Hi Meilan,
We are currently residing in France. Over here, most of sg mummies are SAHMs without help. So, it's not really a choice for most of us.
I never imagined that I could handle two kids alone (with my hubby, of course)in a foreign country. But somehow, being a mother gives me the strength to overcome the situation. It's not easy but not impossible too. Believing in myself that I can provide my kids the best care simply moves me on.
So, don't ever doubt your ability.
A few things that I have learned along the way;
Firstly, it's crucial to instil some forms of strict discipline with the kids. That helps me to retain my sanity. For instance, meal times means having meals at the table and on the chair. Nothing else.
Establishing a routine (not a timetable) for meal times, nap, TV etc... At least, I can steal some free time and chill down when they are having naps or watching TV.
Kids come before housework for me. It's more important for me to play with the kids than maintaining a "showroom" house. So, you can imagine how messy my house is, hehe..,
Without my hubby's support, I'll unlikely have an easy time being a SAHM. He will bathe the kids and help out with some housework. So, no complaints there...
As for preparing meals, I always go for minimum preparation styles - steaming or broiling. Simple yet healthy. Fortunately for me, none of us are fussy eaters. My kids don't mind having porridge everyday. But I'm planning to start them on rice for dinner soon. more hassle...
Those are my secrets on how I managed to survive through so far
I think it's a good idea to transfer your son into a half day nursery. At this age, if possible, I believe it's better that the child spends more time with the parents. Instead of rushing into it, can you try having him at home for two days for a start? When you are more comfortable with handling the two kids on your own, then make the complete transfer.