Hi can anybody share their experience for similar case?
I'm divorcing my husband basing on his unreasonable behaviour. Long story. All about money, intimacy, children, in laws etc. I do not know if he has an affair. After all, we did not have sex for a long time and he is super desperate. He did say that he will go out and look for his happiness before.
His argument is that we did not have enough intimacy, that I keep saying that he is useless, idiot etc, that I do not respect him and his family.
So now, about our children custody, flat and alimony.
1. Our kids. We have 3 kids, girl age 5 and a pair of twin boys age 2 this year. Girl is in childcare and boys taken care of by my mother and our helper, who is leaving in June. Midnight and weekends, I'm the one to look after the kids all these years. My husband only helped out like occationally over these 5 years and mostly short durations. I am the one to educate and discipline them. He wants to try to fight for the kids, arguing that he is a responsible father as he has put all his income into the family and he did help out in them. He says his family background is better as his mum is rich and his sister and brother in law earns about $20k/month in total. As for me, my family is an average family, dad taxi driver, my siblings earn average income of $3k-$6k. As for ourselves, he holds a diploma in pastry while myself, a degree in banking and finance. Does he have any chance of getting their custody?
2. 5-room HDB flat. His mum paid for the downpayment and renovation of the flat, total to about $40-$50k. He used his CPF to pay for the flat over the years. As I don't contribute to CPF, I do not contribute to the flat in anyway directly. However, our agreement was that he will use his CPF $785 to pay for the flat and contribute $1,600 to joint account while I contribute $2,375 to joint account. Most likely, I'll be having the custody of the kids, and as much as possible, I do not wish to have any changes to the kids life, do not wish to pay more on housing loans, and knowing that he will not be able to pay for high alimony, or that I have to keep asking him to pay for alimony, hence I wish to keep the flat. Besides, it is near to my parents place. However, he and his family refuse to transfer the ownership of the flat to me. Any idea if there is any way or under what kind of circumstances can I keep the flat?
3. Alimony. The breakdown of our monthly expenses is as follows. House expenses including housing loan $1,600. Car $1,800. Children $3,500, including helper and enrichment courses. Total $7,000, including other misc. We got rental income of $1,250. He refuse to pay for car saying that cos I'm the one driving when I drove cos I need to fetch and send my girl to and fro school, cos I'm the one to take care of the kids, cos I need to send to the clinics and go out etc. He cut his car contribution from our joint account and refuse to pay for our girl's enrichment courses, when our agreement was that I teach her at home, he pay for the enrichment courses. He is suppose to pay $3,000/mth, including CPF. He says he is in debt of about $16,000 now, which includes his personal debt. His pay is basic $1,600 + OT. Fluctuates between gross $1,900 to $3,600 per month now. My pay is 100% commission base and average about $3,500. May I ask how much is the reasonable amount of maintenance for the kids? I will reserve my $1 from him. Also, can I get him to repay back all the shortfalls that he did not contribute to the joint account these months?
Thanks for reading and sharing!
I'm divorcing my husband basing on his unreasonable behaviour. Long story. All about money, intimacy, children, in laws etc. I do not know if he has an affair. After all, we did not have sex for a long time and he is super desperate. He did say that he will go out and look for his happiness before.
His argument is that we did not have enough intimacy, that I keep saying that he is useless, idiot etc, that I do not respect him and his family.
So now, about our children custody, flat and alimony.
1. Our kids. We have 3 kids, girl age 5 and a pair of twin boys age 2 this year. Girl is in childcare and boys taken care of by my mother and our helper, who is leaving in June. Midnight and weekends, I'm the one to look after the kids all these years. My husband only helped out like occationally over these 5 years and mostly short durations. I am the one to educate and discipline them. He wants to try to fight for the kids, arguing that he is a responsible father as he has put all his income into the family and he did help out in them. He says his family background is better as his mum is rich and his sister and brother in law earns about $20k/month in total. As for me, my family is an average family, dad taxi driver, my siblings earn average income of $3k-$6k. As for ourselves, he holds a diploma in pastry while myself, a degree in banking and finance. Does he have any chance of getting their custody?
2. 5-room HDB flat. His mum paid for the downpayment and renovation of the flat, total to about $40-$50k. He used his CPF to pay for the flat over the years. As I don't contribute to CPF, I do not contribute to the flat in anyway directly. However, our agreement was that he will use his CPF $785 to pay for the flat and contribute $1,600 to joint account while I contribute $2,375 to joint account. Most likely, I'll be having the custody of the kids, and as much as possible, I do not wish to have any changes to the kids life, do not wish to pay more on housing loans, and knowing that he will not be able to pay for high alimony, or that I have to keep asking him to pay for alimony, hence I wish to keep the flat. Besides, it is near to my parents place. However, he and his family refuse to transfer the ownership of the flat to me. Any idea if there is any way or under what kind of circumstances can I keep the flat?
3. Alimony. The breakdown of our monthly expenses is as follows. House expenses including housing loan $1,600. Car $1,800. Children $3,500, including helper and enrichment courses. Total $7,000, including other misc. We got rental income of $1,250. He refuse to pay for car saying that cos I'm the one driving when I drove cos I need to fetch and send my girl to and fro school, cos I'm the one to take care of the kids, cos I need to send to the clinics and go out etc. He cut his car contribution from our joint account and refuse to pay for our girl's enrichment courses, when our agreement was that I teach her at home, he pay for the enrichment courses. He is suppose to pay $3,000/mth, including CPF. He says he is in debt of about $16,000 now, which includes his personal debt. His pay is basic $1,600 + OT. Fluctuates between gross $1,900 to $3,600 per month now. My pay is 100% commission base and average about $3,500. May I ask how much is the reasonable amount of maintenance for the kids? I will reserve my $1 from him. Also, can I get him to repay back all the shortfalls that he did not contribute to the joint account these months?
Thanks for reading and sharing!