Husband not supportive emotionally/physically

[Webearbears]

I'm in my 2nd tri. Married for 2 years. Prior to conceiving, my husband and I were happy to have a baby. He would talk about how he would do this and that for the baby. I'm pregnant now & he mentioned hes has depression due to him not getting his dream job, but hes still employed and supporting us financially. He mentioned he needs some space from me as all he does is work and come home to me. I feel so alone in this journey. Not sure if he will be back to normal he mentioned he has some trust issues with me due to us breaking up a year before we got married due to some trivial issues and is scared that I will leave him again. I have reassured him that I don't believe a child should be brought to this world with a broken marriage yet he is silent. Now I'm pregnant and he dosent reply to my messages, come to visit me. I have said sorry countless amount of times yet it feels like I'm talking to the wall. Should I involve his parents? So so upset I didnt plan on my pregnancy and to be like this.


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[Stansy]

I'm in my 2nd tri. Married for 2 years. Prior to conceiving, my husband and I were happy to have a baby. He would talk about how he would do this and that for the baby. I'm pregnant now & he mentioned hes has depression due to him not getting his dream job, but hes still employed and supporting us financially. He mentioned he needs some space from me as all he does is work and come home to me. I feel so alone in this journey. Not sure if he will be back to normal he mentioned he has some trust issues with me due to us breaking up a year before we got married due to some trivial issues and is scared that I will leave him again. I have reassured him that I don't believe a child should be brought to this world with a broken marriage yet he is silent. Now I'm pregnant and he dosent reply to my messages, come to visit me. I have said sorry countless amount of times yet it feels like I'm talking to the wall. Should I involve his parents? So so upset I didnt plan on my pregnancy and to be like this.


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Why is there a sudden changed in his behaviour? To be honest, personally I think is just a lame excuse of being upset for not getting his dream job and now being insecure due to past broke up which was along and was thrilled about setting up a family but yet now his action is otherwise??

 

[Webearbears]

Why is there a sudden changed in his behaviour? To be honest, personally I think is just a lame excuse of being upset for not getting his dream job and now being insecure due to past broke up which was along and was thrilled about setting up a family but yet now his action is otherwise??

Thats the thing I dont understand. Now he has mentioned he is not so sure of us anymore. I feel so lost and I'm pregnant.


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[Stansy]

Thats the thing I dont understand. Now he has mentioned he is not so sure of us anymore. I feel so lost and I'm pregnant.


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This is strange. Do you notice any unusual behaviour or are you suspecting of anything else? To be honest, I do t know both of you at all and it wld be good if you speak to any of your closest frens/relatives for advice

 

[KelGen]

Indeed strange and weird for him behaving this way... Especially it's just 2yrs after married... How long you both were together before marriage? You/He have any 'ex' in the past?

In some way I feel he regretted about having a child, and/or some things 'outside' lure him. Probably he does not have enough 'fun' yet, hence behaving this way. Have an open talk with him, and see if he will/is willing to share all about what he have been going through with you.

 

[Anni.arra]

Indeed strange and weird for him behaving this way... Especially it's just 2yrs after married... How long you both were together before marriage? You/He have any 'ex' in the past?

In some way I feel he regretted about having a child, and/or some things 'outside' lure him. Probably he does not have enough 'fun' yet, hence behaving this way. Have an open talk with him, and see if he will/is willing to share all about what he have been going through with you.

totaly agree.

 

[MoeLanYong]

He has got a love interest outside.

 

[Scarlett92]

I am sorry you are facing this. Since he mentioned depression, counseling could help him or both of you. Involving parents might add pressure, so maybe try that first. Also, make sure you have support from friends or groups for yourself.

 

[Mongkok]

Don't use a child as a hostage.

He is in love with someone. that someone isn't you.