trying for no2.

[shigure1234]

hi ladies, I would like to seek some opinion when thinking of trying for no.2

a) my LO is around 18mths, he is quite clingy to me, for instance, at night he only wants me to coax him to sleep, don't want his papa. sometimes need me to carry him to sleep if he has night terror. I am wondering if lets say I am pregnant, how can I still carry him to sleep? During first trimester, cant carry heavy things?

b) how do you all manage kids when u are pregnant? my LO still takes 1 to 2night feed at night. which I still needs to wake up in the middle of the night, if pregnant rest is very important, I worried I may not have enough rest, so how do you manage?

c) currently there is this virus, not sure is it a good time to try for no2 anot. first pregnancy is thru ivf, so 2nd one maybe go for ivf as well.

thanks ladies in advance.

 

[j0yful]

Totally feel you and understand your concerns. My girl (30months soon) is also very clingy and attached to me. Everything also say "I want mummy to do for me" and refuses to let my hub help me with any chore. Even when my hub carry my bag, she shouts and say its mummy's bag papa cannot carry/touch, so i end up have to carry her and my bag. -.-

I recently found out abt my pregnancy, currently 6 weeks. As long as i feel ok, no pain/cramps etc, i will still continue to carry her (she's 13kg now) as much as i can until my tummy is too big and obstruct me from carrying her then i will explain to her why i cant carry her as much and probably offer to hug her more. Cos if we have been carrying them regularly and if your pregnancy is normal, should not be a problem to carry your toddler. My girl's preschool teacher still can carry my girl into the school even at her final weeks of her last trimester. If not carrying for long period of time, should be alright.

I also worry about her night routine if im in the hospital to deliver #2.. cos im the one who shower her, make her milk, help her brush teeth, read her book and tuck her into bed every night now.. I guess every mummy with more than 1 kid been through it so im sure we will also get through it somehow!!

The virus did not make me wanna stop trying for #2 because i dont want my kids to have too big age gap. I have to say my girl was definitely a lot more clingy at 18mths than now, so when your LO is older, will get better because they understand our words more so we can explain to them patiently (and repetitively) and they will be more understanding. Now her night terrors also lesser than before (18mths till 20ish mths still have on and off). And once in a blue moon then will have 1 night feed.
Anyway once become mummy.. is forever tired le. So it will be good if your husband is willing to step up a bit more to help with #1.. at least help you make the milk then u feed.. so u no need to get up and walk about.. any extra help is gd.

Btw, my first pregnancy was conceived through IUI. 2nd pregnancy was naturally conceived. You might want to try natural first then if really not successful after up to 1 year then try IVF? Cos i heard now IVF treatments also suspended due to COVID-19.

Hope my reply helps!

 

[shigure1234]

Totally feel you and understand your concerns. My girl (30months soon) is also very clingy and attached to me. Everything also say "I want mummy to do for me" and refuses to let my hub help me with any chore. Even when my hub carry my bag, she shouts and say its mummy's bag papa cannot carry/touch, so i end up have to carry her and my bag. -.-

I recently found out abt my pregnancy, currently 6 weeks. As long as i feel ok, no pain/cramps etc, i will still continue to carry her (she's 13kg now) as much as i can until my tummy is too big and obstruct me from carrying her then i will explain to her why i cant carry her as much and probably offer to hug her more. Cos if we have been carrying them regularly and if your pregnancy is normal, should not be a problem to carry your toddler. My girl's preschool teacher still can carry my girl into the school even at her final weeks of her last trimester. If not carrying for long period of time, should be alright.

I also worry about her night routine if im in the hospital to deliver #2.. cos im the one who shower her, make her milk, help her brush teeth, read her book and tuck her into bed every night now.. I guess every mummy with more than 1 kid been through it so im sure we will also get through it somehow!!

The virus did not make me wanna stop trying for #2 because i dont want my kids to have too big age gap. I have to say my girl was definitely a lot more clingy at 18mths than now, so when your LO is older, will get better because they understand our words more so we can explain to them patiently (and repetitively) and they will be more understanding. Now her night terrors also lesser than before (18mths till 20ish mths still have on and off). And once in a blue moon then will have 1 night feed.
Anyway once become mummy.. is forever tired le. So it will be good if your husband is willing to step up a bit more to help with #1.. at least help you make the milk then u feed.. so u no need to get up and walk about.. any extra help is gd.

Btw, my first pregnancy was conceived through IUI. 2nd pregnancy was naturally conceived. You might want to try natural first then if really not successful after up to 1 year then try IVF? Cos i heard now IVF treatments also suspended due to COVID-19.

Hope my reply helps!

hi joyful, congrats to you & thanks for your sharing.

ya currently my hub is helping to make the milk then i feed during night feed....but sometimes if my LO is night terror / unwell etc. always wants me to carry him.. as i am quite small size, sometimes i feel i got no strenght to carry him, (he is about 10kg). so i worried this will get worse if i am pregnant.

i rem during my first pregnancy (first trimester) i mostly rest on bed / sit down, & has bad morning sickness.... i guess i would just see how things goes when the time comes..

Jia you together!

 

[j0yful]

I am also considered petite size.. im abt 43-44kg.. so yes i totally get what u mean.. these days i cant even carry my girl out of the car seat easily, or lift her in and out of standing bathtub.

I also had bad morning sickness with #1 and couldnt take public transport to work. Was on HL in first trimester also. But because now we are mother of 1, i guess we will find the strength to bite the bullet and deal with whatever comes along.

Jia you too!!