VenusMummy
New Member
Hi mummies, I don't know who can I turn to but to seek some advices here. I am very very tired about my marriage and seeing counselors (we have tried 3 different counselors so far) don't help much. In fact I think there's nothing much that counselors can do, what they usually advice are too generic and don't really address to our real problems.
My hub and I can't seem to communicate properly and whenever there are conflicts, his standard reply will be "lets divorce". He has mentioned the word Divorce in almost every argument we have and I am really sick and tired of talking to him. We don't have much topics in the first place and most of the time our topics revolves around our son. Frankly speaking, I don't think there is anymore love in the marriage and we are both holding on for the sake of our son.
Seriously, I do consider divorcing, since he mentions so often. But I am not sure what would my life be like after divorcing. Most importantly, my family are not the supportive sort so most likely my son's care & control will be under his side if we were to divorce. I don't think I have the financial means to rent a place for my son and I, adding to that, my son is quite hard to handle at night thus I don't think there would be any landlords who are "kind" enough to tolerate him.
Currently, we are living separately (actually no difference to separation), I am staying with my parents while my son and hub are staying at my in-laws' place. Weekends either I will bring my son back to my parents place during daytime (and send him back in the evening) or go up to their place to take care of him. We do have a bto flat that will only be ready in 2019. But I guess another set of problems will bound to arise when we are living together. We can't even resolve conflicts in peace, how to even live together?
I am not sure about how other married couples resolves conflicts with each other. Is there any ways to better communicate / solve issues together without hurting the marriage? I am really not happy with my marriage and sometimes I just want to escape from the whole situation as I can't see a future living with this person.
My hub and I can't seem to communicate properly and whenever there are conflicts, his standard reply will be "lets divorce". He has mentioned the word Divorce in almost every argument we have and I am really sick and tired of talking to him. We don't have much topics in the first place and most of the time our topics revolves around our son. Frankly speaking, I don't think there is anymore love in the marriage and we are both holding on for the sake of our son.
Seriously, I do consider divorcing, since he mentions so often. But I am not sure what would my life be like after divorcing. Most importantly, my family are not the supportive sort so most likely my son's care & control will be under his side if we were to divorce. I don't think I have the financial means to rent a place for my son and I, adding to that, my son is quite hard to handle at night thus I don't think there would be any landlords who are "kind" enough to tolerate him.
Currently, we are living separately (actually no difference to separation), I am staying with my parents while my son and hub are staying at my in-laws' place. Weekends either I will bring my son back to my parents place during daytime (and send him back in the evening) or go up to their place to take care of him. We do have a bto flat that will only be ready in 2019. But I guess another set of problems will bound to arise when we are living together. We can't even resolve conflicts in peace, how to even live together?
I am not sure about how other married couples resolves conflicts with each other. Is there any ways to better communicate / solve issues together without hurting the marriage? I am really not happy with my marriage and sometimes I just want to escape from the whole situation as I can't see a future living with this person.