serenelee88
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Steph,
I have an aunt who is very good term with the DIL. I had asked her how did she do that... She told me she don't believe in generation gap. What she believe between the relationship is respect and trust.
She always make sure she ask whenever she takes/throw/eat anything at her son's house. This is always overlook by the senior and elderly, as they always think that "this is my son's hse, why can't I take/eat anything freely". but they forgotten this is called "manners". Everyone should behave with good manners no matter who you are. We brought the child up with manners yet we behave with no manners when we are old... what will the younger generation see on us?
Trust has to be developed and earned. My aunt told me I am angry at my MIL on eating my bird's nest (actually this is a very minor issue) is because I trust her that she won't eat without my consent. But she betrayed your trust not only once but many times... my dislike of her have been developed through the yrs.
It's very difficult for her to earn back my trust now, so she advice me to avoid any conflicts with her by doing it infront of my hubby. If my hubby is still at work, wait for him to come back.
So I believe, if we keep an open mind, we can be sure we'r not the same as our MIL.
I have an aunt who is very good term with the DIL. I had asked her how did she do that... She told me she don't believe in generation gap. What she believe between the relationship is respect and trust.
She always make sure she ask whenever she takes/throw/eat anything at her son's house. This is always overlook by the senior and elderly, as they always think that "this is my son's hse, why can't I take/eat anything freely". but they forgotten this is called "manners". Everyone should behave with good manners no matter who you are. We brought the child up with manners yet we behave with no manners when we are old... what will the younger generation see on us?
Trust has to be developed and earned. My aunt told me I am angry at my MIL on eating my bird's nest (actually this is a very minor issue) is because I trust her that she won't eat without my consent. But she betrayed your trust not only once but many times... my dislike of her have been developed through the yrs.
It's very difficult for her to earn back my trust now, so she advice me to avoid any conflicts with her by doing it infront of my hubby. If my hubby is still at work, wait for him to come back.
So I believe, if we keep an open mind, we can be sure we'r not the same as our MIL.