Pax,
Be brave. What ever comes your way, I believe you will have the strength to carry through. Sometimes things happened and we can't explain why so we try to find a way to rationalise our pain.. and in this process of rationalising, we often end up blaming ourselves, or giving up. I am not saying that you are blaming yourself, but please don't in case if u are. You are one strong woman and u know u will always have this forum of "strangers" and your own private blog to vent.
Pink,
I don't think u are really incompatible with your hubby right.. i mean if u are, u probably won't get married in the first place! Perhaps it's due to an adjustment of expectations and different life stages.. I find that as we get older, in a relationship, both parties must grow at the same speed.. maybe you and your hubby are not at the same pace? I dunno.. just guessing only.
re: quarrel
someone posted that it's good to quarrel once in a while.. actually i have never quarrelled with my hubby.. we argued before over work (long time ago).. but in our personal relationship, we never quarrelled before! Sometimes i do want to quarrel with him but I also dunno what to quarrel about! I suppose to many people they would think I bully my hubby.. but I honestly don't see it that way.. he loves me and gives in to me most of the time and he can tolerate me.. haha.. but it's also vice-versa mah.. i also have to ren3 some of his habits mah.. hee