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Sometimes I will sms, email or make a note. Because when I keep quiet in one corner, I can pen down my thots and then I will pass the "complaint/ summon" to my hb. Then suddenly he will wake up his idea. If things get heated easily when you talk, ha ha maybe can create a suggestion box for each of yourself. Then you can drop your comment in his box, and he can do the same for yours. Sometimes by reading, you will sit down, ponder/ reflect etc. For me, my hb keep quiet, I know he not happy liao. I will quickly finish the chore and things I have to do with the kid, then quickly hide in toilet and think back if I did something wrong. If I am in the wrong, I will come out and apologise usually like 2 hours later. His anger usually hold only 2 hours.