you are not understanding what i'm saying. i saying "them" showing their true nature after paper is signed is not "entitled" to men only. it is a human personality, not a gender thing.Lots of guys I know, do not show their actual side until the paper is signed and the ship has sailed.
That we agree, but I am refering to them showing their true nature after paper is signed. Nature dun change before and after marriage
I used to think like you. That when a man cheats, must surely 100% be all his fault. But dun think that is the case now. Reason being, there are a variety of reasons why a HB will cheat. Eg lack of spice in relationship, little interaction with wife, change in perception of life, change in person overtime due to life experiences. But while it is still wrong to cheat (not denying that). I am saying, overtime, people change. Some people we thought we used to know became different. Some guys become aged wine. But some, simply became vinegar (LOL). So while you cant totally influence whether it will be wine or vinegar, you can only select the grape before signing to process it. Once you processed the grape, it dosent matter le. So that is how most guys think i suppose?
you are not talking from guy's perspective. you are talking about your perspective.Hi pixie ng,
Agree with you, but I am only talking about from a guy's perspective, cuz I am just here to talk abt guy's mindset and not the women's
Chill, dun get so worked up over this discussion Of course it matters if it is 70/30 or even 50/50. I raise a question to you. So you withnessed a robbery and didnt report. The man who committed the crime, is at fault. You think you are not? You are abetting a crime. Everyone plays a part, albeit small or big if you are a party to it. I guess it is hard for the wife/ ex-wife to agree. Reason being they felt they contributed to the household and gave sacrifices to the household. Some men are really F**k**s i agree, but what i am saying is. wives need to negotiate slogging terms even before the beginning of the marriage. Finally, i know i am going to sound like a pr**k if i say this. Dun slog for the wrong man. If you made the wrong choice in the beginning, you cant expect the fairy tale ending 90% of the time.
how do you know this is my perspective and not most men's? and your partner is the equilvalent of most men? I am just sharing, and i wun share if it is just my perspective. Cuz me does not equal the world. How i come to know all this, cuz my guy friends educated to hokkien peng, talks. Not interested to know if your partner hates cheaters or not, (lol) none of the ladies here are married to him
Again, your replies centralise on yourself, which i am not aiming to address whether this is logical to you or not. (not my purpose or issue here with anyways ) Simple reasoning is, it always takes two hands to clap. lets not talk about logic of 2 hands to clap. this is going nowhere
Finally, the part on wussy loser lol. there are many ways to face a problem. Some stand there and dun move. Some go straight on and face it. Well some try to solve it and fail. There are so many ways to face a problem. Who are you to determine which method is a "wussy loser" method? Just because your character likes to go heads on to face problem dosent make you a non-loser. lol. Can i say that your english is garbage so you are a wussy loser?
. A cheater failed in his relationship, but is a successful man in career(let say) can you call him a wussy loser? He is not. He is simply a cheater. That's all.
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Takes two hands to clap... dun be too quick to throw names around... end results matter. .. if in the end, the two cheaters are happy together and the victim wife finds a better hubby... alls well ends well... end result counts... not the journey
i think you do not understand what is liang xin.....Liang xin is intangible. .. if we ladies have liang xin, then we wun keng MCs, abuse child care leave, pump milk at our own sweet time during work, gossip behind people's back, black face to in laws etc etc
no one is a holy person (maybe there is but i duno him/her). at times we will keng MC, take own sweet time to squeeze breast milk, gossip behind people's back, black face in front of inlaw. bottomline am i hurting anyone? will i want someone to do the same thing i did to him/her? when chasing and attaining our own happiness, am i destroying other happiness to get mine?Do share, gal.
Good answer!
I just pray that in your work, u wont come across female colleagues who freely take MCs, hog the nursing room, take urgent leave using children or pregnancy pains as excuse. .. gosh. .. hate that bitch who slapped her mother twice... how could she do that! !
u still dun understand....Liang xin cant be subjectively applied.. dun need liang xin at work and when being a daughter in law. But need liang xin in a love relationship? Hmmmmm... too subjective
ya, that why i post the image which very clear explain it all...I feel, the thing here is. the clear conscience way may or may not be the way that works for everyone. Some people need clear conscience to live happily while some dont. But one thing is for certain, there is no right and wrong. And clear conscience is subjective. To some men, clear conscience could be (on extreme end of example), coming home everynight and bringing money back to family and what he does outside dosent matter. But to some, it could be no affairs, loving father and etc then considered clear conscience. So.... yeah....
all government bodies is like tat...Eh, talking about MCs, I need some advice. I have this fren who is a HR staff in MINDEF. As we all know, civil servants survive on tax payers $$... this fren of mine is 5 months into her pregnancy. .. but she has been taking MCs freely, even had to cheek to share that after her delivery she will take 1 year no pay leave. She is confident that come one year later, she can still transfer to another department. .. I really really wanna report her.. basket... civil servant taking things for granted