sweetmartini
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I wish to warn all mothers to be here to be careful in engaging the use of confinement lady. I have one who's real name is YONG NYUK YIN alias Antie Irene from malaysia Sabah (malaysia number 60168029823, singapore number 81486751. I am actually the husband using my wife account to relate the incident. I do not like to complain or bad mouth anyone BUT IF SOMEONES INEGRITY is to be questioned, i feel people need to be warned. At the end of the day it is OUR HARD EARN MONEY and engaging a confinement maid is not cheap . HEr rate was 4000 due to the chinese new year period and twins, thats the pay of a graduate in singapore! BTW we got her contact from this forum (anyway one man's meat is another man's poison)
Why do i say intergrity problem? the story goes like this on 2010 december 31st, my wife received a call from her saying that she was robbed in Marseling and all her passpost and money was stolen and she needed money because she was robbed!. My wife was 34weeks pregant and with the tummy went to meet her to pass her 400 dollars since she needed the money to go home. Anyway we wanted her to go home so we dint mind take is as advance payment anyway , Mind you just one month ago we paid her 800 as deposit, so total we paid her 1200 even before ahe started work. This will set the stage for LATER
So when my wife delivered on 29/1/11, we called her to come on 1/2/11 but last min the babies cannot be discharged duw to jaundice so we changed to 4/2/11 but she say she wanted to stay for CNY at home. But i was paying her a surcharge for the CNY period. Anyway we said Ok because i want the nanny to be happy so she came on 5/2/11.
That is when the nightmare began and how i know she "con" our money , but she keep insisting she did not. (for a guy typing this YOU MUst be wondering i am a complain KING RIGHT , trust me my work email is not even this long, i am fuelled by extreme anger and disappointment)
day 1: she came coughing and sick, she said she was sick since the pass 5 days, anyway i say OK lah we cannot be mean right but you must WEAR A MASK when feeding the babies. (ISnt that too much to ask ? the first feeding she was coughing straight into my babies face, even cough into my face i also dont like right? So the first day she wear, at night when i woke up i saw her feeding without the mask and coughing, i never say anything. The next day she also never wear . SO i tought i dont want to create animosity on the second day right so i offered to bring her to the docters. We went to see a GP during CNY and i paid 90 bucks for her. I told her say rest and i take care and pls wear a mask. From day 2 till day 6 , she never wore a single MASK , btw i bought a whole box of surgical mask
day 2/3 : I have a maid at home , so basically she just need to feed the baby at night and cook for my wife, feeding in the day i am doing and i enjoy doing since i am on leave. She doesnt do any house work. SO i taught her to use the steriliser (philips) twice. i found that she did not sterilised the contents, never mind lah maybe she dont know how to use so i teach her AGAIN. Guess what twice when my wife ask for breast pump to pump milk, she gave us bottles that have residual milk to store the breast milk. When we ask her she say is OUR MAID fault...???NEVER STERILISED NEVER MIND BUT AT LEAST WASH RIGHT!!! i dont think the babies will fall sick even if they drink from non -sterilied bottles but from STALE Milk , they WILL FALL SICK even adults. Then how come she never check , so hard to even see meh? And she has the audacity to raise her voice at my wife and scould her. WAH PIANG......my wife because of her get post natal depression , and the husband also get NANNY depression.
I shall not complain about her food etc. (anyway nothing to shout about ) or her weird habits. i dont want to nit pick on people and who am i to judge whether she feeding the baby properly or changing daipers properly? BUt i think the care of the BABY and HYGIENGE is most important in a confinement MAID, all those food, handling of the kid is SUBJECTIVE.
BUT her hygiene SUCKS and her questionable INTEGRITY. That is what pissed me off. Remember the 1200 we paid in advance and my wife have to drive to MArseling to meet her? she said she lost her wallet , passport etc, So that night my wife called to ask whether she said her customer knew some custom officer that let her go back to malaysia????( WOW SO POWERFUL LEH better than embassy) Anyway we did not follow up. When she came day 2, she asked me to apply for her work permit . GUESS WHAT SHE HAS BOTH her IC And PASSPORT !!! (date of issue 24/04/2007) You mean if you apply new passport , you will get old issue date? So i just mentioned in passing lah, SHE BECAME super defensive like, how i know why they give me old passport!. I think maybe it was that incident that precipitated her BAD to WORST performance, she can dont wake up in the nite, baby cry never respond, WHOLE day on HP ! I tell you she dont even need to do the dishes since i have a maid. Anyway after 6 days of coughing into my baby face (5 in fact since first day she wear ) and her bad working attitude, i decide to let her go. 6 days of work 1200, 90 medical bills, 58 ang pao. And when she left she can tell me things like " i am not going to refund you your money hor" . I think maybe if we dint know that she was lying about the robbing incident we may still have her as a nanny , our mistake was to ask her. How can i hire someone who has integrity ISSUES and made my wife drive so far in her 3rd trimester! and now not at all grateful and scould my wife.
Good riddence she is gone, how can i let someone who is so dishonest to work for me. I came to a conclusion that she needed the money in december was that she was also SACKED by another employer and needed money to go home. My wife doesnt want me to write this since she is the docile kind, but i feel i have the obligation to warned our fellow SINGAPOREANS about dishonest confinement ladies ard, dont fall for such RUSE, maybe they feel that after they collect a huge sum of money , they can be guaranteed employment and that we will not sack her even how bad she is .Pls dont fall for such tricks. 1350 for 6 days , i think she is laughing at us for being so stupid . I think a deposit of 100-200 will surffice and after completion the full amount , or prorated if she leaves early . Just be careful
Why do i say intergrity problem? the story goes like this on 2010 december 31st, my wife received a call from her saying that she was robbed in Marseling and all her passpost and money was stolen and she needed money because she was robbed!. My wife was 34weeks pregant and with the tummy went to meet her to pass her 400 dollars since she needed the money to go home. Anyway we wanted her to go home so we dint mind take is as advance payment anyway , Mind you just one month ago we paid her 800 as deposit, so total we paid her 1200 even before ahe started work. This will set the stage for LATER
So when my wife delivered on 29/1/11, we called her to come on 1/2/11 but last min the babies cannot be discharged duw to jaundice so we changed to 4/2/11 but she say she wanted to stay for CNY at home. But i was paying her a surcharge for the CNY period. Anyway we said Ok because i want the nanny to be happy so she came on 5/2/11.
That is when the nightmare began and how i know she "con" our money , but she keep insisting she did not. (for a guy typing this YOU MUst be wondering i am a complain KING RIGHT , trust me my work email is not even this long, i am fuelled by extreme anger and disappointment)
day 1: she came coughing and sick, she said she was sick since the pass 5 days, anyway i say OK lah we cannot be mean right but you must WEAR A MASK when feeding the babies. (ISnt that too much to ask ? the first feeding she was coughing straight into my babies face, even cough into my face i also dont like right? So the first day she wear, at night when i woke up i saw her feeding without the mask and coughing, i never say anything. The next day she also never wear . SO i tought i dont want to create animosity on the second day right so i offered to bring her to the docters. We went to see a GP during CNY and i paid 90 bucks for her. I told her say rest and i take care and pls wear a mask. From day 2 till day 6 , she never wore a single MASK , btw i bought a whole box of surgical mask
day 2/3 : I have a maid at home , so basically she just need to feed the baby at night and cook for my wife, feeding in the day i am doing and i enjoy doing since i am on leave. She doesnt do any house work. SO i taught her to use the steriliser (philips) twice. i found that she did not sterilised the contents, never mind lah maybe she dont know how to use so i teach her AGAIN. Guess what twice when my wife ask for breast pump to pump milk, she gave us bottles that have residual milk to store the breast milk. When we ask her she say is OUR MAID fault...???NEVER STERILISED NEVER MIND BUT AT LEAST WASH RIGHT!!! i dont think the babies will fall sick even if they drink from non -sterilied bottles but from STALE Milk , they WILL FALL SICK even adults. Then how come she never check , so hard to even see meh? And she has the audacity to raise her voice at my wife and scould her. WAH PIANG......my wife because of her get post natal depression , and the husband also get NANNY depression.
I shall not complain about her food etc. (anyway nothing to shout about ) or her weird habits. i dont want to nit pick on people and who am i to judge whether she feeding the baby properly or changing daipers properly? BUt i think the care of the BABY and HYGIENGE is most important in a confinement MAID, all those food, handling of the kid is SUBJECTIVE.
BUT her hygiene SUCKS and her questionable INTEGRITY. That is what pissed me off. Remember the 1200 we paid in advance and my wife have to drive to MArseling to meet her? she said she lost her wallet , passport etc, So that night my wife called to ask whether she said her customer knew some custom officer that let her go back to malaysia????( WOW SO POWERFUL LEH better than embassy) Anyway we did not follow up. When she came day 2, she asked me to apply for her work permit . GUESS WHAT SHE HAS BOTH her IC And PASSPORT !!! (date of issue 24/04/2007) You mean if you apply new passport , you will get old issue date? So i just mentioned in passing lah, SHE BECAME super defensive like, how i know why they give me old passport!. I think maybe it was that incident that precipitated her BAD to WORST performance, she can dont wake up in the nite, baby cry never respond, WHOLE day on HP ! I tell you she dont even need to do the dishes since i have a maid. Anyway after 6 days of coughing into my baby face (5 in fact since first day she wear ) and her bad working attitude, i decide to let her go. 6 days of work 1200, 90 medical bills, 58 ang pao. And when she left she can tell me things like " i am not going to refund you your money hor" . I think maybe if we dint know that she was lying about the robbing incident we may still have her as a nanny , our mistake was to ask her. How can i hire someone who has integrity ISSUES and made my wife drive so far in her 3rd trimester! and now not at all grateful and scould my wife.
Good riddence she is gone, how can i let someone who is so dishonest to work for me. I came to a conclusion that she needed the money in december was that she was also SACKED by another employer and needed money to go home. My wife doesnt want me to write this since she is the docile kind, but i feel i have the obligation to warned our fellow SINGAPOREANS about dishonest confinement ladies ard, dont fall for such RUSE, maybe they feel that after they collect a huge sum of money , they can be guaranteed employment and that we will not sack her even how bad she is .Pls dont fall for such tricks. 1350 for 6 days , i think she is laughing at us for being so stupid . I think a deposit of 100-200 will surffice and after completion the full amount , or prorated if she leaves early . Just be careful