Victoria Ching 088
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Oh my. I though I am the only one who is suffering in silent with fail marriage. The thing is for my case, he changed to a different man after my girl turn 3YO. He keep things to himself and unwilling to communicate. Thing got worst when recently he has some court case involved in his traffic accident. He claims that I am not a unsupportive wife when he is at his weakness and when he need support. He say that I am very VERY VERY WEAK! All i know is cry and cry! He sick to see my face! How hurting can these words be? Only i know how deep these words cuts into my heart. He feel that in a lot of things he expect me to solve it myself YET I have to go and hassle him when he is so vexed with his own matters. He claims that I am not understanding to him that why there is no point talking to me. He say our communication break down long ago. He says that our way of handling things, our temper, our vision, of character is so different. He say he envy other couple that husband haven't even say, the wife already know what he wants to do and say.
He says that there is nothing to talk and relate to me anymore. Things has comes to this stage and I have to accept it.
I told him yes I may fail my duty as a wife but that is because I am too focus in my role as a mum and that is because I so tired. I have no family support, my girl goes to CC and fall sick very often. Plus my full time job is demanding. And daily I need to rush to send and pick my girl up from cc and rush home to cook for her, feed her, bath her, prep her sleep, wash her uniforms, pack her school bags, after that do some housework like mopping the floor, tidy the house. I am so so tired already by the end of the day EVERYDAY. We have no helper. He is also the type that never look into details, so whatever what used up in the house, i have to take note and replace them too. I admit I may have neglected him but I though he understands my pleads where he don't help out much at home! But I always appreciate the thing he does help up is on Laundry washing (which he volunteer to do it since the day I preggy) . He say I should be appreciative that he still helps. And I never say I am not. But maybe we woman sometimes just hope the daddy to do abit more and spend more quality time with their child. But all he came home daily is just eat, watch TV, play his phone. On weekends, he just do the same, Eat, TV, ipad, Sleep. So i did nag at him and show him my unhappiness at this area esp see our girl so distant and dun want daddy! everything wants me! Then He say he need to recharged too and say that I did not give him freedom. But since I know when things come to this stage is partly my fault too and I told him that why not we start all over again, to erase the past and work on our marriage and start afresh. But all he do is to look away and refuse to say anything to me. I am so hurt, i want to do something to salvage this marriage but he again and again hurt me with his action and words. I took care of this family whole heart and i never expect he did this to me.
He says that there is nothing to talk and relate to me anymore. Things has comes to this stage and I have to accept it.
I told him yes I may fail my duty as a wife but that is because I am too focus in my role as a mum and that is because I so tired. I have no family support, my girl goes to CC and fall sick very often. Plus my full time job is demanding. And daily I need to rush to send and pick my girl up from cc and rush home to cook for her, feed her, bath her, prep her sleep, wash her uniforms, pack her school bags, after that do some housework like mopping the floor, tidy the house. I am so so tired already by the end of the day EVERYDAY. We have no helper. He is also the type that never look into details, so whatever what used up in the house, i have to take note and replace them too. I admit I may have neglected him but I though he understands my pleads where he don't help out much at home! But I always appreciate the thing he does help up is on Laundry washing (which he volunteer to do it since the day I preggy) . He say I should be appreciative that he still helps. And I never say I am not. But maybe we woman sometimes just hope the daddy to do abit more and spend more quality time with their child. But all he came home daily is just eat, watch TV, play his phone. On weekends, he just do the same, Eat, TV, ipad, Sleep. So i did nag at him and show him my unhappiness at this area esp see our girl so distant and dun want daddy! everything wants me! Then He say he need to recharged too and say that I did not give him freedom. But since I know when things come to this stage is partly my fault too and I told him that why not we start all over again, to erase the past and work on our marriage and start afresh. But all he do is to look away and refuse to say anything to me. I am so hurt, i want to do something to salvage this marriage but he again and again hurt me with his action and words. I took care of this family whole heart and i never expect he did this to me.