Heavy Heart
New Member
Hi, thanking anyone who can give a good piece of advice in advance.
I'm at my wits end. I am the sole bread winner for my house of 4 for 4 years now. My hubby doesn't earn a cent. He said he'll help with the household chores. But lately, he has not been happy helping out with household chores. He had hoped to earn from online trading but has never been successful for years. But he still bears the hope to accomplish in that arena. He thinks that there's no way out for him cos he has stopped work for many many years, so doing online trading is the only way out for him.
Now we are in this chicken and egg situation. We think we will be financial very tight if we get a helper to help with household chores so that he can try his trade again. But if we do not get a helper, he finds it hard to find time to perfect his trade cos he is laid down by the chores and taking care of the baby.
So this headache is getting him in a foul mood lately. And he is asking me to help him. But whatever suggestion I gave him, he puts it down and say I'm not helping. I told him to take a day off, let me handle the kids. He said he'll still think of how tired I will be juggling my work and the kids. I told him to read some inspirational books, he said it's not a good help. I told him to change his perception and don't be so uptight on things, he said he knows what's wrong with him, he doesn't need me to tell him that, he just need me to find a way to help him. I told him to seek some cheap and available counseling, he said he wants me to help, not someone else.
Can you give me some ideas how I can help him? It's all in his mind. He needs to change his mindset. How can I help?
I'm at my wits end. I am the sole bread winner for my house of 4 for 4 years now. My hubby doesn't earn a cent. He said he'll help with the household chores. But lately, he has not been happy helping out with household chores. He had hoped to earn from online trading but has never been successful for years. But he still bears the hope to accomplish in that arena. He thinks that there's no way out for him cos he has stopped work for many many years, so doing online trading is the only way out for him.
Now we are in this chicken and egg situation. We think we will be financial very tight if we get a helper to help with household chores so that he can try his trade again. But if we do not get a helper, he finds it hard to find time to perfect his trade cos he is laid down by the chores and taking care of the baby.
So this headache is getting him in a foul mood lately. And he is asking me to help him. But whatever suggestion I gave him, he puts it down and say I'm not helping. I told him to take a day off, let me handle the kids. He said he'll still think of how tired I will be juggling my work and the kids. I told him to read some inspirational books, he said it's not a good help. I told him to change his perception and don't be so uptight on things, he said he knows what's wrong with him, he doesn't need me to tell him that, he just need me to find a way to help him. I told him to seek some cheap and available counseling, he said he wants me to help, not someone else.
Can you give me some ideas how I can help him? It's all in his mind. He needs to change his mindset. How can I help?