there will not be the irony of, i was here first, i was in charge when u were not here, kind of thing. jus let the maid know the new one not good, and u wanna look for new one so take her back while u search for another one lo. shows dat u appreciate her then maybe she will all the more mai ming for u since u so kan de qi her. but of cos warn her not to disappoint u again. maybe u can let her know u knew abt her lies.. so dat she wun try to pull the same trick again?

 

[tituteo]

belle: chloe so cute w her dirty durian face! haa... second pic she looked so uncertain.. like "u sure it's yummy?" then 3rd pic wah... like suddenly got light bulb flashed.. "yum!!"

 

[bbmouse]

Linda, Joelle: We were also thinking if we shd let the old maid know we know abt her lies. But then decide against it. What we will do instead is to lay down the conditions that she cannot leave for the next 2 yrs. We may withhold 3 mths of her salary for the reason that if she "breaks" her contract again for WHATEVER reason, this portion of her salary will be forfeited. Think this shd deter her.

We're definitely playing the waiting game with the old maid. You know what she did? She has been intentionally leaving missed calls - ie call once and put down the phone - I think she's reminding me to call her back to give her a reply.

My problem is in deciding to let go this new maid. I do feel sorry for her (cos I feel she's young and have not "seen" the world out there yet) and hope she can make it. Maybe give her some more time lah.

 

[tituteo]

linda: alamak... no i appear more aunty than u... gushing abt the stove. :S u shd use it more! somehow i dun remember getting a bad bake out of dat oven! all turn out nicely... which was how i built up my love relationship with baking! hee...

mist: aiyo ur hb's colleagues so suay.. if i were u.. i will go out all the more n let him care for the kids.. then he will blame his sun2 you3... haa!! get them to help him look after!

 

[bbmouse]

CP Batch 2 is here. I'll go home and pack tonight. Update tom.

Nana: Can Tiff wear the CP sunrise runner shoes?

 

[heavengift]

nana - I think I also posted the same problem about my boy splitting out this food recently and some of the mummies are also facing the same problem. Just a passing phase. Not to worry much. Keke...looks like repeating what some of the mummies tell me here. I learned and passed the skill...

Feeling low - Mummies, can ask if you all feel low/sian/easily got irritated easily when you are/were pregnant? I dun know why I seems to feel low/sianz in almost everything. & worst, got irritated by the maid for forgetting this and that! Is it normal during preg? I think I was a happier mummy with Dylan. What should I do? Just feel like lazing at home doing nothing. Dun know the problem lies with me or lies with the surrounding/pple etc. Help Help.

 

[mist]

joelle,
yah loh..... i also think likewise initially. but there's an bonding between the mummy and the child already lah.... very difficult to execute this plan to revenge.... hahaha

 

[tituteo]

mickey: if u dun let her know.. dunno if she will think u good to bully n bluff or not.. then try to bluff u in other areas. n think i told nana b4. even thou we pity them, but cannot risk any 'accidents' since we r leaving our kids in their care. so rather be hard hearted n let others gif her a second chance. aiyo..i sound so mean.

 

[tituteo]

mist: ya hoh... u lugi like dat... maybe u bring bb out... then his idea still fail cos u still stay out! haaa...

tay: shd be hormones ba. preggy can blame everything on hormones wan. if u feel like lazing then laze lo.. after a good laze, will feel happier. i oso lazed alot w seth... now everytime he nua nua my hb will say it's my genes.. :S

 

[bbmouse]

Joelle: I feel it's actually better not to let her know. Cos if she knows, then she may be alerted and think of other ways to "outbeat" us next time. If she doesn't know, then we have the upper hand.
Plus I really don't care what means (lies or whatever) she came up with to go home halfway, we just don't want her to do that again. So I thot coming up with a way to stop that is more effective. Know what I mean?
Now that we know she has a lying tongue, everything she says we will discount lor..

 

[heavengift]

bbmouse - a household can have two maids? Hmm..I feel the first one pretty "smart" to leave missed calls. She must be kan cheong wanting u to hve her back. She is the one that I saw when I pick up my drugstore item from you, rite?

I understand how u r feeling towards the new maid. At times, I also feel my current maid, very ke lian if I send her back now...but at times, I feel so angry with her. But my fear is...if now, I change, then perhaps me no luck...get a even lousier one, then I got myself to blame again

Personally, I find that teaching a maid is a tough task!! So I try my best to "REN"

 

[lindaseah]

Mist,
Ur hb collig is a old man isit?? LOL....

bbgal,
U can be kind to the new maid by giving her more time for improvement. But also remember to be kind to urself.

Joelle,
When we got married, I bought this oven with the intention to bake, grill and roast stuff for the 'family'. But as time goes by, the real intention was forgotten (Forsaken). Kekeke...

Tonight i go buy loti so dat tomr the kids can use the oven to toast them. LOL..

Tay,
Every pregnancy is DIFFERENT. Sometimes the hormones makes u happy and sometimes the hormones trigger our emotional side and we feel upset at every lil thing. Its good dat u ackowledge these emotions and not ignore them.

And with age, our body may be less energetic and so, we feel more tired den our earlier pregnancies. REST if u dun feel well. TAKE a BREATHER whenever possible. If neccessary, get away from ur tot for 1 day and jus do some ME things. I used to dump the kids with hb and juz go shopping, sitting ard drinking kopi etc... or i make the entire household go OUT while i Zzzzzzzzz in peace when i had lett. It might sound chan ren or selfish (I am not the Joelle, edde kind of mum) But I am a better mummy after these breaks instead of feeling so uptight and angry all the time.

1 more thing i tink i was reccomended to take the fish oil to ease depression as well.

 

[thewife]

mickey
when marisa was still around, i also hear complaints that she let marisa did everything. when i asked rina, she said she doesnt know how to 'help' since marisa wanted to do everything.

im not sure if this is similar case...have u tried leaving everything to her, and see whether she can handle alone?

Mist
ya leia bullies me

no matter how i yell at her. she's becoming very notti, gets excited very easily and shout at the top of her voice! when we are eating,she crawl under the table, climb up our chair etc etc...can faint, she never stops!
sometimes, she becomes siao siao, talks to herself and started laughing loudly..

papa shouted fiercely at her and beat her backside when she was much much younger, since she started to walk, he never did that again, so i have no idea how he came the black face.

 

[mmqq]

wah, i busy...
and seems like a bit of misunderstanding with boss. but hor he shouldn't lost his trust in me, cause i always do things as detail as possible. how can he questioned me like that? he should ask me nicely, to double check then i wont be that buey song. anyway... this is life.

tay, of course la. I was super petty when i was preg, terrible. hb also scared cause he was not around, i was always affected by little tiny things. maybe that's y we have bbgirl inside. haha!! when i chanted for you, i forgot to remove this from my chant. sorrie.

joelle, i seldom go pubbing last time. but now, i lagi dun need to go. my friends all very supportive, always find a place for me and tian, somemore, suit my time also. sometimes, also let me choose. haha! if they go pubbing, they won't jio me, cause i cannot go mah. then they wont let me know.

pink, your hb ask weird questions cause mr lai dun like to ask this kind of questions. if I ask, then he will shake his head and told me :THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN. Dont worry.
CUSTODY? very obvious, tian is mine!! SHE IS MINE.
he spent so little time with her, and so little effort. so SHE IS MINE. he agreed liao. haha!! but he said, THIS WON"T happen, don't worry.

SQ, oven??
i teach u. if u make 4 muffins, put in ONE BY ONE. adjust the temp. say 1st one 170 DEg. then take out, and let it stablised at 180 for 3-4 min (you oven big?? need longer time), put in 2nd one.. then 3rd at 190 and 4th at the best temp. so u will get 50% success rate. get to eat the 2 muffins with YE, and throw the other 2 into your hb's dustbin stomach.
then u will be able to do it nice nice liao.

 

[bbmouse]

Tay: There are a few policies to have 2 maids. For us, we're going on the basis of the 2 young children. So we can't apply to have maid #2 before mickey is born.
Yah, I guess she's the one you met.

 

[lindaseah]

bbgal,
$$ is a good strategy on these gals since this is wad they are after. Juz ensure she agrees to those terms and ur agency has a signed agreement on it.
I juz received a letter from MOM saying dat as of mid of July, a new rule is implemented to prevent employers from abusing the maids via withhelding their pay, deduction of their pay for 'accidents', airtics and such......

 

[bbmouse]

Pink: At my place, of course she handles everything. It's when we bring baby and her over to my IL place. There's another maid there, and she lets the other maid do all the work.I scolded her for that and in front of the 2 of them, I told them they are both equal. Baby's work shd be left to my maid, and household work with my IL maid. And I said if one is busy, then the other can help, but not take over to do everything.
Last Thurs when we were over at IL place, I saw her keep away the hi-chair. She had to ask the IL maid to teach her how to keep it - cos it's the first time she's doing it after 1mth with us!! *atrocious!*