hello gals
i juz came back from my checkup. Currently 26+wks and bb is growing well and fine at 940grams. Baby head and thigh bone are bigger than average, body size is average... so I may end up with a big headed baby girl.. hehe. Doctor did teased me by saying that an average bb at birth-time weigh 3.2kg and as mine is above average, she may weigh as heavy as 3.5kg. Baby is at head-down position and although there is a possibility that she might turn to breech position, doctor said she will probably settle in this head down position until birth time. Amniotic band is not in contact with bb which is a great relief.
All unpleasant symptoms which I've been experiencing such as breathlessness, tummy contraction (braxton Hicks), more vagina discharge than usual, tiredness, more frequent urination are all normal.
So far, weight gain is 9kg and I should be looking at total weight gain of 16-20kg according to my gynae. He said not to worry as my weight gain are mostly water-retention as he can see the puffiness of my face and on my body, feet etc.. he said actual weight gain on mummy doesn't look like that. Don't know how he know how to tell the difference.
Urine all ok, no sugar detected. Blood pressure also ok.
Discussed with hubby and decided to stay in a single-bedded ward in Raffles Hospital for more privacy. The price difference is only $400 with single bedded at $1688 (normal delivery with epi) and doubled bedded at $1288. As Maternity is not Raffles Hospital's specialty, they have only 6 Delivery Suite, 10 single ward, 3 double ward and 1 4-bedded ward on the maternity floor.
allo Kathy
don't be so upset. Most men are like that. Me and my hubby actually made plans to take a month holiday in Europe in May this year but too bad we had to cancel our trip cos I got pregnant. Then I told him, "oh, now you can take a month leave (afterall, he had been saving his leave since last year for the holiday which didn't materialize) after my delivery to take care of me and the baby" and you know what, he refused!! He said, "you know, I have a lot of work to do you know... so I don't know how many days leave I can take after your delivery"
Wah... in my mind, I was thinking, 'can take leave for month-long holiday but cannot take leave to take care of me and bb' Till now, it is still hanging in the air on this issue and we don't plan to employ a confinement lady... so if he doesn't take leave, it will be me and bb only and my mommy will be helping me cook confinement food but will not participate actively in baby caring as she is recovering from a surgery.
Re shopping for things. My hubby never bother abt such things. If he don't bother and juz follow me to pick up the stuff I wanna buy, it's ok. BUT, the problem arise when I've done all the research and wanted to buy eg, a particular brand of car seat at $xxx, he will then start to object buying the car seat I've been eyeing and giving me all sort of nonsense reasons why we should look at other brands!!! Worse stil, he said we don't need to buy a car seat because we can carry baby in the arms when travelling in the car. Wahahahaaha... I can really vomit blood.
It's the same for our wedding which I planned and execute everything. Got into the same argument over issues he was never involved in and want to have a say after I've done all the necessary research. When I ask him for his view during my research, he will say, 'up to you lah'.
After 3 months of being away in Beijing, he initially didn't want to accompany me to the gynae apptment today saying he's too busy with work, blah blah blah. But I don't care lah and sortof emotionally blackmail him to go.
He even wanted to travel for business close to my delivery date which I told him that he can't. As I understand him very well, I cannot use hard approach so gotta use soft approach saying, I don't want him to regret that he missed the birth of his first child.
My hubby just came back from Beijing last Friday and next week, he is going back to Beijing for a couple of days then to Bangkok again for 1 to 2 weeks... then in July, he is going back to Beijing for 1 to 2 weeks. He is never around nowadays.
He never talks to the bb or touch my belly on his own accord or show any excitement when I told him that bb is kicking me very hard. When I complain of breathlessness, he say I deserve it cos I ate too much. When I complain of tiredness, he say women from the olden days are even more uncomfortable and tired as they work harder and never complain. When I complain I'm hot, he said, there were no aircon in the olden days. His empathy for me is literally ZERO.
Despite all these, I know my hubby care for our bb and me and he does it in his own little ways.
So Kathy, don't feel so bad. Your hubby is not the only one who doesn't seem to care outwardly but I am pretty sure he cares and love you and bb very much. Asian guys are not v expressive about their emotions and feelings.
