Hi Sandra
Sometimes life is not perfect. It's good that you try to negotiate with your ex-boss... he's getting an experience staff rather than spending time and effort to get someone new. Try to impress upon him that quality of work is not dependent on the amt of time put in. I too had counter-propsed for 50% work when I first contemplated being a SAHM. That arrangement lasted for 7 months before I quit; it was not fair to my boss as I was the only one with the special treatment and that put him in a difficult position. But the entire arrangement got me mentally prepared for a different life.
In comparison, (I had work for more than 10 years before I left the work force), being a SAHM makes me a better person. I had learn to see things in a different perspective and in fact, I have a more fulfilling life now. Getting to meet other SAHMs of same or different mindsets open up my own viewpoint too. Even going downstairs to the playground brings opportunity to meet people, or just sitting at the bus stop gives simple pleasure in life which I realize I'll not be able to appreciate if I'm working. There are plenty of SAHMs who would love to meetup. There's the inertia that people are just waiting for someone to initiate. You get job satisfaction when you look at your products - your children. No one needs to give you that recognition. Even our dear government do not give SAHM recognition. As long as you are at peace with what you are contributing and don't ask for more, anything else came as an added bonus.
Re : cry-it-out method,
I did 5-10-15-20-25-30 min intervals. ie after the first 5 mins, I went in to see the baby. not carry but just to assure the child that mummy is here. When I did it, my son cried from 9pm to 11pm, and I realize that besides being alone, he's there alone in darkness. So, at 11pm, I went in, lie down on my bed with him in the cot beside my bed. He quietened down and played a bit before nodding off to sleep in the cot, within 20 mins. That was the first night. Before that, we co-sleep (ie he nurse thru' the night). Second night was hubby on duty and he had it easy, my son just lie down to sleep. After having overcame this obstacle, we actually develop a better bedtime routine that includes reading, doing a forward roll, singing even till today. Just to share ... u never know what to expect with each child. I thot my #1 was difficult to handle, now on hindthot, #2 is even more difficult and #1 is consider good.
Help need for Counselling for elderly
I'm facing difficulties with my mother. She's refuse to listen to us for a few years now and situation have not improved. Does anyone know who I can call to seek help on this? It's kinda difficult for me to share more on this here. thanks.
.ky.
