2 kids age difference of 18 months
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fairyprincess
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Hi Addiction,
My kids are 21 months apart...now they are about 2+YO and 4+YO...yes, it may be very "siong" at the start, cos they are close in age, but as they grow, its really good as they are close to each other and grow up/ play together....no regrets....
How old are your kids now?
My kids are 21 months apart...now they are about 2+YO and 4+YO...yes, it may be very "siong" at the start, cos they are close in age, but as they grow, its really good as they are close to each other and grow up/ play together....no regrets....
How old are your kids now?
hi ladies
my kids are all 18 months apart n i hv 4 of them to handle the oldest being in k1, n2, 2 yr + n youngest 8 months .... true tt is it tedious at the younger age but coz of the age gap the kids are closer n the thg tt we nid to provide for them are similaer... eg diapers.... n the older can teach the younger n both saw similar programs n enjoy similar thgs......
me was lucky coz my mum help me tale acre of the younger two while the older two are at cc till i finish wk n fetch them home..... me ftwm.... think once they reach k1 it is much easier...... but hse wk will hv to take a lesser priority... hse usually in a mess... esp the kids rm
my kids are all 18 months apart n i hv 4 of them to handle the oldest being in k1, n2, 2 yr + n youngest 8 months .... true tt is it tedious at the younger age but coz of the age gap the kids are closer n the thg tt we nid to provide for them are similaer... eg diapers.... n the older can teach the younger n both saw similar programs n enjoy similar thgs......
me was lucky coz my mum help me tale acre of the younger two while the older two are at cc till i finish wk n fetch them home..... me ftwm.... think once they reach k1 it is much easier...... but hse wk will hv to take a lesser priority... hse usually in a mess... esp the kids rm
my kids are 26 mths and 7.5 mths now. I don't have a maid. the elder one is in cc while mil takes care of the younger one. i don't have a maid. i bring both home everyday. weekends are the worst cos i have to take care myself. of course hubby helps a lot in housework and taking care of the kids but i still find it stressful.
last time w/o kids can still go shopping after work. now have to rush to fetch kids. miss the freedom.
last time w/o kids can still go shopping after work. now have to rush to fetch kids. miss the freedom.
Hi mummies,
My 2 boys are 15 mths apart. 19 mths and 4mths. I have got a maid and my mil to look after them when i work. Ya, i agree that its really siong... Tiring and stressful. But dun worry, i think its just a stage to pass thru. When they are older, hopefully things will be better. That's wat my mil aalways tell me.
My 2 boys are 15 mths apart. 19 mths and 4mths. I have got a maid and my mil to look after them when i work. Ya, i agree that its really siong... Tiring and stressful. But dun worry, i think its just a stage to pass thru. When they are older, hopefully things will be better. That's wat my mil aalways tell me.
Hi addiction,
Think of it this way...once they grow up and is no longer dependent on you, you will have all the freedom to go shopping and travelling. Actually might be another depressing phase for us
Hee...you mentioned you don't have a maid 2x. No worries, think we can all survive without one
My no.2 will arrive next month, and I have a 17 MO in tow. Sometimes I take a half-day off work to go shopping or do a quick retail therapy during lunch
Think of it this way...once they grow up and is no longer dependent on you, you will have all the freedom to go shopping and travelling. Actually might be another depressing phase for us
Hee...you mentioned you don't have a maid 2x. No worries, think we can all survive without one
My no.2 will arrive next month, and I have a 17 MO in tow. Sometimes I take a half-day off work to go shopping or do a quick retail therapy during lunch
hi addiction,
just to add, same here, 18mths different, when no2 came along, they both fought over the breast for milk, then they fight over the toys to play, now they fight over the place to sit and whose book mommy should read first. Some days I feel like walking out of the house and leave them with DH...
next yr no2 going to N1 and no1 going to K1, interestingly, no1 says she'll bring mei mei to school and mommy can stay at home to rest! haa haa, I think they will grow up one day.
just be patient
harriet
just to add, same here, 18mths different, when no2 came along, they both fought over the breast for milk, then they fight over the toys to play, now they fight over the place to sit and whose book mommy should read first. Some days I feel like walking out of the house and leave them with DH...
next yr no2 going to N1 and no1 going to K1, interestingly, no1 says she'll bring mei mei to school and mommy can stay at home to rest! haa haa, I think they will grow up one day.
just be patient
harriet
My kids are only 17 months apart. I actually planned the pregnancy so that I can have kids with a close age gap.
The most important thing is to get as much help as you can. Do not try to do everything yourself. I got my mother and my maid to help, while I work full time. It is quite manageable. Time passes very fast, when my boy is more than 2 years old, things are very easy.
My kids are now 4 years old and 3 years old, they can play with each other, talk and discuss with each other, I feel so happy. Everyone in my family is saying it's so nice to have 2 kids so close in age.
The most important thing is to get as much help as you can. Do not try to do everything yourself. I got my mother and my maid to help, while I work full time. It is quite manageable. Time passes very fast, when my boy is more than 2 years old, things are very easy.
My kids are now 4 years old and 3 years old, they can play with each other, talk and discuss with each other, I feel so happy. Everyone in my family is saying it's so nice to have 2 kids so close in age.
rubber_ducky
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i've a 10 month old kid now. I suspect I may be pregnant with No 2. If so, their age diff may be 18 months too.
I'm now a SAHM, planning to work when baby turns 1, but realises now i may be pregnant again. I'm worried cos I don't quite trust either in-laws or maid, and my mum is too tired to look after my active 10 monbth old who's starting to want to walk!
I may get a helper to help out m mum if i do work after delivering 2nd child.
My nausea just can't go off for 3 days and i'm constantly cold and tired just like my 1st pregnancy. My menses haven't arrived for 2 months. I'm definitely going to the gynae this Friday!
I'm now a SAHM, planning to work when baby turns 1, but realises now i may be pregnant again. I'm worried cos I don't quite trust either in-laws or maid, and my mum is too tired to look after my active 10 monbth old who's starting to want to walk!
I may get a helper to help out m mum if i do work after delivering 2nd child.
My nausea just can't go off for 3 days and i'm constantly cold and tired just like my 1st pregnancy. My menses haven't arrived for 2 months. I'm definitely going to the gynae this Friday!
sheila2005
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Hi Addiction
Don't worry as things will definitely gets better as time passes by. Take it from me. I am a mother with kids 20mths apart (my 2nd & 3rd). It was quite tough initially but as times goes by, your kids will be best buddies as they can share a lot of toys, interests, information, friends or even to gang up on you for something.
My kids are in P1 and K2 now. Occassionally, they will still fight over something.. but hey... its part of siblings life, right? So don't worry too much...
Don't worry as things will definitely gets better as time passes by. Take it from me. I am a mother with kids 20mths apart (my 2nd & 3rd). It was quite tough initially but as times goes by, your kids will be best buddies as they can share a lot of toys, interests, information, friends or even to gang up on you for something.
My kids are in P1 and K2 now. Occassionally, they will still fight over something.. but hey... its part of siblings life, right? So don't worry too much...
snowpooher
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Hi,
Mine are 19.5mths apart. Stressed for the 1st 6 mths but now I find it ok. Both quite closed, though occasionally got fights over toys/stuff. I enjoy watching their scenes, sometimes quite comical haha...
Mine are 19.5mths apart. Stressed for the 1st 6 mths but now I find it ok. Both quite closed, though occasionally got fights over toys/stuff. I enjoy watching their scenes, sometimes quite comical haha...
Hi,
Mine are 14 mths apart. Elder one nw in childcare, 2nd one taken care by my aunt.
Difficult part is when I brought both of them back hm in the evening. Elder is vy sticky to me that I can't even carry the 2nd one.
Another problem is the cash flow. Childcare & hv to pay my aunt oso.
Mine are 14 mths apart. Elder one nw in childcare, 2nd one taken care by my aunt.
Difficult part is when I brought both of them back hm in the evening. Elder is vy sticky to me that I can't even carry the 2nd one.
Another problem is the cash flow. Childcare & hv to pay my aunt oso.
jennytansc
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Wow so many courageous mommies here.
I also gg to face my 2nd bb coming out soon & my 1st one is oni turning 15 mths this mth. I will be delivering somewhere betwn late apr to early may. Sooooo scare i cant cope leh. I wish to BF also. but then i will be puttng my 2nd one at my mom hse oni will bring back on wkend.
I hope i can be as brave as you all mommies here.
I also gg to face my 2nd bb coming out soon & my 1st one is oni turning 15 mths this mth. I will be delivering somewhere betwn late apr to early may. Sooooo scare i cant cope leh. I wish to BF also. but then i will be puttng my 2nd one at my mom hse oni will bring back on wkend.
I hope i can be as brave as you all mommies here.
hi marble,
no la, in fact from the above posts I guess you can sense the excitment of having two toddlers running around in the house
hi mommies with twos,
just wondering, any plans for the third one? cos am thinking of having a third one, but wonder if it's asking for too much
harriet
no la, in fact from the above posts I guess you can sense the excitment of having two toddlers running around in the house
hi mommies with twos,
just wondering, any plans for the third one? cos am thinking of having a third one, but wonder if it's asking for too much
harriet
harriet,
my no1 and no2 are 14 months apart. They are now in N1 and playgroup halfday separately. And I am expecting no.3 october this year. No maid too... my mum took care of them after school.
I looked forward to seeing the 3 kiddos playing together...
Anyway I am expecting many in my family to nag at me... why so stupid go and have no.3 when I already have 1 boy 1 girl.
my no1 and no2 are 14 months apart. They are now in N1 and playgroup halfday separately. And I am expecting no.3 october this year. No maid too... my mum took care of them after school.
I looked forward to seeing the 3 kiddos playing together...
Anyway I am expecting many in my family to nag at me... why so stupid go and have no.3 when I already have 1 boy 1 girl.
jollysheep
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Hi mommies,
I just found out that I'm pregnant with #2. I have a 11mths old gal. I'm a SAHM. Can we carry our elder toddler during pregnancy?
I just found out that I'm pregnant with #2. I have a 11mths old gal. I'm a SAHM. Can we carry our elder toddler during pregnancy?
jollysheep
Member
Hi bin,
Thank you for advice.
How you all handle a toddler during your pregnancy. I don't have a helper. Wondering how to cope with it?
Thank you for advice.
How you all handle a toddler during your pregnancy. I don't have a helper. Wondering how to cope with it?
Hi Mummies,
My first child is 4.5month old. and i think i am preg again. If i am, would be 5 week pregnant.
Personally, i dont tink i am mentally and physically ready and prepared for it. Its unintended pregnancy.
I am a SAHM with help of parents and maids. but somehow, a part of me is telling me that its too soon to have a second one when the 1st one is barely 1 year old.
I am also worried about not being able to spend enuf time for the first one when i deliver or doing my confinement.
My first child is 4.5month old. and i think i am preg again. If i am, would be 5 week pregnant.
Personally, i dont tink i am mentally and physically ready and prepared for it. Its unintended pregnancy.
I am a SAHM with help of parents and maids. but somehow, a part of me is telling me that its too soon to have a second one when the 1st one is barely 1 year old.
I am also worried about not being able to spend enuf time for the first one when i deliver or doing my confinement.
fairyprincess
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I put my older one to sleep with my mum, while I sleep in another room with my husband and younger one...it is certainly easier to handle one at night...but I know of others who put both in the same room...
Hi bitrix,
My 22MO and 4MO are sharing the same room. The older is sleeping in his toddler bed and baby in his cot. They do wake each other and me and hubby will each attend to one. As for night feed, I will carry the baby to my room or feed him in the living room. I use a baby monitor to listen out for them in the night. They have been sleeping together for more than a month now and situations are improving, when one is wailing, the other is able to continue to zzz
My 22MO and 4MO are sharing the same room. The older is sleeping in his toddler bed and baby in his cot. They do wake each other and me and hubby will each attend to one. As for night feed, I will carry the baby to my room or feed him in the living room. I use a baby monitor to listen out for them in the night. They have been sleeping together for more than a month now and situations are improving, when one is wailing, the other is able to continue to zzz
hi experienced mummies, is it a good idea to let newborn, and 18 mth toddler sleep together with us at night? i will be delivering next month - jun'08.. currently DS is sleeping in the same room. I dun wish for him to be sleeping with maid in another room...but dunno if it is a good idea to squeeze into our room.
definitely, not easy to be preggy and at the same time to have a toddler who is sticky with you. i suffered from back pain bcos carrying DS - difficult to reject when he crying for you to carry, need to be mindful of the limit
definitely, not easy to be preggy and at the same time to have a toddler who is sticky with you. i suffered from back pain bcos carrying DS - difficult to reject when he crying for you to carry, need to be mindful of the limit
snowpooher
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I carried my #1 all the way till the day of delivery #2. #1 was clingy to me when I was preggie.
Regarding sleeping arrangement.
Both my #1 (then 19.5mths) and #2 slept together in the same room with hb and me. When #2 needed nite feed or diaper change, we just brought #2 to another room to settle, so won't distrub #1. It worked out well for the last 1.5 years before I moved both to their room recently.
Regarding sleeping arrangement.
Both my #1 (then 19.5mths) and #2 slept together in the same room with hb and me. When #2 needed nite feed or diaper change, we just brought #2 to another room to settle, so won't distrub #1. It worked out well for the last 1.5 years before I moved both to their room recently.
hi .. i'm a FTWM with two children - 15 months apart (my eldest is now 18 months, my youngest 3 months).
back when i was preggie with no.2, my eldest was in infantcare at my workplace and each evening of the work week, i would push her in the stroller, with bags back home (that time we were living near my office ~ about 15-20mins' walk). then when we arrive, i would fold the stroller up and carry her and everything else up to level 2 (our place was walk-up apartment). as my bump grew, i told the husband that i cannot continue with the routine because i'm having difficult carrying her up the stairs (nearly fell a few times) so we decided to move home - when i was 6 months' pregnant! hahahah .. thankfully now we're staying at a place where there's a lift at our floor.
yah, GP advised me not to carry my eldest but how not to?? we don't have maid or help and each time she stretch her arms out to me, i cannot push her away what ..
the eldest has slept in her own cot (in my bedroom) since birth. when we moved home, we had a spare bedroom for the kids - we had the intention of them sleeping in the same room together. maybe it was because it was a new environment (new home, own room) so it took a while for my eldest to adjust to sleeping on her own. my husband was a bit apprehensive about letting the small one sleep in the same room because we knew the baby would be waking up every few hours and thought it might disturb the eldest' sleep. initially we had the small one with us, but my eldest kept waking up and climbing into bed with us as well so we figured that we had to go 'cold-turkey' la. Now the two of them can really sleep in that room by themselves ..
back when i was preggie with no.2, my eldest was in infantcare at my workplace and each evening of the work week, i would push her in the stroller, with bags back home (that time we were living near my office ~ about 15-20mins' walk). then when we arrive, i would fold the stroller up and carry her and everything else up to level 2 (our place was walk-up apartment). as my bump grew, i told the husband that i cannot continue with the routine because i'm having difficult carrying her up the stairs (nearly fell a few times) so we decided to move home - when i was 6 months' pregnant! hahahah .. thankfully now we're staying at a place where there's a lift at our floor.
yah, GP advised me not to carry my eldest but how not to?? we don't have maid or help and each time she stretch her arms out to me, i cannot push her away what ..
the eldest has slept in her own cot (in my bedroom) since birth. when we moved home, we had a spare bedroom for the kids - we had the intention of them sleeping in the same room together. maybe it was because it was a new environment (new home, own room) so it took a while for my eldest to adjust to sleeping on her own. my husband was a bit apprehensive about letting the small one sleep in the same room because we knew the baby would be waking up every few hours and thought it might disturb the eldest' sleep. initially we had the small one with us, but my eldest kept waking up and climbing into bed with us as well so we figured that we had to go 'cold-turkey' la. Now the two of them can really sleep in that room by themselves ..
hi claraity, yes i did carry my no. 1 when i was preggie with no. 2. at that time my no. 1 only knew how to crawl so it wasn't so easy to keep bending over to pick her up, esp. with a growing bump in the way. i had some staining with no. 2 and the doctor advised me not to carry heavy stuff, including my baby but i just cannot do so ..
oh i can understand the kinda feeling...is really sad not to hold ur baby since he/she still so small...btw did u care ur no.1 on your own at dat time?...currently my mom is taking care of him coz i feel tired most of the time and he is so active and always wana be held and walked around...and my hubby works 6days a week...
My kids are 16 months apart. They are now 4 and 5+. I agree with Lydia Lee, they can now play together and fight together as well. Another advantage is that you don't have to keep all the baby equipments for a long time. When my second kid outgrew it, I got rid of them and got toys that are appropriate for both kids.
zolldoll
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Me also now 17 weeks pregnant and my son is 15 months old now. Really tedious for me as i still have to carry him as he has yet to learn to walk. And he wants me to carry him more instead of my hubby. I am so tired everyday. Pray it will all be over soon, tat they will grow up fast.
Hi all mummies out there,
I am also currently expecting my 2nd one in Aug and my gal is now 13 mths, so they will be about 18 mths apart. I also had problem with the caretaking. Currently my gal is being taken care by my auntie who's staying in Teck Whye. I stays in Jurong with my mil. I am very reluctant to get a maid becoz when my gal was born, I have changed 3 maids in 5 mths becoz of my mil. Even the maids also cannot stand my mil and told me they want to leave. She simply cannot get along with maid and keep finding fault with the maid knowing jolly well that she herself also don't know how to take care of my baby. I quarrel with her over the maid issue and I sent the maid back as the last ultimatum. We have not been on talking terms since my gal was 5 mths old until now. That explains why my gal ended up being looked after by my auntie when she was 5 mths old. Since the 2nd one is coming along, my husband has been bugging me that we need a maid to cope but deep inside me, I am really really very reluctant to get a maid and don't want to clash with my mil again. I thought of asking my mum to quit her job and look after both of them as she's staying in bukit panjang, but my husband don't see eye to eye with the way my mum takes care of my gal, so to him getting my mum to take care of them is out, so that puts me in a very difficult position. My auntie, tho she's a babysitter, cannot handle my 2nd one that's coming, as she also currently taking care of another 4 yrs old boy day & night. So she's not able to help me take care of my 2nd one. My husband also don't want to let my older gal goes to childcare when she reaches 18 mths as he thinks he's still too young and will fall sick easily. Sigh, so I am really in a dilema as to how to handle when my 2nd one comes. He also wants to bring the children back every night, don't like the idea of not able to see them. Experienced mums out there, pls advise me what can I do? Do I really have to get a maid? Appreciate very much.
I am also currently expecting my 2nd one in Aug and my gal is now 13 mths, so they will be about 18 mths apart. I also had problem with the caretaking. Currently my gal is being taken care by my auntie who's staying in Teck Whye. I stays in Jurong with my mil. I am very reluctant to get a maid becoz when my gal was born, I have changed 3 maids in 5 mths becoz of my mil. Even the maids also cannot stand my mil and told me they want to leave. She simply cannot get along with maid and keep finding fault with the maid knowing jolly well that she herself also don't know how to take care of my baby. I quarrel with her over the maid issue and I sent the maid back as the last ultimatum. We have not been on talking terms since my gal was 5 mths old until now. That explains why my gal ended up being looked after by my auntie when she was 5 mths old. Since the 2nd one is coming along, my husband has been bugging me that we need a maid to cope but deep inside me, I am really really very reluctant to get a maid and don't want to clash with my mil again. I thought of asking my mum to quit her job and look after both of them as she's staying in bukit panjang, but my husband don't see eye to eye with the way my mum takes care of my gal, so to him getting my mum to take care of them is out, so that puts me in a very difficult position. My auntie, tho she's a babysitter, cannot handle my 2nd one that's coming, as she also currently taking care of another 4 yrs old boy day & night. So she's not able to help me take care of my 2nd one. My husband also don't want to let my older gal goes to childcare when she reaches 18 mths as he thinks he's still too young and will fall sick easily. Sigh, so I am really in a dilema as to how to handle when my 2nd one comes. He also wants to bring the children back every night, don't like the idea of not able to see them. Experienced mums out there, pls advise me what can I do? Do I really have to get a maid? Appreciate very much.
Hi,
I think your husband is not helping much by shooting down every possible solution. If he don't like this and don't like that, ask him to think of a solution.
My son (currently 6 months) and daughter was born 19 months apart. It is really not easy looking after a baby and a toddler.
I will suggest still hiring a maid. The maid will go to your aunt's place everyday with the kids and come home at night provided your aunite do not mind. Since your husband wanted a maid, he is responsible to talk to his mum and solve any issues later on. You just stand aside and take good care of yourself.
I don't really like man hiding behind their wife, refuse to make decision and expect everything to fall into place and all their wishes taken care of at the same time. There are no such thing as the prefect solution. Maybe need to try out various arrangment when the time comes and fine tune along the way.
Sorry if I sound too harsh.
I think your husband is not helping much by shooting down every possible solution. If he don't like this and don't like that, ask him to think of a solution.
My son (currently 6 months) and daughter was born 19 months apart. It is really not easy looking after a baby and a toddler.
I will suggest still hiring a maid. The maid will go to your aunt's place everyday with the kids and come home at night provided your aunite do not mind. Since your husband wanted a maid, he is responsible to talk to his mum and solve any issues later on. You just stand aside and take good care of yourself.
I don't really like man hiding behind their wife, refuse to make decision and expect everything to fall into place and all their wishes taken care of at the same time. There are no such thing as the prefect solution. Maybe need to try out various arrangment when the time comes and fine tune along the way.
Sorry if I sound too harsh.
hi Corinne, lucky u dat urs kids are 18mos apart...mine is only 11.5mos apart..now my boy is 14.5mos & my girl is 3mos..reali hectic for my mom so i no choice but hired a maid to help her whom will be helping me care both in the day while i'm back at work in 2 weeks time...haiz... actually if i'm u i'll put my elder kid in childcare...coz for his age 18mos...u can actually put him in childcare...coz u mentioned u got a bad exp in hiring maids right?..if u afraid he cant adapt..u can try half day..i tink it will be good as he can learn and mingle ard..moreover the fee is almost same as hiring a maid...
pinksunnysummer
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I have a one month old and a 19month old. Need to ask all mommies here- How do you deal with the guilt or how do you balance your attention btw the 2 of them?
I have a maid (and also a confinement nanny for 3mths) but I feel so bad when I leave one or the other with the helpers. I want to sayang them myself as much as possible but now time has to be divided 50/50...
I have a maid (and also a confinement nanny for 3mths) but I feel so bad when I leave one or the other with the helpers. I want to sayang them myself as much as possible but now time has to be divided 50/50...
Hi mummies
My boys are 17 mths apart... the elder one is 20mths and younger one is slightly over 3mths.
Will be returning work in 3 wks time and coz I'm facing problems w maids, so considering giving up on maids and finding alternative caregiver for my kids.
Both my MIL and mum's health is not well enuf for me to put both my kids with them. Currently coz I've a maid, the maid will go my mum's place w the kids and take care of them there. But since now I want to drop the maid, do anybody out there have alternative suggestions? Are there any child care centres that take in toddlers at any time, rather than waiting for next intake which I think is this year-end? Coz if my elder boy goes full-day child care, it may b a little bit manageable for my mum to look after the younger boy.
Also, does any moms here feels bad when you first bring your toddler to child care? How do you overcome this feeling? At the child care, he may not get the 100% attention as he could get at home though I know he can learn more and get to play when he's in child care.
My boys are 17 mths apart... the elder one is 20mths and younger one is slightly over 3mths.
Will be returning work in 3 wks time and coz I'm facing problems w maids, so considering giving up on maids and finding alternative caregiver for my kids.
Both my MIL and mum's health is not well enuf for me to put both my kids with them. Currently coz I've a maid, the maid will go my mum's place w the kids and take care of them there. But since now I want to drop the maid, do anybody out there have alternative suggestions? Are there any child care centres that take in toddlers at any time, rather than waiting for next intake which I think is this year-end? Coz if my elder boy goes full-day child care, it may b a little bit manageable for my mum to look after the younger boy.
Also, does any moms here feels bad when you first bring your toddler to child care? How do you overcome this feeling? At the child care, he may not get the 100% attention as he could get at home though I know he can learn more and get to play when he's in child care.
Hi Pinksunnysummer,
Hope my this time, you already realised that a mummy's heart can be very big and love is always enough to go around.
I have 3 kids and the elder 2 know that I love them alot. I just ensure that i spent time alone with them everyday. During those time together, I give them all my attention. Hence, they are happy to play alone or do not cry for me when they saw me with their siblings.
Hope my this time, you already realised that a mummy's heart can be very big and love is always enough to go around.
I have 3 kids and the elder 2 know that I love them alot. I just ensure that i spent time alone with them everyday. During those time together, I give them all my attention. Hence, they are happy to play alone or do not cry for me when they saw me with their siblings.
Hi Connie,
Sometimes as mummies, we need to learn to let go. The moment they take their first step, they are already starting their own journey in life.
my son was 3 when he went to nursery, I was very proud when he told me he do not need me to come along anymore on the second day of school. Sad at the same times cos my little baby no longer need me as much as before.
All these are just part of them growing up. Being in the childcare is not that bad. Just ensure that you spent good time with him when he is back at home. I once read a book by a mummy, she said let them face the tough world outside so that they learn to take care of themselves. But provide your opened arms so that they know that if they failed, there will always a place called home
Sometimes as mummies, we need to learn to let go. The moment they take their first step, they are already starting their own journey in life.
my son was 3 when he went to nursery, I was very proud when he told me he do not need me to come along anymore on the second day of school. Sad at the same times cos my little baby no longer need me as much as before.
All these are just part of them growing up. Being in the childcare is not that bad. Just ensure that you spent good time with him when he is back at home. I once read a book by a mummy, she said let them face the tough world outside so that they learn to take care of themselves. But provide your opened arms so that they know that if they failed, there will always a place called home
red tulip,
I agree with u... a mother's heart is so big. When I had my first boy and was preggie with my girl when he was 7 months old, I felt guilty too, worried how can I balance etc. and always wonder I love my firstborn so much... do I have a capacity to love another.
But, right now, even with no.3, I know that in my heart, I love all 3 just so much... as much as I ever loved my firstborn. And I try my best to spend time with individual child, so that none will feel left out as much as possible. Our time is limited coupled with the hours spent working, but when we genuinely love them with all our heart, I think somehow our children can sense it.
I agree with u... a mother's heart is so big. When I had my first boy and was preggie with my girl when he was 7 months old, I felt guilty too, worried how can I balance etc. and always wonder I love my firstborn so much... do I have a capacity to love another.
But, right now, even with no.3, I know that in my heart, I love all 3 just so much... as much as I ever loved my firstborn. And I try my best to spend time with individual child, so that none will feel left out as much as possible. Our time is limited coupled with the hours spent working, but when we genuinely love them with all our heart, I think somehow our children can sense it.
Hi Poohy,
Yes, my aim is to provide a good family enviroment for them to grow up and love each other.
I had a wonderful time yesterday playing with my elder son and the 7 months old baby. We pretended to shoot each other with "guns" and the baby loves it. I think it is really one small step towards ensuing that they get along and learn to share and care each other.
Yes, my aim is to provide a good family enviroment for them to grow up and love each other.
I had a wonderful time yesterday playing with my elder son and the 7 months old baby. We pretended to shoot each other with "guns" and the baby loves it. I think it is really one small step towards ensuing that they get along and learn to share and care each other.
both my kids were sent to infantcare at about 2.5 months' old - my eldest is now in nursery and my youngest will be graduating to toddler this year.
when i was pregnant with my no.1, my mom has already told me that she cannot cope taking care of my child as she's already looking after my nephew. she's also not in the best of health and since we are not keen in having a live-in maid (we have a part-time cleaner instead), childcare was the solution.
it wasn't so difficult for me to let them go to childcare - it is in the same building as my office so the girls practically go to 'work' with me in the mornings .. hahahaha ..
plus i think it was better for them to socialise with children their age, with adults (their teachers) and learn/play instead of watching drama serials/ cartoons on tv all day long.
you can have activities for both children to participate in - like painting, or going to water parks. this way you can spend time with both of them and it won't feel like you're choosing one over the other. my eldest loves blowing bubbles and since the youngest just goes along with whatever the eldest does, their dad will bring them down to the field on weekends to blow bubbles ..
when i was pregnant with my no.1, my mom has already told me that she cannot cope taking care of my child as she's already looking after my nephew. she's also not in the best of health and since we are not keen in having a live-in maid (we have a part-time cleaner instead), childcare was the solution.
it wasn't so difficult for me to let them go to childcare - it is in the same building as my office so the girls practically go to 'work' with me in the mornings .. hahahaha ..
plus i think it was better for them to socialise with children their age, with adults (their teachers) and learn/play instead of watching drama serials/ cartoons on tv all day long.
you can have activities for both children to participate in - like painting, or going to water parks. this way you can spend time with both of them and it won't feel like you're choosing one over the other. my eldest loves blowing bubbles and since the youngest just goes along with whatever the eldest does, their dad will bring them down to the field on weekends to blow bubbles ..
