poohy_bear
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ha..all using 暗語 le..
(2006/07) JULY 2006 MTB
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liverpool11
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I was wondering how come PM keep encouraging dad's to be more hands on, but he never give any incentive like 1 month paternity leave or 1 month paid child care leave for dad should the daddy be able to "pass" all the test required.
So sad....
So sad....
young_bride
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Hong,
Haha..u so funny.
Hmm..but Kay not jinxed leh..I everytime tell ppl she got probs napping/slping, she still didn't improve. Sigh...
Just brought her swimming in the morn. Missed her playgroup today. Hopefully she'll nap longer today.
Dsii,
1st thing Kay said when she woke up tis morn is 'Didi where? Auntie where?'
Haha..u so funny.
Hmm..but Kay not jinxed leh..I everytime tell ppl she got probs napping/slping, she still didn't improve. Sigh...
Just brought her swimming in the morn. Missed her playgroup today. Hopefully she'll nap longer today.
Dsii,
1st thing Kay said when she woke up tis morn is 'Didi where? Auntie where?'
young_bride
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misaryeo,
Why u lugi?
Why u lugi?
paranoidmummy
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My - News out liao meh? how u know increase to 4k? We wont have too mah, coz over liao, unless we have no2.
paranoidmummy
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Liverpool - The ans is in today's My paper.
Reason cited:
Women prefers the leave to themselves. And they wished to spend more time with their babies.
Economic reason too. Generally, Men still hold high positions and higher salary than woman, hence its more expensive for men to go on 1mth's paid leave than women.
Reason cited:
Women prefers the leave to themselves. And they wished to spend more time with their babies.
Economic reason too. Generally, Men still hold high positions and higher salary than woman, hence its more expensive for men to go on 1mth's paid leave than women.
poohy_bear
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Hong,
If got bb making leave..think all the daddies will raise hands raise legs to go..ha...
If got bb making leave..think all the daddies will raise hands raise legs to go..ha...
paranoidmummy
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Wow.. we really lugi on the CDA part, i reckon that it will be very useful... $6k become $12k leh.
If now give birth to no2, no1 will auto be eligible?
If now give birth to no2, no1 will auto be eligible?
paranoidmummy
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I read.
But woman contradiciting animals too. If want hubby to be more involved, yet want the leave to themselves. Maybe coz scare hb get the leave but did not use it for child caring purpose. Hahaha, this kind of things hard to control. Imaging imposing a fine for those who did not make use of the leave for its purpose.
But woman contradiciting animals too. If want hubby to be more involved, yet want the leave to themselves. Maybe coz scare hb get the leave but did not use it for child caring purpose. Hahaha, this kind of things hard to control. Imaging imposing a fine for those who did not make use of the leave for its purpose.
this link clearer...
http://www.mom.gov.sg/publish/etc/medialib/mom_library/corporate/files.Par.94764.File.tmp/Pamphlet-Enhanced%20Marriage%20&%20Parenthood%20Package.pdf
Kids in CC - $300 subsidy now.
http://www.mom.gov.sg/publish/etc/medialib/mom_library/corporate/files.Par.94764.File.tmp/Pamphlet-Enhanced%20Marriage%20&%20Parenthood%20Package.pdf
Kids in CC - $300 subsidy now.
that's quite true.. i think during my last confinement for no 1, hubby took 2 weeks leave and only help to fetch my parents n confinement food that my parents cooked for me. night feed and other duties all done by me and my mom.
this time round i think its gonna be worse. cos the one helping me is his mom, so he can lagi relax and his mom will be very happy to do everything for him. i insisted on looking after the bb and no 1 myself so he can have a chance to help me with the nightfeeds. anyway his mom has high blood, better dun let her stay up for the night feeds.
sorry in a complain mood, cos hubby went to play mj as he can leave work early. struggling within myself if i shld be angry with him or not. cos can take a break to mj is good sometimes.. but then.. he seems to forget his wife is preg lor and hav to look after E. But then by the time he come back nothing much to help, cos i would have already bathe and do most of the stuff.. so... i guess its the hormones again.. just dun feel good abt this
ignore me mummies... just let me vent my frustration...
this time round i think its gonna be worse. cos the one helping me is his mom, so he can lagi relax and his mom will be very happy to do everything for him. i insisted on looking after the bb and no 1 myself so he can have a chance to help me with the nightfeeds. anyway his mom has high blood, better dun let her stay up for the night feeds.
sorry in a complain mood, cos hubby went to play mj as he can leave work early. struggling within myself if i shld be angry with him or not. cos can take a break to mj is good sometimes.. but then.. he seems to forget his wife is preg lor and hav to look after E. But then by the time he come back nothing much to help, cos i would have already bathe and do most of the stuff.. so... i guess its the hormones again.. just dun feel good abt this
paranoidmummy
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Unfair
Yeah! CC subsidy $300. *Happy* IFC even more $600. Wow! Effective when huh?
Yeah! CC subsidy $300. *Happy* IFC even more $600. Wow! Effective when huh?
MY,
i can understand how you feel....if me, i sure blackface my hb one...
but if he has been working really hard and haven't taken a break for a long time then just "ren" for once...no choice...somehow men have this need for time to themselves...while the women can sacrifice and sacrifice.
i can understand how you feel....if me, i sure blackface my hb one...
but if he has been working really hard and haven't taken a break for a long time then just "ren" for once...no choice...somehow men have this need for time to themselves...while the women can sacrifice and sacrifice.
paranoidmummy
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MY - Dont be sorry abt it. We're here to listen to u.
Haiz..MEN! My hb also.. MJ king! *fedup* Like what u said, when he starts to offered his help, I would have already done everything.
Haiz..MEN! My hb also.. MJ king! *fedup* Like what u said, when he starts to offered his help, I would have already done everything.
poohy_bear
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the gov really pushing for #1 to be out..so many goodies for 1st BB!!!
Hong, we so lugi hor..dun hv anything at all for Jan & Cel time
Hong, we so lugi hor..dun hv anything at all for Jan & Cel time
still paisay.. haiz.. but i know if i dun vent.. when he come back i might explode.
damn hate his colleagues...already know he has a preg wife at home still jio him to go mj and casino..these colleagues dun have their wives here that's why so eng. but then how can blame them when my hubby is the one who gian to gamble... haizz btw last weekend he just went casino lor.. so its not that he nv relax and i nv let him to. Jul, i black face already. but doesn;t seem to be useful at all.
i'm actually ok with all these.. just that whenever i think why can't he think that i'll need him ard just in case i need help with E? why cannot put me in the first place leh? actually i suspect he must hav lost some money that's why so onz to gamble these days, hoping to cover back abit... i didn't bother to ask, cos i not going to top up anyway if he loses..
in fact i ever told him before that i hate to say "no" to him when he ask me if he can go mj/gamble. and having to call me infront of his colleagues and get a no" answer" like tui lian like that. so i told him before, its not he cannot go and hav to ask my permission, but learn to see my face and mood. if i have not been feeling good, then dun go, cos will make me feel very upset abt it. I feel that he is not my kid lor.. dun hav to ask permission. Just like i dun ask his permission to do things. Its more like just say cos we respect each other. haizz... but somehow.. men just dun get it... sorry liverpool daddy.. i hope u r diff, so at least i can feel some hope.
pm.. yah lor.. just that now i preg, tummy very big, if not i really would hav finish alot of things. ask him to search for the playyard bassinet in the wardrobe for weeks liao.. still haven;t go look for it... HAIZZZ!!!
damn hate his colleagues...already know he has a preg wife at home still jio him to go mj and casino..these colleagues dun have their wives here that's why so eng. but then how can blame them when my hubby is the one who gian to gamble... haizz btw last weekend he just went casino lor.. so its not that he nv relax and i nv let him to. Jul, i black face already. but doesn;t seem to be useful at all.
i'm actually ok with all these.. just that whenever i think why can't he think that i'll need him ard just in case i need help with E? why cannot put me in the first place leh? actually i suspect he must hav lost some money that's why so onz to gamble these days, hoping to cover back abit... i didn't bother to ask, cos i not going to top up anyway if he loses..
in fact i ever told him before that i hate to say "no" to him when he ask me if he can go mj/gamble. and having to call me infront of his colleagues and get a no" answer" like tui lian like that. so i told him before, its not he cannot go and hav to ask my permission, but learn to see my face and mood. if i have not been feeling good, then dun go, cos will make me feel very upset abt it. I feel that he is not my kid lor.. dun hav to ask permission. Just like i dun ask his permission to do things. Its more like just say cos we respect each other. haizz... but somehow.. men just dun get it... sorry liverpool daddy.. i hope u r diff, so at least i can feel some hope.
pm.. yah lor.. just that now i preg, tummy very big, if not i really would hav finish alot of things. ask him to search for the playyard bassinet in the wardrobe for weeks liao.. still haven;t go look for it... HAIZZZ!!!
paranoidmummy
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lala - U'll still get the CDA right coz u have no2. but it be doubling good if our 1st one also gets it.... will make me wanna think of having no2.
MY - U're right too. Hate his friends, yet cannot blame them coz my hb is the fun loving sort too.
The MJ kakis - only 2 of them with wife, me and the other one and always have to play at his hse.. so the wife not really affected mah, coz play at their hse.
Billard Kakis - All the pig dog friends. Different grps one, everyday entertain different grps of friends. Wa.. ANGRY lei.
Ur hubby still calls u for 'permission'. I only realised he's playing when I do my routine calls.
Just only I realised that tmr he's going to Malaysia in the afternoon. I asked him why didnt he informed me earlier, he said his friends just decided to. Can die or not?
MY - U're right too. Hate his friends, yet cannot blame them coz my hb is the fun loving sort too.
The MJ kakis - only 2 of them with wife, me and the other one and always have to play at his hse.. so the wife not really affected mah, coz play at their hse.
Billard Kakis - All the pig dog friends. Different grps one, everyday entertain different grps of friends. Wa.. ANGRY lei.
Ur hubby still calls u for 'permission'. I only realised he's playing when I do my routine calls.
Just only I realised that tmr he's going to Malaysia in the afternoon. I asked him why didnt he informed me earlier, he said his friends just decided to. Can die or not?
paranoidmummy
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Huh! Haiyo.. what a waste...
hong
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KLCC,
yah Jan n Cel lugi on the 3k part. Now we have to depend on the 2nd kid CDA account.
MY, PM,
i dun like it too. MY, good that u voice out.
It is the feeling like "why am i working so hard looking after family and kids while hubby can pat pat his back and go R&R after work?" I felt worst cos I have to work, rush to pick kids, bring them back while hubby happy with his frds outside.
I knew his friend, I will indirectly tell the friends off. Most of his friends will backoff or will ask him to check with me.
Not that I dun allow him to go out for R&R with his friends. He must inform me way earlier, not a day before so I can adjust myself and prepare that he will not be ard to help me.
There was one incident, he insisted he needed to attend a farewell dinner after work. But then I need to work a bit late in the office cos i have things to settle. I smsed him if he could meet his frds later, go back and buy dinner for his mum 1st cos FIL working and no one buying her food. He replied cannot, the collick last day liao, not nice not to attend or be late. I fedup, i asked him family impt or collick impt. Does that mean if no farewell dinner, the collick cannot leave the coy har. I told him, if he did that again, i will pack my bag and move to my mum place. Since we are not impt to him anymore.
yah Jan n Cel lugi on the 3k part. Now we have to depend on the 2nd kid CDA account.
MY, PM,
i dun like it too. MY, good that u voice out.
It is the feeling like "why am i working so hard looking after family and kids while hubby can pat pat his back and go R&R after work?" I felt worst cos I have to work, rush to pick kids, bring them back while hubby happy with his frds outside.
I knew his friend, I will indirectly tell the friends off. Most of his friends will backoff or will ask him to check with me.
Not that I dun allow him to go out for R&R with his friends. He must inform me way earlier, not a day before so I can adjust myself and prepare that he will not be ard to help me.
There was one incident, he insisted he needed to attend a farewell dinner after work. But then I need to work a bit late in the office cos i have things to settle. I smsed him if he could meet his frds later, go back and buy dinner for his mum 1st cos FIL working and no one buying her food. He replied cannot, the collick last day liao, not nice not to attend or be late. I fedup, i asked him family impt or collick impt. Does that mean if no farewell dinner, the collick cannot leave the coy har. I told him, if he did that again, i will pack my bag and move to my mum place. Since we are not impt to him anymore.
peachsorbet
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GWC - I'm goin this Sat! anyone else goin?
hmm Misa - sayang... men dunno the difficulty. think maybe he thinks highly of u n that u're independent enuff? my hub's just started a new job on monday. in these 3 days, he's told me about department chalet, department holiday to bkk already. *shudder* n these are just the colleagues. n he always "asks" me. when i say no, he'll be like "u're just joking, of cos i'm going" type of attitude.
hmm Misa - sayang... men dunno the difficulty. think maybe he thinks highly of u n that u're independent enuff? my hub's just started a new job on monday. in these 3 days, he's told me about department chalet, department holiday to bkk already. *shudder* n these are just the colleagues. n he always "asks" me. when i say no, he'll be like "u're just joking, of cos i'm going" type of attitude.
poohy_bear
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MY, lala & MTB bef Jan 09, there is a on-going petition on the effective date
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/578191/1652541.html?1219213162
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/578191/1652541.html?1219213162
young_bride
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Sigh..talking abt hb makes my blood REALLY BOIL!
I really HATE HATE HATE! Reaching my limits already. I've encounter everything that u've all went thru too & I've already reached my threshold. Everytime I flare up & nag, hb will b guai guai for awhile. Then afterwards, everything goes back to the same way. Sigh.
I've been having silent war wif hb for the past few wks. Really tired of everything & nothing to say to him. Not tat I have a chance though..he's seldom around the hse..choosing to come home after midnight, sometimes early morns. One the rare occasions that he's home early (earliest is 9pm), he'll go out at midnight after a phonecall & only return home in the early morn. Kay & I practically dun see him at all. Hb usually leaves the hse before we wake up in the morn, then return hm after we're all asleep. And it's not always because of work lor..sometimes it's to hang out wif friends & lim kopi etc etc. I really dun get it why they can lim kopi till early mornings kind. Till to the extent that I no longer ask him where he's going, wat he's doing anymore. Even when he volunteers to tell me, I'm no longer interested. My mind will wander & my soul is not there to listen to him.
Last wkend, he went out with friends for drinking session & developed rashes the next morn. I look & I know it's allergies...mayb to alcohol or seafood. Quite bad cos it spread all over his body, arms & legs. Surprisingly, I dun feel anything at all! I just told him 'serve u right' and went back to my chores.
Then now he's overseas in India for a wk and I dun even bother to ask him where he's going & when he'll be back..dunno which airline/flight/hotel he's taking etc etc..All these doesn't matter to me anymore.
Enough is enough. Kept pyscho-ing myself not to depend on him at all..so I won't have any expectations & are disappointed time & again. I've learnt to plan my own activities/days without him & actually, I'm think I'm much happier now.
Hb told me he's worried abt his new job commitments where he has to travel often. But I told him frankly tat it doesn't make any diff to me at all. Wat can be worst when I ALREADY dun see him most days, even when he's in sg.
After so long, I've told myself I'm in tis marriage just for Kay & $$. Haha.
Sorry for the long post. Reading thru all your postings really make me wanna explode after keeping to myself for so long...
I really HATE HATE HATE! Reaching my limits already. I've encounter everything that u've all went thru too & I've already reached my threshold. Everytime I flare up & nag, hb will b guai guai for awhile. Then afterwards, everything goes back to the same way. Sigh.
I've been having silent war wif hb for the past few wks. Really tired of everything & nothing to say to him. Not tat I have a chance though..he's seldom around the hse..choosing to come home after midnight, sometimes early morns. One the rare occasions that he's home early (earliest is 9pm), he'll go out at midnight after a phonecall & only return home in the early morn. Kay & I practically dun see him at all. Hb usually leaves the hse before we wake up in the morn, then return hm after we're all asleep. And it's not always because of work lor..sometimes it's to hang out wif friends & lim kopi etc etc. I really dun get it why they can lim kopi till early mornings kind. Till to the extent that I no longer ask him where he's going, wat he's doing anymore. Even when he volunteers to tell me, I'm no longer interested. My mind will wander & my soul is not there to listen to him.
Last wkend, he went out with friends for drinking session & developed rashes the next morn. I look & I know it's allergies...mayb to alcohol or seafood. Quite bad cos it spread all over his body, arms & legs. Surprisingly, I dun feel anything at all! I just told him 'serve u right' and went back to my chores.
Then now he's overseas in India for a wk and I dun even bother to ask him where he's going & when he'll be back..dunno which airline/flight/hotel he's taking etc etc..All these doesn't matter to me anymore.
Enough is enough. Kept pyscho-ing myself not to depend on him at all..so I won't have any expectations & are disappointed time & again. I've learnt to plan my own activities/days without him & actually, I'm think I'm much happier now.
Hb told me he's worried abt his new job commitments where he has to travel often. But I told him frankly tat it doesn't make any diff to me at all. Wat can be worst when I ALREADY dun see him most days, even when he's in sg.
After so long, I've told myself I'm in tis marriage just for Kay & $$. Haha.
Sorry for the long post. Reading thru all your postings really make me wanna explode after keeping to myself for so long...
poohy_bear
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YB, is good that u vent yr frustration here rather than keeping it to yourself..that's wat i usually told my hb that women r more super than men..there is nothing under the sun that women cannot do, is only whether we want to or not..how come mothers can sacrifice their time for kids & hsehold while father cannot & still can go & make merry..i call them self-ctr PIG..ha..
poohy_bear
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Hong,
Ju like Studio Ghibli My Neighbour Totoro ah?? cute animation..i like it too..esp the sound that they make
Ju like Studio Ghibli My Neighbour Totoro ah?? cute animation..i like it too..esp the sound that they make
liverpool11
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How about this, let's focus on the happy times with our kids instead of focusing on all the unhappy times within the family.
And isn't it heart warming when you reach home to see your kids playing happily at home that makes you forget about all the rest of the stuff?
Be glad that most of you are able to reach home and interact with your kids most of the time. I am currently still stuck at work unable to enjoy the company of my kids. But even with the sight of them sleeping soundly really brighten up my day and let me forget about the stress during work.
And isn't it heart warming when you reach home to see your kids playing happily at home that makes you forget about all the rest of the stuff?
Be glad that most of you are able to reach home and interact with your kids most of the time. I am currently still stuck at work unable to enjoy the company of my kids. But even with the sight of them sleeping soundly really brighten up my day and let me forget about the stress during work.
