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How To Help Your Children Pick Up From Setback
And Turn Failure Into Learning Experience?
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One common reason that many children do not have
goals is because of their fear of failure. In fact, this is also the reason why many adults do not have goals too.
Majority of the people in this world are fearful of making mistakes and they often feel bad if they don't achieve the things that they have set up to achieve. Hence the easiest way to avoid such pain is not to have goals. And that is the reason why many children do not have goals
too.
We need to know it is through making mistakes that our children learn. Facing failure is inevitable and is the pre-requisite for any long-term success.
When children are younger, generally they have no fear of failure. Hence they will not hesitate to take action and to try new things. One good example is when babies learn the skill of walking - despite their continuous falling, they never give up and ultimately all physically able babies know how to walk.
However as children grow older and starts to face
failures and that they do not achieve the goals, many of them start to give up on their goals easily. They will give excuses, blame the people around them or circumstances, complain of their lacks of skills or resources and they will not dare to try anymore. If they continue to feel and behave in this way, soon they will develop the habit of negative self belief which will
guarantee them not able to achieve anything great in life and become successful individuals.
Do you think high achieving children are also
afraid of and dislike failure? Yes, of course! However, they tend to see failure differently from other kids. They see failure as a form of feedback to their action and a great learning opportunity to do better. They will learn
from their mistakes, change their strategies and take action again. They will not stop this cycle until they achieve their goals and objectives which they have set up to achieve.
Hence if we (i.e. parents) want our children dare to dream, set goals, take action to pursue their objectives and able to bound back from adversity, we must constantly reinforce the following facts in them:
"There is no failure, only feedback to our action."
"There is no failure, only learning experience."
"There is no failure but only people who fail to act."
"It is ok to make mistakes as long as we learn from them."
When our children believe on the above, they will have the confidence to strive for the best outcomes.
Whenever your child fails a test or does not achieve the desire goal in a competition, the best way to encourage him is to communicate to him that it is perfectly all right to fail and make mistakes as long as he has done his
best.
Inspire and empower him to learn from the experience and to do better the next time by saying "What can you learn from it?" and "What can you do differently the next time so as to achieve the desire outcome." In fact, this
is also the kind of mind set that all champions have while pursuing their bests in their own respective fields. And as parents, this is the mind set that we should help our children to develop from young........
