mummytoh84
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We have been together for 15years. I have a sec 1 boy and 2 girls. We have been always living happily for the past 13years. The reason is mainly because I compromise a lot. I always think since we are husband and wife, I dont want to be too gek gao.
I work, do all the housework on wkends, Im lucky my mum helps me on the wkdays. I teach the kids hmk, remember their schedules etc etc. I help my husband do his stuff as well. He even depends on me to remember to pay his HP bill. But my husband just look at his ipad whenever he finishes his meals. Thats how dependent my family is on me.
Recently, he has been pestering me to upgrade to a condo. We are 9years apart. Our combined income is about 14.5k. I am living in a HDB with only 4years loan left. I just want a simple life. I want to clear my HDB loan and thats it. I do not wish to upgrade further.
But his idea of upgrading is to just upgrade to a penthouse. He says his dream is to have a home with roof terrace. Any cheapest PH in Singapore is easily 1.3mil. Now because of this, we have quarrelled many times because I do not wish to take up a 1mil bank loan and pay $4k each month. He is now not talking to me because he cannot relieve his dream. He also feels that the older he gets, the harder it is for him to get a bank loan. I honestly now think he's obsessed with getting his dream 'home'.
What is home? I always thought a home is to live happily together after. Even after I have done so much for the family, he is upset or even blaming me to not get a condo together. I do not understand why upgrading is so important.
Today he asked me what is my objective in life. Are we expected to live like that for another 10years? I dont understand whats wrong with living in my comfortable home for the next 10years?? And I told him i do not have any objective. Everyday I'm just dealing with daily issues. Whether the kids finish hmk, whether they need my help on anything, on my work etc. My dream is to travel around when the kids are older.
Now the question is, since we have different goals and he doesnt appreciate anything I've done, should I move on alone with the kids?
Anyone in the same situation?
I work, do all the housework on wkends, Im lucky my mum helps me on the wkdays. I teach the kids hmk, remember their schedules etc etc. I help my husband do his stuff as well. He even depends on me to remember to pay his HP bill. But my husband just look at his ipad whenever he finishes his meals. Thats how dependent my family is on me.
Recently, he has been pestering me to upgrade to a condo. We are 9years apart. Our combined income is about 14.5k. I am living in a HDB with only 4years loan left. I just want a simple life. I want to clear my HDB loan and thats it. I do not wish to upgrade further.
But his idea of upgrading is to just upgrade to a penthouse. He says his dream is to have a home with roof terrace. Any cheapest PH in Singapore is easily 1.3mil. Now because of this, we have quarrelled many times because I do not wish to take up a 1mil bank loan and pay $4k each month. He is now not talking to me because he cannot relieve his dream. He also feels that the older he gets, the harder it is for him to get a bank loan. I honestly now think he's obsessed with getting his dream 'home'.
What is home? I always thought a home is to live happily together after. Even after I have done so much for the family, he is upset or even blaming me to not get a condo together. I do not understand why upgrading is so important.
Today he asked me what is my objective in life. Are we expected to live like that for another 10years? I dont understand whats wrong with living in my comfortable home for the next 10years?? And I told him i do not have any objective. Everyday I'm just dealing with daily issues. Whether the kids finish hmk, whether they need my help on anything, on my work etc. My dream is to travel around when the kids are older.
Now the question is, since we have different goals and he doesnt appreciate anything I've done, should I move on alone with the kids?
Anyone in the same situation?