choo,
hmm...dun feel sad if u really hv to stop BM and feed ur bb wif FM loo~ honestly i feel dat the most impt thing hor, is both mama n bb are healthy. being a SAHM hor, does not mean dat all mamas must total breastfeed their bbs loo~ for instance, my sis hor neber breastfeed my nephews at all n she was SAHM dat time (not a single drip). after delivery, she immediately take medicine to stop her BM leow. if to compare hor, tik she more cham loo~ u hv tried ur very best to provide the best u can for ur bb le, dun feel guilty for giving him FM. ivan (hehe...thks to bloom's n kimi's blog, i noe ur boi's name) will understand de. furthermore hor with a healthy mama n a SAHM, ivan can get more than wat BM can give. choo, jia you~ dun sad. BM will stop eventually de, mine stopped when my boi abt 3mths. my excuse is i nid to work but i got frens who are working too and they can BF their bbs till they abt 1yrs old loo. so hor, i olso not very good mum..haha...dun feel sad or guilty if u can't totally BF ivan cos u really try ur best leow. cheer up, choo~ u got more duties for being a SAHM, BF is just part of it nia.
dora,
hmm...honestly hor i feel dat it's really hard to make a choice btw career n bb. it really depends on individuals. perhaps i just tell u the "excuses" for choosing either one bah~
if u choose career hor, u can tell urself dat u not only fulfilling ur own dream but olso help to support ur family financially. u can give ur bb a better life. though it's sad to part wif JT, eventually she will grow up n be independent. as long as u din fail to give the attention, care n love to her, u r still a perfect mother loo~ hmm..then for the nanny's part/ childcare centres hor, tis one abit hard to give excuses cos outsiders are outsiders, really can't expect them to really treat our bbs as their own. i olso got tis problem loo~ but hor, dora...if u really were to choose career, perhaps u can tell urself dat even if u r a SAHM, u can't really take good care of JT due to lack of experience...err...tis is wat i told myself..(bad hor??)...T.T
as for the choice of being a SAHM leh..the excuses are rather clear loo. wat so good of being a career woman whereby u may miss all the sweet n sour moments u going to hv wif JT? money is impt but u can afford to b SAHM financially or somehow u can survive financially. JT on ur hands is definitely safer on a stranger's hands. though inexperience, definitely providing the best u can. career can wait or u can start again as long as u are ready when JT is older but JT can't wait for u to grow up loo~
hmm...frankly speaking on my personal choice hor, if financially my hb can support us hor, i will choose to b SAHM till my boi is much older loo~ it's really not easy to find a trustworthy nanny...haiz...listen to my nanny's story bah~~
mummies,
haiz..sien loo~ wonder whether u all rem abt my previous nanny's story...anyway, this is the 2nd part. 1st part ended dat i somehow continue to let her take care of my boi cos there's a change of her attitude when she was taking care of 3 toddlers n 1 bb (my boi).
today, haiz...i really vomit blood. dat time she suggested dat i bring my lele home every nites starting from next wk n i told her dat i will try. then today i asked her abt the extra charges if i hv to leave my boi at her place overnite for 1 or 2 days, she said,"no lah, u try take care lah. ur boi may not b able to sleep well at my place here then cos he "ren" places leow mah. btw, my charges will be high leh." then i told her dat my hb may nid to go back to penang in may (next mth nia) n i may nid her to help me to jus take care of my boi for 1 nite. she indirectly rejected n said dat i can bring my boi to my mum's place. when i asked her abt the price again, she din tell me n keep saying dat it will b high charges. really pissed me off loo~ honestly lah, how fast can my boi "ren" my place since my boi has been staying at her house for the past 2mths??...so i just keep quiet but still try to smile lah. then she asked me when i going to buy walker for my boi again. so i told her loo, i said my mum forbids me to buy cos it's bad for his spine as he's still young. then many said dat it's not very good cos bb tend to tip toes if put on walker...my nanny turned to me n said, "aiya..all bbs when trying to walk hor, all tip toes. dat boi i take care, u c? got tip toe not? at 1st, definitely will tip toe one. many aunties asked me y ur boi no walker. i said his mum no buy loo~" i controlled my anger hor n told her dat my sis olso din buy my nephew walker but he olso can walk leh. then my nanny said wif a angry tone,"no walker, how to feed ur bb porridge, how to feed him fruits?? u tell me lah? how?? feed him wif lying position ar???" i heard tis hor, i really fed up leh. worst still, she turned her back on me n watched tv. inside of me saying.."wow lau eh, xxxx #$#@$!@" really angry leh. anyway, i still smile smile loo then i go home cos my bb will be at her place tonite too loo. tmr i will b bringing him home n definitely, i will call it a day leow. tis nanny hor, can't even compromise n wat kinda attitude?? btw my next payment period for the month of may is 5 may loo~ meaning dat tmr or next monday hor, i shd pay her for the nanny fees. i tink no pt loo, pay $$ still must c her color n fit her time table. i might as well b nanny then...really make my blood boils leh...ARRR....
oh, i can't really online during office hrs now cos boss let me smell "fried cuttlefish" jor..hahha...actually she hinted to me lah. she said try not to influence new staff to surf net loo so i nid to cut down surfing net leow..tink hard to join msn chat too~
somehow it's a blessing too lah, at least my boss just let me smell nia not treat me to eat the "fried cuttlefish" else really can go b nanny leow..hahaha...
sorry for the long-winded story, really angry loo..nid to release abit of anger lah...pardon my bad english.
