If u have not seek help from a fertility dr pls do it. Ivf is not as scary as u thought to be. If u have already done everything u could including ivf would u consider adoption?
A ttc fren send me an email when she was diagnosed with breast cancer while trying so hard for a child n she knows I am still struggling to have kids.
I would like to share her msg with u.....
There are some things I dearly want to tell you. The first message is that while dealing with infertility, I spent so much time being unhappy. Infertility is not actually the inability to create pregnancy, it is the neurotic self-doubt, the longing, pain and unhappiness that we put ourselves through. It was consuming and I think it depressed me. Please don't be unhappy. I know, I've been there, I know how gutted it feels, I know it's easier to say than to feel.
Please believe me that I now realize I had my health, I was whole and I had everything I needed to be happy. I could have put the energy toward learning new skills, or helping other people. Now, forget charity because you become the charity.
I want you to celebrate your day, every day because you are perfect. Don't invite things in to make it any less so. I wish that we had embraced infertility as an opportunity to live an awesome, different long life way to build our family. Instead of trying so hard, to not be so different. I wish we'd left the door open for possibility, instead of trying to close it so firmly on infertility because we were worried about time.
there are things you can do differently and I really hope you do. we really never talk about this much and it is so painful for me to talk about it, even with you but I hope that you will do something for the good of more women out there who may be in similar situations that we were.
I don't have a plan, I don't know if I'm allowed one, but I have to keep pressing on and that God will show me the way.