We are TTC. He doesn't smoke in front of me but smokes secretly behind my back. When I confronted, he will guiltily admit. Please understand that he is super loving and caring. He is a good person.
But somehow, smoking makes him a good liar. His family does not know he smokes.
Before we got married, I told him that I do not want a husband who smokes. He said he understood and will try to quit. But after 1 year into our marriage, he still smoke without telling me he does. Sometimes I'll pretend that I don't know.
I am trying so hard to prepare my body for pregnancy. But he does not want to put in effort to lead a healthy lifestyle.
After a false alarm that I'm pregnant, I told him that I decided not to have any kids with him if he doesn't stop smoking. I told him that I am prepared to be childless for life. I don't want to risk our future kids health because of a smoking father and husband.
He said sorry and somehow accepted the fact that we are not going to have kids. Which means, he can happily continue smoking.
But I want to have kids. Why? Why can't he put in the effort to quit and have a family together? Why does he seems like he is placing smoking as his top priority?
Heartbroken.
But somehow, smoking makes him a good liar. His family does not know he smokes.
Before we got married, I told him that I do not want a husband who smokes. He said he understood and will try to quit. But after 1 year into our marriage, he still smoke without telling me he does. Sometimes I'll pretend that I don't know.
I am trying so hard to prepare my body for pregnancy. But he does not want to put in effort to lead a healthy lifestyle.
After a false alarm that I'm pregnant, I told him that I decided not to have any kids with him if he doesn't stop smoking. I told him that I am prepared to be childless for life. I don't want to risk our future kids health because of a smoking father and husband.
He said sorry and somehow accepted the fact that we are not going to have kids. Which means, he can happily continue smoking.
But I want to have kids. Why? Why can't he put in the effort to quit and have a family together? Why does he seems like he is placing smoking as his top priority?
Heartbroken.